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Why Your Goals Are Important! How Do You Plan For 2020?

Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they started.”

David Allen

Goals, goals, goals! People think and talk about goals all the time, or at least that is what it seems like. There have been enough articles written about goals and their importance.

It is almost 2020, and it is time to think about 2019, and what you accomplished, and to look forward to what you want to have happen in 2020. Were you able to achieve what you hoped for in 2019? Don’t let it stress you out if you did not finish what you started.

In planning for success in 2020, set some goals

Why? Because goals are important. Even if you feel goals are not important, or you think you have never set any goals; you have. You may not have written them down, but I am pretty certain you have them rambling around in your head

We all have things that are important to us and we would like to make them happen. So, yes, we do spend time thinking about them. Unfortunately, we may not go through the process of setting goals.

That is the problem, and that is why so many articles have been written about why you should set goals. If you do not go through the process of forming and writing down what you want to accomplish, I can almost guarantee that you will never be successful.

You need to set formal goals. It is a process and it is important.

If you continue to let your thoughts ramble around in your head with no structure or direction, that is where they will stay.

“By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands—your own.”

—Mark Victor Hansen

So it is time to sit down and do it!

What Do You Want?

You need to decide what you want to accomplish? The process of taking the time to contemplate what it is we want to happen in our life can be cathartic. How often do we open up to our true feelings and emotions? How often do we acknowledge what we really want?

Spend some time. Most of the time we don’t acknowledge what we truly want. We are too busy, we do not have the confidence, and it is easy to just drift through our life and do what is most comfortable.

By setting goals we are deciding how we want to live our life. We are making a conscience choice instead of leaving our life to chance.

Be Specific

Setting a goal requires us to be specific. For example, you want to save money. What is the total amount? Do want to save that amount in twelve months, or do you want to save it in six months? Divide the amount by the number of months and set a goal of saving that amount each month. How much will you have to put away each week?

When you have a specific goal and you understand what is required to make it happen you are more likely to succeed.

Goals benefit us in many ways.

Provide Clarity

When you set a goal and see it written down and planned out, it makes everything clear. We have gained confidence and can plan each day simply by looking at our goal.


Before we took the time to write down our goals and they were tid-bits of thoughts slooshing around in our mind there was no accountability. There were days when you might not have thought about doing any work to achieve those vague wants and needs.

When you set a goal, you make yourself accountable. You know your goals and you have a plan. You know what you have to do.

Time Saver

When you have goals and have written down a plan it is like having a GPS system that tells you what turn to make and when to make it.

Everything is clear and concise and you don’t have to spend time every day deciding what to do and how to do it.

Look at your goals. It is all mapped out for you.


Each time you set a goal it is making a commitment. It is like writing down an affirmation of how you want to live your life. You, and only you, are responsible for achieving your goals and it motivates you to look at your plan every day.

You are motivated to do well. As you complete portions of your goals and see progress you will gain confidence and find yourself celebrating those small steps completed along the way. It motivates you to keep on track.

Learn Better Skills

By setting goals and making a plan to complete them you may learn new skills or improve the ones you have.

Before you set your goals, and you were randomly thinking about what you would like to do in the future, there was no structure.

When you set goals it is necessary to prioritize what is important. What is my goal? What to I have to do first? Is this really necessary, or can I eliminate it? How long will it take?

You become better at organizing by breaking your goals into steps. Decide what needs to be done first, then second and third.


To summarize setting goals is an effective way to organize your life and be more effective.

You should set both short term and long term goals and keep your goals manageable. Attaining manageable goals leads to setting larger goals for the future.

Your goals are a tangible, written reminder of your priorities. When you make goals a part of your everyday life, they can become automatic guide, similiar to having an internal GPS system. Goals keep us on a straight projectory to a better, happier, more relaxed, confident life.

Remember goals can be about any part of our life. We set them for work, but they can be for so much more. Life goes by fast and we tend to focus on how we make our living and how we support ourselves. We forget to focus on what makes us better and what makes us happy. Set some goals for all of those things too.

Maybe if we set our goals for being better physically, mentally and emotionally, the goals on work and money will fall into place. We are all better when we take care of ourselves first.

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.”

—Andrew Carnegie

As always, thanks for reading my blog. Have a awesome day! Be Happy!

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9 Ways How To Improve Your Workload And Be More Effective In Business

“You need to be aware of what others are doing, applaud their efforts, acknowledge their successes, and encourage them in their pursuits. When we all help one another, everybody wins.”

– Jim Stovall

Employees are the most valuable asset of any company. They have great value, and as such, deserve respect and an employer who helps them develop and learn new skills. Beneficial for the employees and the business.

So how do you accomplish this?

In my opinion, communication is the most important. Your interaction with your employees has to be clear and concise all the time. It is imperative that everyone understands the details and their responsibilities. What is the project, when is it to be completed, who are they working with, who is in charge and how they communicate with you and others involved in the project.

Work to develop an environment where your employees trust you. Have an open-door policy letting them understand that you are there to talk and listen to any concerns they may have. Have open two-way conversations that are productive. If they need extra help, do not understand the direction of the project, or what they are responsible for, you need to know. Without a clear understanding they will not be productive, the project may not be on time, or may need to be done over.

Assign tasks according to the abilities of your employees. Explain the project to everyone as a group and also take the time to break down everyone’s part. Make sure they understand and revisit each person’s progress often. Clarify any questions or concerns.

Praise your employees often when appropriate. Let them know they are a valuable part of the team. They will work harder, knowing they are appreciated.

It is crucial for everyone to prioritize the tasks each day. Show them how you organize and plan out your day. Ask and encourage them to do the same and explain the value of doing so. This provides a structure to each day, which will be productive for everyone.

As part of prioritizing the workday, you should also plan and schedule the work assignments. It is more effective if you and your employees are working on, and completing, the most difficult tasks early in the day.

Monitor each employee’s progress to be sure they are not falling behind. When that happens, they can become overwhelmed and unproductive. As part of the open door policy, make it very clear to everyone that they can come to you for help and that you will appreciate them when they do.

Never be harsh to your employees. Do not put them down, or talk to them in a demeaning way, or angry voice. It is none productive. Sometimes there is a reason to be disappointed and upset. Take a breath, step back for a moment, and then proceed. When handled appropriately, a bad situation can be a growth opportunity. All your employees will be appreciative that you handle issues in that way.

Encourage employees to work together, share ideas, and make suggestions to improve the project. Schedule a specific time for everyone to get together with you to talk and evaluate. Be open to their recommendations, even when it isn’t quite what you were envisioning. Encourage them to be creative. The result will be a better environment for the growth of your employees and your business. It is a win-win!

These are some of many ways you can develop and build a productive, cohesive, and confident team. Make your business more productive by developing a well-rounded team.

“Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. The ability to direct individual accomplishments toward organizational objectives. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.” 

– Andrew Carnegie

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The Art Of Working Together – Soft People Skills To Use For Success At Work

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“Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much.” 

–Helen Keller

So you want to play well with others? Sure, of course, it is essential to be successful in all your human interactions. Today I am writing about the use of soft skills as they apply to work, but they are also relevant in all our relationships.

People skills, what are they? They are the way we interact with each other. Using soft skills when we communicate, help us to be effective.

Effective communication, I feel, is the most critical. All other soft skills are connected and dependent on your ability to communicate.

Being able to communicate effectively is vital. What message are you trying to convey? You want to be able to verbalize in such a way that everyone can understand. Included are both verbal and non-verbal skills.

The words you use, the ebb and flow of your voice and clear pronunciation all contribute to your ability to communicate. Are you talking at a noise level that everyone can hear you? Is the tone of your voice exciting? How you speak can be fascinating, mesmerizing, or just plain dull.

Just as important is your non-verbal communication. You may be saying something, but your body language is sending a different message.

Perhaps you are speaking in a soft tone, and the subject is being considerate of one another. People hear one message, but when they look at your facial expression and they way you are holding your body, they see something different. Are you clenching your fists and have a closed-off expression or angry face? People will notice.

When you speak, either one on one or in front of a group, you want to be relaxed and confident. You want them to be drawn in by what you are saying. Eye contact, facial expression, a relaxed smile, your personality, and the passion you have for what you are saying are all important. These are all soft skills.

Soft skills are necessary to interact effectively with people. In the workplace that includes the employees you work with, your boss, clients & customers, and vendors. It includes person to person, telephone, email, social media, and written communication.

Soft skills include the ability to listen. Included is being able to read the body language of the other person and asking clarifying questions. Being able to make eye contact and perhaps lean in toward the other person indicating your interest is also included.

Soft skills are sometimes intuitive if you are lucky. They are skills that you can assimilate over time. You can sit in a class or meeting and read a manual or book, but you will not be able to apply them the next day.

You have to practice and develop soft skills until they become natural. When that happens, then you will become effective using them.

Self-motivation is a soft skill. If you have a positive attitude and take the initiative without supervision, it shows you are committed to doing well, and you are reliable. Self motivation is a highly valuable soft skill to have.

Being a team player and being able to motivate others in your team is a soft skill. It indicates a clear vision on your part of the importance of working together and being successful.

The ability to problem solve. Not everyone can do this. It is dependent on your attitude. You have to want to solve the problem, and you have to be able to analyze it. It also requires the ability to work with others and be able to communicate your thinking effectively.

Another valuable soft skill is flexibility. It is easy to settle into a comfort zone, and being flexible is important because it shows you are open to new challenges. You are willing to learn new things. It shows a great attitude, and it is valuable to your employer.

Time management is an essential soft skill. The ability to understand your responsibilities each day and put them into a logical order so you can complete them is a skill. Not everyone has that ability. it is a skill that makes you more productive and more valuable as an employee.

Developing soft skills should be a goal for everyone, each individual and each business. If you want to be successful they are essential. Soft skills can improve your ability to negotiate and network, bring your customer service to the highest level, as well as the level of effectiveness of your communication.

Having excellent soft skills is the extra ingredient needed to find, attract, and keep customers. As an employee your soft skills will make you valuable and help you advance. As a company, it will help you become and maintain a respected and successful business.

Harvard Study

As always, thank you for reading my blog. How are your soft skills?

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Overwhelmed – Stress Is Pulling Me Under- 8 Techniques To Pull Free

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Overwhelmed. Feeling like I am sinking, the water pulling me under. I struggle but I cannot pull free. What is wrong with me?

What’s happening? I feel like I can’t breathe. I need to get out. I want to run away.

Why can’t I do better? Why is this so hard. Am I stupid? I feel stupid, I’m a real failure.

Stress. Those are just a few of the symptoms of stress. We can respond both mentally and physically in stressful situations.

Stress affects us all and we each respond differently. Put two people in the same stressful situation and one may immediately show their distress while the other shrugs their shoulders and walks away thinking it was no big deal.

Short term stress usually will not hurt us and may be beneficial. It causes us to react and pushes us to respond quickly to get something done. Long term stress can be detrimental to our health causing insomnia, stomach problems, headaches, nervousness and can eventually lead to long term health problems such as heart disease.

What can we do to help eliminate stress?

  • Talk to someone about what you are experiencing. Talk to a friend, a mentor, your doctor or a therapist. Heck, talk to your imaginary friend. It’s important, let it out. Talking will help you release some of your emotions and the tension you are holding inside. You may be able to relax and look at the situation differently, and even start to work on a solution.
  • Exercise. Sometimes just going for a walk will help. Doing Yoga, Tai-Chi or Pilates is super relaxing. Any form of Aerobic Exercise is always beneficial and will release endorphins into your blood stream which will help you deal with anxiety and stress.
  • Write about it. If you are not comfortable talking to someone about your problems, write about it. The process of writing will have very similar benefits. It will allow you to sort through your emotions and look for solutions. It will help take the pressure away by releasing some of your tension. Writing will help you visualize and see your problem better. It may give you a different perspective. Writing in a notebook and using it as a reference for the future is a good practice. It may help you sort through and manage recurrent stress.
  • Manage your Time. Quite often we become overwhelmed because we are not managing our time well. We place unrealistic demands on ourselves and allow others to do the same. Take a deep breathe and really look at your schedule. Is there a better way to do things? Can you eliminate excess stuff that you really do not need to spend time on? Can you delegate it to someone else? Learn to say No.
  • Try Relaxation Techniques. Splurge and have a professional massage. Listen to music. Try Meditation. Read a book, poems, positive quotes or the Bible. Spend time with an old friend. Play a game and laugh. Take a walk with your dog. Watch a funny movie. Volunteer.
  • Learn to take care of problems as they occur instead of pushing them away or trying to ignore them. We know they are there. They will sit there and fester and your stress level will go up as a result. It will take less time to deal with them immediately. Just do it and move on.
  • Change your attitude. Sometimes we can’t see the forest for the trees. We lose track of what is really important. Take a little time to think about why you decided to do your job or whatever it is that is causing you stress. You wanted to start a business, write a book, have a family. You were committed and you were happy doing it. Give yourself a chance to refocus.
  • Redo your daily schedule by prioritizing what is important. Do the most important thing first. Get it done and out of the way. You will be more relaxed and be able to accomplish more of the smaller items later in the day.

One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was from a horse master. He told me to go slow to go fast. I think that applies to everything in life. We live as though there aren’t enough hours in the day but if we do each thing calmly and carefully we will get it done quicker and with much less stress.”

Viggo Mortensen

Life is after all what we make it. We are the one responsible for the choices we make and how we react to what happens every day. Life can throw us a lot of curves. Slow down, relax and be happy.

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How Do You Make Everyday A Victory? A List of Things To Do.

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Today I was browsing Twitter and I saw an image of a very physically fit man talking about finding victory every day. I could not ignore the image and whatever victory he was having was definitely working for him physically.

I cannot say the same for his video. It was not effective for me because it was virtually full of expletives which ruined the message. I am not sure he was giving off the message he wanted.

He was explosively selling victory but I don’t think he reached it. At least not with me. I did not like his perspective. It may have worked for a different audience.

I liked his focus on victory so I decided to do research on how to obtain victory for ourselves each and every day. What an interesting concept. Here is what I found.

The first article I read made total sense and I really liked it. It is a simple concept and one that would definitely work in your personal and professional life.

  • Easy-Peasy. Pick what is your highest priority to accomplish each day and do that first.

In your personal life if you want to exercise each day do it before you leave for work. I used to get up early each day and get on my Treadmill. Doing that meant I did not have to worry about doing it at night which truthfully would not have worked for me.

When you get to work be sure to concentrate on whatever is the most important thing you have to do for the day. Do you have to complete a report or is there a project you are working on? Do it first.

Each day you will end up having at least one victory by doing this practice. It will benefit you on many levels and the rest of your day can be used to do the less important tasks.

  • Do an assessment of yourself.

Everyone has a list of things we know we could be better at. You know, the stuff that sometimes plays mindlessly in our head. What are they? Take an evening or a weekend and do some contemplation. Write them all down. Okay now you have a list and if you are like me it might be long. Here are a few examples:

Calling your parents or siblings or returning their calls. You always mean to but something else comes up. We should not put them on the back burner but it is so easy to do. Decide you will call them back and do it. This is an important victory.

Saving money. That should be on everyone’s list but quite often we just don’t do it. We see something we want and we buy it. You figure you will start your savings account next paycheck. Do it and add to it each and every week. Big Important Victory.

You get the idea. Small things or big things that we let slip by can all make a difference in our life. I know I have enough items on my list to do one thing each and every day. That would be a victory.

You can apply the same concept to your professional life as well. What are those things you think about doing that would help you professionally? You may have some great ideas so don’t keep putting them off? Make a list and make it a priority to get them done. It may not be realistic to complete one a day but how about one a week. Count it as a bonus victory for the week.

  • Keep a journal.

Write down what you did that day. We are busy and we do not take the time to evaluate ourselves. You might find that you did have a victory and maybe multiple victories.

How many times have you had someone tell you you did a good job and you just brush it aside. Pay attention and write it down. That is a victory and you should take credit. Congratulate yourself!

When it comes time for your review you can also use a journal as a reference of what you have accomplished for the year. If your company requires you to do a self evaluation you are ahead of the game. Big Victory!

Victory is the child of preparation and determination.

Sean Hampton

Victory will be determined by many factors.

  • Perspective.

How do you view life? How do you react? What do you consider a victory? Your perspective can either hold you back or push you forward. Your perspective determines what is important and what is not.

  • Attitude.

Do you take responsibility for your actions? Do you have a positive attitude? Are you prone to negativity? We do not pay enough attention to our attitude. Attitude determines how you look at the world and how the world looks at you will also be determined by your attitude. Make sure it’s a good one.

  • Determination.

Are you willing to put in the effort needed to achieve victory? Determination is what drives you, helps your work hard and keeps you focused on achieving your goals.

  • Visualization.

You need to be able to see what you want, how to get there and see the end result. Being able to visualize the result you want helps overcome fear and it helps build self confidence. If you can see the result in your mind it makes it easier to practice and have great results sooner. Have you noticed people in sports doing visualization before they compete?

The most valuable advice I can give is plan for your success. Write down your ideal goal, creating checkpoints for yourself along the way that align with the end goal. Set up rewards for achieving both little victories and big ones.

Hilary Knight

Everyone can benefit from practicing these skills. I’m retired so you might think it is not important to me. You would be incorrect. It seems now more than ever it is indeed important to me.

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Go out and score a Victory today!