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How You Can Make Easy Changes That Will Improve Your Life

It may be easier than you think with a few easy adjustments to your mindset.

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Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave or lose. To the question of your life, you are the only answer. To the problems of your life, you are the only solution.”

~Jo Coudert

Sometimes life can feel like a hot mess. Maybe it is, or perhaps your perception is off-balance, out of focus, and messed up.

Do not look for someone else to blame for the funk you find you are feeling. Stop, take a breath, and look at yourself.

It may be time for a re-set.

Take one step at a time.

When I was working for someone else, I was the queen of multi-tasking. I was good at it. Sometimes I felt pressured, but I also liked the challenge. 

I was a single parent, working full time and going to college, and at that moment in time, it worked for me. Now, it doesn’t.

My life has changed, and my technique had to change, as well. So, now I am embracing mono-tasking — the art of doing one thing at a time and doing it well. 

Now I chose one task to focus on each day and work for a specified time while minimizing potential interruptions. The goal each day is to designate a slot of time and work on one project and forget about things like social media that suck priceless time out of the day. 

Do not overthink it.

I often tend to overthink, and my mind will run rampant with all the possibilities, which can be exhausting.

Slow down. It is easy to become so immersed in the possibilities that you lose focus on the one small thing you need to do right now. Keep it simple. Take the first step, and then move on to the next.

Your time has value.

“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.”

~Harvey Mackay

It is common for all of us to lose track of time. We become immersed in completing a task and may spend more time than is necessary or worthwhile.

We lose track of our main objective and feel the need to push through and keep going. We may not realize we have veered off course.

It is good for our soul to step back, take a breath, and refocus. 

Go outside, take a walk, or listen to music.

When you come back to your task, you will be relaxed, have a clearer vision, and a better understanding of the best way to proceed. 

Find a support system.

I like doing things on my own, and I do not like asking for help. I am stubborn, and I am independent. It is one of my faults.

At times it can be overwhelming.

It is important to ask for help. In your personal life, do not be afraid to ask family or friends. If you do not have that option, and you can afford it, hire someone to help with all the things you do not understand or cannot do. 

If it is work-related, it is okay to ask for help. You may be hesitant and feel it is a sign of weakness to admit you need assistance, but it is a sign of strength. You are showing that you are self-aware and also self-assured enough to know when you need additional input from your boss and colleagues. It shows you value your team and everyone’s roll in completing projects.

Enlist whatever help you can; it is important and will make your life easier and eliminate stress.

Don’t be a “Negative Nancy.”

Although we try to look at each of our experiences with a positive attitude, it can be challenging to maintain. If you question yourself, even for a moment, it is easy to let negativity fill any void in your thinking.

Why do we do that? Human nature, I suppose, but when it does happen, chose not to listen to the negative voices you find chattering in your head.

Make a habit of valuing yourself. Each of us has limitless capabilities, we just have to believe, and we have to remind ourselves of our successes. Pat your self on the back and reward yourself for your achievements.

Challenge yourself.

“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.” 

~Winston Churchill

Change your mindset. It is easy to believe you cannot do something rather than think you can. 

It does not take any effort to stay the same and not improve, but there is no reward in that. It is easy to remain stagnant and not grow, but what does that get you? Nothing.

I am getting a bit older, and it would be easy to putter around the house and not change, but that would be boring.

The world is full of beautiful adventures to take at any age. Our brains have the capability of learning new things until the end of time. Why waste that?

Take care of yourself.

Life can be hectic, and we may not value ourselves enough to realize that it is essential to fuel our minds and our bodies.

Take a breath, slow down, and relax. Eat healthy foods, exercise, spend time with the people who matter. Rest.

Challenge yourself to learn something new every day. The possibilities are endless. A few sources are Hackaday, Codecademy, Big Think, and Craftsy.

Check out this article published at Inc.com for more places to learn: https://www.inc.com/larry-kim/40-amazing-places-to-learn-something-new-every-day.html.

Understand who you are.

“The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself.” 

~Thales

It is easy to lose sight of who we are, who we are becoming. We are subject to many influences, and every day we make choices. They may be small, instant adjustments that we do not spend much time analyzing, but over time they can have a cumulative effect. 

We change without knowing, good or bad, and over time the effect can be massive.

Who are you? I think it is crucial to take the time and ask ourselves that question.

You can have a life plan but get lost in it. Make sure you understand what you have accomplished and how it makes you feel.

Do not forget to ask yourself if you are happy.

Life is not perfect.

There is no such thing as perfection. We are human, and we are flawed. I believe that is what makes us beautiful. 

Our flaws tell a story of who we are, what kind of life we have lived so far, and how we have reacted to them.

Embrace your life and accept that there will be ups and downs. You may have failures, and some may bring you to your knees. That is okay. Get up, dust yourself off, and start again. 

You are stronger than you think. Each of us has strengths and weaknesses, and they flavor whatever we do. Embrace your imperfections.

Stop trying to ‘fix’ yourself; you’re NOT broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure.”

~ Steve Maraboli

Thanks so much for stopping by today and reading my blog. I hope you enjoyed it.

Posted in Inspiration, Learning, Life, Personal Development, Positive Thinking

The 10 Ways You Can Easily Make Changes And Improve Your Life

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Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave or lose. To the question of your life, you are the only answer. To the problems of your life, you are the only solution.”

Jo Coudert

In my last post, I indicated that I am taking a step back to reassess and get some much-needed tasks done and out of my way. Life was too cluttered, messy, and irritating. I was having a hard time finding my focus.

I intend to do a large amount of cleaning. Get rid of unneeded items in my home and, just as important, in my mind. I need to be clearer in my direction, my intentions.

I am going to, for the time being, post just one blog a week. I will also post one quote a day, as usual, so no change there.

Finding my way is sometimes frustrating, and I think it is important to become more focused, more clearly defined. So that is what I will be attempting to do.

Here are some of the things I am going to use.

  • Find a clear path. Right now, I feel like I am a jumbled mess, and that cannot continue. My mind is racing trying to put everything in perspective and decide what is right for me as far as my blog is concerned. I need to find a clear separation from the rest of my life so that it is compatible with my writing. So far, it is a slow process.
  • Take one step at a time. One of my problems has been trying to do too many tasks at once. I knew what I wanted to accomplish, but I was attempting to do it all at once. Now I realize that was not realistic, and here I am. I need to make a new plan and stick to it, so I do not fall back into my habit of trying to do everything at once.
  • Don’t overthink it. I am a great one for overthinking. My mind runs rampant with all the possibilities, which to tell you the truth can be exhausting. Whoa, slow down. It is easy to become so immersed in all these possibilities that you lose focus on that one small thing you need to do now. Keep it simple, and stick with one step, and when you are done with that step, move on to the next.
  • Don’t place too much value on the length of time you may have been working on something. I realized that I needed to make a change, but it does not always work that way. I could have easily kept going in the same pattern and not accomplished what I wanted because that is what most of us do. We lose track of our main objective and feel we need to push through and keep going. Each day we have the opportunity to change our life. Do it. Take one small step today and put it on repeat by doing it again tomorrow.
  • Find a support system. That is one of the problems I have. For the most part, I am doing this on my own. It is not easy, and it can be overwhelming. If you have family or friends who can help you, ask for their help. If that is not possible and you can afford it, hire someone to help with all the little things you do not understand or cannot do. Enlist whatever help you can; it is important, and it will make your life so much easier, and help eliminate stress.
  • Don’t be a “Negative Nancy.” It is so easy to let your mind wander when you are attempting something new, and inevitably it will fill with negative thoughts. Why do we do that? When it does happen, chose not to listen. Instead think of all the reasons it is important to you. You are capable; just keep taking those small steps forward.
  • Challenge yourself. The world is full of wonderful possibilities. Let go of the past and change your mindset. It is so easy not to believe in your capabilities. It does not take any effort to stay the same and not improve, but there is no reward in that. Being stagnant and not growing is no fun. I am slightly older, and it would be so easy to putter around the house and not change, but that would be so boring.
  • Get rid of clutter. That is my intention. There is so much of it because of my small business which I closed, and all the other personal things I own but do not need. I have always resisted letting things go, but not anymore. All the physical property I do not need is leaving. Remember, clutter can also exist in your mind. As humans, it is easy to let ourselves get in a mental rut. Don’t do that! Clean out the cobwebs and try something new.
  • Be sure to take care of yourself. Life can be hectic, and we tend to take care of everyone else before we think of ourselves as an afterthought. Take a breath, slow down, and relax. Eat healthy foods, exercise, spend time with family and friends. Rest.
  • Step back and analyze the changes you are making. That is what I am doing right now. It is important. I realize now that I could not have kept going at the same pace. It was not so much a physical pace as it was mental. I was causing myself stress. It is important not to push yourself too much without knowing where you are going or what you have accomplished. You can have a plan but get lost in it. Make sure you understand what you have accomplished so far and how it makes you feel. Do not forget to ask yourself if you are happy.

“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.”

-Winston Churchill

So my quest is not to be perfect because I do not believe in perfection. I would much rather be flawed. I do believe in change, and that is what I am continually doing—always adjusting my time frame.

As always, thanks so much for reading my blog. Have a beautiful, satisfying day.