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Work Dynamics – The Good, The Bad and The Ugly- The Webs We Weave

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Do you love your job? Do you get up ready to go to work and know you are going to enjoy the day? Do your peers interact well together and respect each other? Does your boss communicate well, show respect and encouragement and acknowledge individual contributions?

If you can answer yes to those questions be happy, very happy, because you are working in a good environment. Consider yourself lucky. That type of environment is not easily found.

There are companies that are toxic because of the webs woven by boss and employees. Once a culture is negative it can be extremely difficult to correct and takes the work and positive input of many, many people.

Most of us have probably worked for a company that was good but not great. It was good enough to be acceptable. Sometimes we end up in jobs that are barely tolerable. Unfortunately, we do not always have many options and we feel lucky just to have a job.

What can we do to improve the dynamics of the work place?

  • Use your communication skills. Communication is indeed a skill and quite often we overlook it’s importance. We think we are good communicators but are we? Communication is not just our use of language. It is also our ability to listen, ask questions, understand and observe body language.

One of the most frustrating experiences for anyone is to talk and not be given the respect of being heard and understood.

  • Be kind. Be friendly and smile. Say hello even when you do not like someone. You have to work with them and you may not truly understand them. Try to learn more about them. Ask questions and try to look at it from their perspective. If given the chance they may surprise you and you will probably surprise them.
  • Be positive and look for ways to incorporate that into the work culture. When working on projects and you have a new idea try to present it in such a way that others will be able to see the benefit as well. Show them how they will gain from your idea.
  • If someone is confrontational toward you, or others, try not to be defensive. Take a deep breathe, smile and ask them to clarify what is wrong. Listen and take the time to try to understand the way they are feeling. Ask more questions if appropriate and thank them for their input. Tell them you appreciate their concerns and will take them into consideration. Let them know you are willing to talk whenever they have a concern that affects the work dynamic and you would appreciate the same courtesy.
  • Recognize when you or someone else are stressed. Having someone stressed in the workplace can affect everyone. You can take steps to work off your stress with exercise, meditation, reading a book, watching a movie or taking a walk. Suggest the same activities to a co-worker. Ask them if they have watched a recent movie or read the newest book and encourage them to do so. Tell them how relaxing those activities are for you.

If you are the boss or the employee how you interact is so important to the overall dynamic. There is always a shift of actions and reactions within a group of people and it should be up to all involved to realize their impact on others. As a group you should be working toward the same goal. I believe it is something that should be talked about within any company, large or small. It should start at the top but it can start anywhere. Communication is the most important element.

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The goal is to be happy. If you can work somewhere and be a positive influence everyone wins. Happiness is contagious and others will be encouraged by your attitude. Their attitude will change and you will become more supportive of each other. That is a win-win in any environment.

Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you, spend a lot of time with them, and it will change you forever.”

Amy Poulter

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Spend some time with someone who inspires you today.

Posted in Communication, Motivation, Personal Development, Positive Thinking, Potential, Self Improvement

Calm – It’s A Skill We Should All Strive For – 8 Steps To Take

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Blindsided! Assaulted! Worry! Unease! Overwhelmed! Are these familiar feelings?

Like an explosion. You feel it surge over you. A negative response to a multitude of possible happenings.

You feel blindsided. Time to calm down, relax, breathe.

How do you calm down, not just right now but in the future? What can we do to quickly alleviate a stressful reaction and automatically calm ourselves?

Being calm appears to be easier for some of us then others. I would place myself in that category most of the time. There are times though when everyone has a demanding, stressful experience and it is overwhelming.

Some of us are easily thrown by everyday life experiences and find it difficult to calm ourselves. When you find yourself not being able to cope it can feel like your thoughts are bouncing off the walls. It is difficult to bring yourself out of that feeling. It feels almost like you are vibrating and you feel scattered.

So how do you learn to be calm? With any change, it is not automatic. We are training ourselves, learning something new and there is a process. We are learning small things that we can do and make into habits and part of our everyday life.

Smile, breathe and go slowly”

Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Is there an image, a quote, a book that makes you feel good? Perhaps a memory that you think of often that makes you happy or gives you a feeling of contentment. Use that. Whenever you start feeling a surge of distress think of that one thing that calms you.
  • Try yoga or meditation. I love yoga, it is very relaxing and is good for you physically and mentally. Both meditation and yoga are scientifically proven to reduce anxiety. Find a class near you and try it for a minimum of a month so you can feel the calming effect. Make it a habit. I think you will be glad you did.
  • On the other side of that is someone who is a totally focused, high energy type. Okay, accept that is who you are and go for it. Work hard, play hard so at the end of the day you are tired and feel happy. You have achieved you own form of bliss. I would encourage you that at either the beginning or end of that all out day you learn to practice something calming. We all need to calm down at some point. It’s good for us.
  • The wonderful experience of music. So many wonderful songs and types of music to choose from. Everyone should be able to find a list of songs to listen to. Let the sound surround you and sink into it. Let you mind go to relax and find calm.
  • Revisit a old hobby that you loved to do and lose yourself in it or try something new. Everyone has something they love to do but may not take the time to do anymore. I love working on a piece of old furniture and restoring it, bringing it back to life. I love art and would like to try some sketching. Lose yourself in the act of doing. Your mind and body will relax and stress will melt away.
  • Slow down. I know that is easy to say but it is a good practice and it is calming. When you find yourself rushing, slow your pace. Take a deep breathe and think of something soothing. Hum one of your favorite songs.
  • My favorite. Go outside. Take a walk by yourself and let you mind go, relax. If you have a dog, take them for a walk and have a conversation. It’s great because they are not judgmental and offer comfort and affection.
  • Rethink decisions. Why did you choose to do something? Why do you maintain a friendship that drains you and causes anxiety? Move away from activities and relationships that bring you down. Find a new friend. Find new activities that are beneficial for you and your family.

Take a deep breath, get present in the moment and ask yourself what is important this very second.

Greg McKeown

Be mindful of where you are, how you feel and what is truly important to you.

Smile, relax, breathe. Life is wonderful and full of possibilities. Do something you love each and every day. Stay connected to the things you enjoy and calm you.

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As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a peaceful day.