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Quote Of The Day

 “A woman is like a tea bag – you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.” 

-Eleanor Roosevelt
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Quote Of The Day

“Life is about the choices we make, the moments we don’t see coming and the strength to do what’s best for ourselves despite how much it may hurt.”

– Samantha King, Performer and Songwriter
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Quote Of The Day

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”

Marcus Aurelius
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Quote Of The Day

Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.”

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An Intense Effort Is Required To Achieve Outstanding Results

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Continuous effort– not strength or intelligence – is the key to unlocking our potential.   

Winston Churchill 

An Olympic Gold Medal. What name comes to mind when you think of Olympic Gold? First, I think of Michael Phelps, the most successful and most decorated Olympian of all time,[7] with a total of 28 medals. Phelps also holds the all-time records for Olympic gold medals (23),[8] Olympic gold medals in individual events (13), and Olympic medals in individual events (16)

Then, there is Simone Biles, who is a five-time World all-around champion (2013–15, 2018–19), five-time World floor exercise champion (2013–15, 2018–19), three-time World balance beam champion (2014–15, 2019), two-time World vault champion (2018–19), a six-time United States national all-around champion (2013–16, 2018–19), and a member of the gold-medal-winning American teams at the 201420152018, and 2019 World Artistic Gymnastics Championships. Additionally, she is a three-time World silver medalist (2013 and 2014 on vault, 2018 on uneven bars) and a three-time World bronze medalist (2015 on vault, 2013 and 2018 on balance beam). Having won a combined total of thirty Olympic and World Championship medals, Biles is the most decorated American gymnast and the third most decorated gymnast of all time

They are just two examples of someone willing to put forth an extreme effort to achieve outstanding results.

Think of the dedication, determination, strength of will that they used to achieve their goals—quite an achievement.

You could also think of someone who is a successful business person, such as Elon Musk, who is the founder of Tesla and SpaceX, among many other endeavors. https://www.biography.com/business-figure/elon-musk

Also, Steve Jobs who was an American business magnate, entrepreneur, industrial designer, investor, and media proprietor. He was the chairman, chief executive officer (CEO), and co-founder of Apple Inc., the chairman and majority shareholder of Pixar, a member of The Walt Disney Company‘s board of directors following its acquisition of Pixar, and the founder, chairman, and CEO of NeXT. Jobs is widely recognized as a pioneer of the personal computer revolution of the 1970s and 1980s, along with Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steve_Jobs

Were they intelligent? Yes, but there is much more to the story of their success. Did they put in an extreme amount of effort? Absolutely! Without the dedication, determination, and strength of their will to succeed, they would not have been successful.

So what about us? Most people will never be able to match themselves to Phelps, Biles, Musk, or Jobs. They are exceptional, and they worked for every bit of their success. Their effort was extraordinary.

We can be more successful. We need to be willing to put in the effort. It is the amount of effort put in that makes the difference.

Seth Godin puts it all into perspective;  “People really want to believe effort is a myth…. I think we’ve been tricked by the veneer of lucky people on the top of the heap. We see the folks who manage to skate by or who get so much more than we think they deserve, and it’s easy to forget that these guys are the exceptions…. For everyone else, effort is directly related to success….and that’s the key to the paradox of effort: While luck may be more appealing than effort, you don’t get to choose luck. Effort, on the other hand, is totally available, all the time.

According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of effort is “the conscious exertion of power: hard work.”

I am not sure people think about the amount of effort required to complete a job or project. We think about, and plan for, the time, any tools required, and will it cost anything, but we do not schedule in the amount of effort.

It is about your mindset. What does it mean to you? What value does it have? What are you going to get out of it? Does it make you feel good?

What we do not usually think about is the importance of each day. What did you do yesterday, or last week, or last month? Can you look back and say, that it was a good day, week, or month?

When you feel good about something, and it makes you feel happy, content, or proud, think about why. How much effort did you put into it?

So many of us look back at our lives, and we are disappointed and wish we had done something better. We wish we had spent more time with someone, been more successful, had more money, a better education, etc.

We may blame other people, unexpected events, blah, blah, blah. It is so easy to blame someone or something else.

What we forget is that the one thing we have control over and is our responsibility is the amount of effort we put into what we do.

When you think of Phelps, Biles, Musk, and Jobs, you know they put in the effort. It is their years of work and an astounding effort that gave them success. It was a massive, sustained effort done day in and day out for years.

“What keeps so many people back is simply unwillingness to pay the price, to make the exertion, the effort to sacrifice their ease and comfort.”

Orison Marden https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orison_Swett_Marden

Is there a way to learn to put an increased amount of effort into what you do?

Good question. I do not have an answer. I believe that putting effort into what you do is an intentional act.

Each of us has to be mindful. Perhaps establishing the habit to start and end each day with quiet time to think about what we want to achieve that day. Then ask ourselves what effort you are willing to expend.

If we become more intentional about our actions, our dreams, and desires for our life, we should become more aware of the value of increased effort in everything we do.

There is a direct relationship between joy and effort. The joy of success is in ratio to the amount of effort expended to achieve it.”

Denis Waitley

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Quote Of The Day

“Few men during their lifetime come anywhere near exhausting the resources dwelling within them. There are deep wells of strength that are never used.” ―Richard E. Byrd

―Richard E. Byrd
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Depression – Part Two – What are The Warning Signs

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“Whether an illness affects your heart, your arm, or your brain, it’s still an illness, and there shouldn’t be any distinction. We would never tell someone with a broken leg that they should stop wallowing and get it together. We don’t consider taking medication for an ear infection something to be ashamed of. We shouldn’t treat mental health conditions any differently. Instead, we should make it clear that getting help isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength—and we should ensure that people can get the treatment they need.”

Michelle Obama, former first lady

In my last post, Depression – Does Being Active Help – A Debate, I attempted to give insight into the many types of depression and the treatments for each. I believe that we do not understand depression and that we need to be more aware of what the disease is.

What started my interest was an article encouraging the use of exercise as a treatment for depression. After all my research, I concluded that, yes, exercise can certainly be used and should be, but it is not a fix-all for depression. In my opinion, it is more a helpful preventative. Physical activity is an excellent practice to be followed in any treatment for depression and improved health in general.

Today, I am writing about signs to look for in identifying a person who may be depressed.

Depression has a stigma attached to it; no one wants to be labeled a depressed person. They will go to great lengths to hide that there is anything wrong. It may be reasonable for them to hope if they keep maintaining what looks like a normal life, their depression will just go away.

So how can we recognize that someone is depressed? Here are some changes in someone’s behavior we might observe:

Their normal behavior changes. They are a little lost and are trying to ease their feelings of sadness and loneliness. They may lose interest in activities they previously enjoyed.

They may no longer enjoy foods they once did, stop eating, and start losing weight. They may also overcompensate and eat more than they did, hoping it will help them feel better. They may turn to alcohol or drugs to try and alleviate their emotions.

Some times they will exhibit unusual irritability over something they would not have had a problem with before. They may also show anger in the same way, which would be a change of character.

Many people can conceal their depression and wear a ‘happy face’ like they would wear a mask. They pretend they are happy and hide behind their false persona. It is not easy to maintain, and it is very tiring, which can, of course, make them feel worse.

“The only thing more exhausting than being depressed is pretending that you’re not.”

Anonymous

To avoid anyone seeing their mask, they will spend less time with other people and prefer to be alone. They will make excuses to avoid everyday events such as dinner with friends. It can be difficult to see through the false exterior they present.

Their outlook will appear to change, and they may become more thoughtful in their discussions. They may now talk openly about being disappointed that they have not accomplished more. It is a change in behavior, something that they would not have done before. They may talk about being better, being happier, but they do not acknowledge they are sad.

A depressed person tries to keep their feelings hidden so that no one will know. It is difficult and emotional. They don’t want to show their depression but may react more strongly than before. Where before they did not openly cry, they may do so now and also be more openly affectionate. On the other extreme is when they may respond with anger in certain circumstances. That would not be an expected response for them. Both of these emotional responses may be a sign that something is wrong.

There is a psychological term called, depressive realism. I found this difficult to explain, so I am using the definition from the American Psychological Association.

“Psychologists have thought for decades that depressed people tend to distort the facts and view their lives more negatively than do non-depressed people. Yet, psychological studies have consistently revealed a peculiar exception to that pattern: Depressed people, studies indicated, judge their control of events more accurately than do non-depressed people in a phenomenon that came to be known as “depressive realism.”

It may be a sign of depression if someone you know has always responded in a very positive way. They have always indicated everything is excellent, but now they have the opposite reaction and do not anticipate anything going well.

They may cry out for help, but then they reverse course. Being depressed and struggling to hide it from everyone is an intense struggle. They have a resolve to continue to hide their depression, which may become unbearable for a moment in time. They relent and tell someone. They may talk to a close friend or decide to talk to a therapist.

Telling someone is such a momentous event a depressed person may feel like they are confessing a crime. It may be too much for them to handle, and they will not follow through with any appointments they may have made with a therapist. They will tell family or friends that they were having a bad day and now they are fine.

They do not want to admit to themselves that they suffer from depression. It may be easier to continue life as they have been. It may actually feel comfortable to them. It feels too difficult to change.

Depression is real, too real. It comes in many forms, from mild to very deep and dark. It is a disease that is not understood. It is hidden, partly because we do not want to acknowledge it. Someone who is depressed does not want to be. They do not want to admit that they are. People who are not depressed do not understand, and they are frightened by it. They do not know what to do, and it is more comfortable to ignore it.

There is a stigma regarding depression, and that needs to change. Life is hard. Wouldn’t it be nice if that were not the case? I do not have any answers. The best thing I think we can do is educate ourselves so we can better understand what depression is. Always smile at someone and be kind. If you see someone struggling ask if there is anything you can do for them. Hold out a hand. Help them take a step forward.

“My mental health problems are real and they are valid. I will not judge myself for the bad days when I can barely get out of bed. I will not make myself feel worse because someone else appears to be handling their mental illness better than I am handling mine. Recovery is not a competition.”

Matt Joseph Diaz

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