“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”—Arthur Ashe
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“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”—Arthur Ashe
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“You just can’t beat the person who never gives up.”—Babe Ruth
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“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.”Barrie Davenport
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“It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.”― Roy T. Bennett
It is natural to reach a level of comfort in our workplace. There is a familiarity and a rhythm to what we do. Every day we know what to expect, who we will work with, and the personalities of our co-workers. Even when the work we do does not stimulate us, does not challenge us, we accept that and settle in.
Throughout life, there will be opportunities that become available to us, but we hesitate. We are not comfortable with change. We may be scared and feel we are not qualified. We want to take advantage of the option, but all we think about is the possibility of failing. Change can be stressful and cause anxiety.
What happens when life throws you a curve, either good or bad? Maybe your company downsizes or moves to another state, or out of the country. You might lose your job, or decide to quit because you don’t want to move.
All of those things will require change and will throw you out of your comfort zone. What would you do if you receive a promotion? There is also the possibility that you make the decision, consciously or unconsciously, to push yourself to improve and move forward, knowing that it may be a while until you find a comfort zone of your own making.
Change can be scary, and, yes, it can cause stress. However, having worked for many years working under a low level of self-induced stress by continually pushing myself to do better, I think it can be a good and productive way to work.
We each have a choice every day when we start our day. Will we settle in and do just what is required of us, or will we do more?
When there was a change in my life, I went back to work. I would be raising two young children on my own. I took an entry-level job in a field I had worked in before and never thought I would work in again. I did not have a college education, so I was starting at the bottom. It did not take me long to realize that I not only wanted but needed more. That was my choice, and I pushed myself forward every day.
There was no comfort zone. I worked most of the time with a certain level of stress; like a low hum. Sometimes it was more of a roar.
As a result, I was always pushing the boundaries, and that became normal to me. I was more productive, and I always looked for new things to learn. I guess you could say I was ambitious. Although, I never thought of it that way; that thought just popped into my head.
Change became more comfortable, and I was able to adapt more quickly. I became more creative in the way I did my work, and I learned to question and look for better, more efficient ways to complete my assignments.
Deciding to work outside of a comfort zone worked for me and I was successful as a result. Do I consider myself lucky or special? No, why would I? In my mind, it was all about pushing myself and going the extra mile.
So how can you leave your comfort zone, and what steps can you take?
First, of course, is deciding to go for it. There are all sorts of scenarios and reason, and everyone’s will be different in some way.
Think of it as a reset, or a reboot, Compare it to your computer system that requires a periodic update. In this case, you are doing an update on your comfort zone.
When you do an update on your computer, you find that some of your programs run differently. That is what you need to do too.
Start making changes. They do not have to be big, change your life in one day, changes. Start small, and keep adjusting, adding more changes. Don’t stop if something does not work or it feels uncomfortable. That is how you learn, and you will grow from all your experiences, both good and bad.
Take it slow. It does not have to happen overnight. Think about what you either have to change, or want to change, and determine what makes you uncomfortable. What makes you afraid? Analyze and determine if you can break it down into steps. Then take one step at a time.
Depending on the type of person you are, or what your work environment is like, there are two approaches you can take. Based on the situation you find yourself in, you can, of course, use both
If you work in a fast-paced environment, you may be used to making quick decisions, and that is what you are comfortable doing. What if you slow it down and take a step back. Look at what is happening, take a breath, a moment, and think. Instead of making a snap decision, you will be making an educated decision. It will feel uncomfortable because it is not what is usually done.
On the other hand, you may be comfortable taking your time making decisions. You may like to analyze and look at all the options. Sometimes we may hesitate and take an extra day to make a decision. Take a risk and make a snap decision. Trust your judgment. You may like it, and there may be a benefit because you will learn to trust yourself and be more confident as a result.
Trying new things can be stressful, but in the long run, it can be beneficial. When you learn new skills and have new experiences, you become more interesting and have a broader perspective, not only for your work but of yourself.
Continue pushing yourself in all aspects of your life, not just at work. There is so much to do and so much to learn. Life is short, but it is full of possibilities, no matter who you are, or how young or how old. Don’t live a life half full; do as much as you can and don’t get too comfortable.
“Coming out of your comfort zone is tough in the beginning, chaotic in the middle, and awesome in the end…because in the end, it shows you a whole new world.”– Manoj Arora
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Make yourself uncomfortable today.
Blogging does not equate with quality writing! There appears to be some controversy about the quality of blogs. I have read a few articles recently inferring that bloggers are not considered writers.
Nonsense and Hogwash!! Blogging may be a more informal format but that does not make the quality of the writing any less. There are many “new” writers who are bloggers (I am one of them) but we are not unqualified because we are new.
Every writer is new when they first start writing regardless of the medium they are writing in. Also, not every experienced writer is necessarily a good writer. How many times have you read an article, a short story or a novel which was poorly written and had bad grammar and punctuation?
Good, bad or indifferent, everyone has something to say. Blogging is an excellent outlet for sharing your opinion, sharing your expertise and giving solace to readers.
Many individuals and companies write blogs. They keep us up to date with current events. What’s going on today? What information are you looking for? All you have to do is look at Twitter and Facebook and you will find blogs by such entities as Forbes, Inc.com and The New York Times and many, many more.
“I think of us as journalists; the medium we work in is blogging.”Joshua Micah Marshall
The point is that blogs are for everyone and they are being written by everyone.
Just because the format we are using is a blog does not mean we are inferior writers.
I have read many articles that indicate you have to be a good writer to be a good successful blogger. That makes sense. You can start a blog if you are not an experienced writer but it is important that you hone your writing skills.
While blogging can be less formal, less researched, and more geared for online reading or social sharing, to do it well requires the same kind of practice and skill as crafting a novel.by Jane Friedman
One interesting tidbit I have found since starting this blog is the number of people who decided to start a blog for a multitude of different reasons that ended up writing short stories or novels. Writing a blog helped them develop their writing skills and they became good quality, excellent writers. They had no intention of that when they started but that is where blogging led them.
There are many established novelists that write blogs as well. One reason is it helps them keep active and practice their craft of writing.
So you see bloggers are good writers. We are good people who have something to say and have decided to share our thoughts and beliefs with the world. Along the way, we gained purpose and thoughtful contemplation and a love of writing.
Having something to say and the need to add value to your life can be done with writing a blog. Quite possibly a love of writing is born. A love of writing can lead to increased skills as a writer, some great blog posts and maybe some awesome short stories or a novel.
As bloggers, let’s not be afraid to call ourselves writers. And let’s not be afraid to write. To really write. To let our words tell a story, and draw people in, and paint a scene so vivid it makes our readers feel like they’re right there with us.By Elle Croft WRITING June 28, 2018
Writing a blog can improve your writing skills. Bloggers write all the time. A blog post is usually short so you can write multiple posts in a day, week or month.
You post to your blog at regular intervals and you are the one who decides what to write and when to post it. One of the benefits of that is the immediate feedback you receive.
How many people have read a post you have written, liked it and left a comment? If you get positive feedback you know you are doing well. If the comments are negative then you know you need to improve.
Over time your writing will improve. You will learn from your feedback and you will recognize some posts did better than others. You can look at your most popular posts and understand what your readers like.
So when someone asks what you do and you tell them you are a blogger they may not be impressed. They may not take you seriously and they may not think of you as a writer. You are a writer and you work hard at it.
Blogging is important because it gives a voice to everyone. Blogging allows women, LGBTQ, and people from all walks of life, all religions and all races to tell their stories. Each of us has wonderful stories to tell. We have a wealth of experience to share.
If not for blogging so much of that would be lost. If not for blogging there would not be the opportunity to learn to be a better writer and to gain experience and confidence. If not for blogging there would be so many great short stories and novels that might never be written. What a loss that would be.
How about you, what do you have to say? What story do you have within you? Start a blog and share it. It will help you and it just may help someone else by brightening their day or giving them the information they can use in their own lives. Come on, write a blog!
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a great day!
I am so Frustrated ! I was hoping this wouldn’t happen but here I am totally awash in frustration. It is so bad. I have been dealing with it all day to the edge of Depression. I can feel myself teetering on the edge and I am trying not to fall in.
I have been really focused and pushing myself to excel. I started blogging and I became really excited when I was doing research and I discovered some great articles. They were published on a site I had never heard of before and they were all well written. I started reading random articles and in doing that I found information about writing and being published on that site.
Could I do that ? I was really hesitant but overwhelming interested. I thought about it, and thought some more, and then decided why not. I gave it a try. I submitted one article and they accepted it. However, it was only available on their site. It was not published and available for the general public to see. Bummer !
So as excited as I had been originally, after not being published I still thought, OK I can do this. I wrote another article which was accepted and it was published. I was actually paid a small amount of money. Yes ! I was totally, jump up and down, excited.
Of course, that experience made me want to jump right in and write another article. It took me awhile to decide what to write about. I chose something I thought would be interesting to a large audience. It was not an easy process and it took me forever. At least it felt like a long time. In actuality it was 4 + hours each day for 5-6 days including research.
The topic I chose was religious in nature and my own belief. The best part of the process of writing was expressing my own viewpoint and feelings. It is something I think about and sometimes talk about and it felt good to actually write all those feelings down. So it was not a problem writing that first part of the article. I actually think it was good for me to clarify those feelings.
Once I had written about my personal experiences, and why I came to my conclusion about faith, I felt I needed to add more. I did research about the history of the Bible as a backbone for the article. I did so much research and it was difficult putting it into perspective. The point was to add definition to my article and show the controversy about the accuracy of the Bible. This is turn would support my beliefs. Actually, the controversy could support anyone’s viewpoint which I noted in my writing.
When I was finished writing and submitted the article I was not 100 % satisfied with the portion about the Bible. I did feel it was sufficient to show the controversy about it’s accuracy. Looking back now I am wondering if my addition of that information was why my article was not chosen for publication.
In particular concern to me was the presentation of my research and the proper disclosure of my references. Did I do that properly ? Also a concern to me was the conciseness of my writing. Did I present my findings in such a way that the reader could clearly understand ?
I assaulted myself over and over with uncertainty. Yesterday was a difficult day for me. I went from a feeling of joy and satisfaction to one of questioning my abilities. Instead of feeling joyful I was very frustrated and mildly depressed.
So where do I go from here ? Walking outside this morning with my cat at 6 am I did not feel any better than yesterday. I was still questioning how I should proceed. Should I totally walk away from writing articles for this publication ? Should I take a break from my blog as well so I can clear my mind. Spend some much needed time in my gardens. Time needed for the gardens but also for me ? It would be so therapeutic.
Yesterday I contacted the publishing company for any insight they can give me regarding my writing. I am hoping to hear from them soon with some definitive answers. I clearly do not know why and it makes it more difficult to learn from this experience. I want to move forward and make the correct improvements. No matter what our individual level of competency there should always be the quest for improving what we do.
“Personal development is a major time-saver. The better you become, the less time it takes you to achieve your goals.” ―Brian Tracy
It is very upsetting to me to be told what I have written is not good enough. No one wants to hear that, or except it. So now what do I do ? For me there is really only one option and that is to keep trying. I want to write and I want to write for this company. Being rejected is a challenge.
I will not go quietly into the night. I will stay and fight. I will look for ways to keep improving and although I dread being rejected again I will submit more articles.
This is a frustrating little bump in my road forward. I know I have to improve and I know it will not just magically happen. I will have to work for it. So that is what I am doing; working and looking for ways to improve my writing.
I have been doing a bit of research today and found a site called Grammarly. I am trying their free version but it does not provide enough help. I think what I really need is the Premium version and that cost $29.95 per month which I cannot afford. I will continue looking for other options.
Just at the right time I read Thembi Terry’s Blog, “Three Free Online Courses That Helped Me As A Blogger”
I read her post the day before I submitted my article and saved it so I could look into those courses. Now I definitely know I will. Thank you, Thembi Terry.
Although yesterday I felt defeated, today that feeling is easing. Writing my blog is all about moving forward and improving my life. So these are the steps I will be taking.
There you have it. My frustration and what I am doing with it. Just writing this today has been a great help. I am focused and I know what I have to do.
As always, Thank You for reading my blog. Have a wonderful day !
Definition: painful or resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another joined with a desire to possess the same advantage
So Envy is a bad thing right ? Yes, it is. We are taught from a young age that we should not be envious of what someone else says or does or what they have. When someone gets a new bike, a skateboard, a new doll or a really pretty dress we immediately want one. That is envy.
How about at school when you are trying really hard to be recognized by your favorite teacher but you think someone else is getting all the attention and praise ? The feeling you get really sucks doesn’t it ? That is called envy.
Is it normal to feel envy ? I would say yes it is. It is almost an automatic reaction. How can you not be envious when you think someone has something you want or gets what you feel is unfair attention. “Me, what about me” you are saying over and over.
So what does envy do to you, or for you ? First, it makes us unhappy; we are not happy when someone else has what we want. It also makes us feel inadequate; why can’t we do that ? It can make us feel inferior.
Why should they have that and not me. We think in negative terms about the other person and about ourselves as well. You hope the other person will lose the object they received or it gets damaged. Maybe the ability they have will dwindle or they will lose it completely. If Only !
As we get older and mature hopefully we will come to understand our feelings. We will recognize envy for what it is and understand it is not a good emotion or behavior. When we realize we are envious we should be able to dissect our feelings and let go of the envy. Our self esteem will be affected by it if we cannot.
How do we use our feelings for the better ? First, look at the person you are envious of. What is it exactly that is causing you to be envious ? Is it a skill they have ? The way they look, speak or dress ? Something they own ? Do they have more knowledge ? Do they have better writing skills or speaking ability ?
For me, just thinking about it would not be enough. I am able to process most anything better by writing it all down, looking at it and maybe rearranging or crossing things out. It helps to get to the heart of the matter and discard what we realize is just frivolous.
Once you have done that, study it and decide what you could do to move forward. Just because someone else has a skill or ability that you either do not have, or are not as proficient at, does not make the other person “better” than you.
So now what ? I see this as a growth opportunity. No reason to continue feeling envious. Do something about it. Do something to increase your ability, your skill set. You think they have better writing skills, take a writing class. There are many on line classes available such as:
Better speaking skills ? You guessed it, take a class. There are many free classes you can use:
The way you dress has been proven over and over again. People will judge you as you walk into the room.
“The first thing others see is YOU—not your resume, background, or credentials. A picture is truly worth a thousand words and how you dress is the “picture” you provide for all the world to see.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Preparation: 8 Ways to Plan with Purpose & Intention for Positive Impact
Dressing for success can be expensive but it does not have to be. Where you shop and what you buy can make all the difference.
Each of us is human and we each have our own set of issues. Life does not come with instructions and most of us learn from the examples of our parents and teachers; right or wrong. The great thing is that we can change. We can learn and we can improve. We do not have to accept the status quo, we can move forward to a better life.
We will have bumps along the way; that is just the way it is. But we can learn from them. Do you have envy toward someone ? Then use it to become better. Use it as a opportunity to learn new skills and to improve your life.
Truth be told we will always feel envy toward someone. It is a human response to what is perceived as something being unfair. It may indeed actually be unfair and there may not be a way to “fix” it.
If we are envious and we come to the conclusion that there is nothing that can be done then what do we do ? I think it is important to just accept it. If you can’t it will drive you bonkers. It will create stress and anxiety which in turn could lead to health issues. Let it go. Get help, if necessary, to work you way through it.
To make it easier accepting that you cannot change the situation try to change your focus. Think about what you do have and what you are capable of doing. Ask yourself if what the other person has or does is really what you want or need. If you could be a duplicate of the other person would that really make you happy ? Not likely.
Relax, be happy. Lead a life of gratitude for what you do have and always strive to improve. I would call that a good life.
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a wonderful day.