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Let’s Be Different! It’s OK, Really, And Here Is Why

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If you’re always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be,

Maya Angelou

I have always been one of those people who always played it safe. It felt safer to go about my life without drawing attention to myself. Don’t say this, don’t wear that, be careful of my facial expressions and tone of voice. Heaven forbid, don’t raise my voice, do not question and, do not make direct eye contact.

I was painfully shy as a young child, and an introvert as a young adult. Not awkwardly so, but I never put myself out there. I became comfortable and accepting of that. As I entered the work force it was a challenge. It was necessary to push myself. In some ways I guess you could say I became two people and it worked.

It was never easy, but so very necessary to be able to loosen up enough to communicate well. It felt so uncomfortable at first. It was itchy, prickly uncomfortable like I was wearing wool underwear. You know, like feeling you wanted to get out of your skin, shed it like a snake.

Thank goodness, I am a calm person. At least most of the time. I can sort of suck my breath in and then relax myself. Not something that someone can see ( I don’t think), but an internal process–sort of like a minuscule meditation in my mind and body. I do internalize most everything. It works for me. I am not sure I would recommend it, though.

All of us are different. We each have multiple layers, and that’s okay. It would be boring if we were all the same. What the heck would we talk about? What would we do? We might as well be robots.

Having lived all these years, I finally have come to the conclusion that it is okay to be different, and I wish I had realized that earlier in life. I wish I could have been that slightly wacky person who everyone laughed at but secretly wanted to be.

The game of life is best played not merely by the rules but with a sense of imagination and childlike wonder.

~Anne Scottlin

Remember Pippi Longstockings? Different, heck ya, but so exciting and so fun. I think we should be more like that. More relaxed, less intense, and seeing the delight in everyday life.

Sure, we have to be serious sometimes, but we should not have to conform to every rule and every way of doing something. I believe the people who are different, and a little quirky, have so much to add to life. They bring a different perspective and a refreshing flavor, or nuance, to everything. They make things more interesting.

In personal relationships and professional settings, it is essential to listen to all viewpoints. I think there is a tendency to assume that being conservative is always the best way. By following that way of thinking, we bypass that unique little nuance that could make everything much more exciting and enjoyable.

I know I am not alone in putting on a front, a facade, to the outside world. We do not show our true selves, we don’t put it all out there . The reason will be different for each of us. Self-preservation comes to mind, being fearful, wanting to fit in and be accepted.

Everyone is unique. If you are confident and vivacious, or shy and quiet, it is okay. Be who you are. Trying to conform is tiring, irritating, and it is not necessary. Be yourself. If you are different than everyone else celebrate. Let all of your layers show. You can be shy and quiet and be quirky too. You can be confident and vivacious but also an introvert.

Life is short. Enjoy it. Do something different, something unexpected. Be Pippi Longstockings. Mix it up. Be a little crazy on occasion. How many of us do the same thing every day, day in and day out, and repeat! Boring.

Change it up!. Listen to your inner self and try something new. As a result, you will shine and be amazing.

By being different, you gain a different mindset. You will question the way things are accomplished and also why. You will think about ways to do them differently and make them better. It is easy to accept the status quo, and it becomes uncomfortable to make the needed changes. Not making those changes can lead to a boring, stagnant mindset. Be different and make a change. It is a good thing for everyone.

You are more interesting. We are attracted to people who are different, wacky in a good way. We want to know them, we are curious about them and sometimes we wish we were them. If you do things differently than everyone else, you dress differently, talk differently, you will be intriguing. People will want to know more about you.

You will be a more confident stronger individual. When I was working hard to advance at work, it was exhausting at times because I was trying so hard to conform and be the person I thought I was required to be. It was challenging to be all those things and still maintain who I was. In the end, I became a much stronger person, a better person.

Being different helps you appreciate other people. You will understand and accept other people who are different, while still accepting those who more readily conform. You will easily make good quality friendships.

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” 

Apple Inc.

Let’s be amazing! Be different and embrace all your quirkiness.

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Today I Took A Break-Here’s Why You Should Too

Today I took a break, a much needed break. Life can sometimes overwhelm me. Lately I have pushed myself too much. My tendency is to think I can do it all while I know I cannot.

The last two weeks have been full of research, writing and trying to incorporate what I am slowly learning into this blog. I have also tried to write a few articles in a different format. Of course, I want to do it all and do it well.

In the last few days I have realized I am being unrealistic. I am just me. Someone with big dreams but not enough time right now. I haven’t figured out a way to cram it all in.

Two days in a row I felt ill, starting to shake for no reason and having to stop. My body felt weak. I am sure it was trying to tell me something. It was telling me to reevaluate, slow down and find a better way.

““Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.” –William Burroughs

So today I went to my gardens. I love to dig in the dirt. It is something I learned from my father. His garden was filled with vegetables and mine with flowers, glorious flowers. They sing to me.

Flowers are my therapy. They feed my soul. Give me a shovel, dirt, a wheelbarrow, some mulch and let me create magic. My magic. Do I feel better right now? Oh, my yes.

In the winter when it is cold and everything is covered with snow I dream of spring and the arrival of all the birds and the trees budding and spring flowers popping out of the ground. I pour through gardening books and catalogs. What will I do this year?

Everyone needs their own magic, something you love to do that creates a special place for you to go. It does not have to be a garden and you don’t have to love digging in the dirt. You do need something that will soothe your soul. Something that will relax you, invigorate you. Something that will take you away for a little while.

Today I read two articles about how we do, or attempt to do, too much. We work long hours and we get stressed out. To be successful we believe it is necessary to do more.

That was where I was, I thought I had to do more each day. My body told me otherwise.

So what can you do? There is so much.

  • Music. How wonderful is music? It can transport us and either rock your world or soothe your soul. Listening to music is a wonderful thing to do.
  • Reading. I love to read and a well written story can take you away into another world. I lived in books as a child, could not get enough of them. Books are a wonderful escape, an adventure and a learning experience. They offer so much.
  • Exercise. We should all be doing more of that. With me it is a love-hate relationship but it can be a wonderful release. It will calm you and invigorate you too. Yoga, I love yoga. You should try it. Yoga is relaxing, calming and it will make you feel wonderful.
  • Meditation. Love it or hate it? I have not mastered that art but I want to. It is another practice that will calm you and help release stress. Meditation can be practiced in conjunction with yoga, so they are a win-win duo.
  • Spending time outside. Going to a park, walking, kayaking, photography, karate. Take your pick.

We work hard but we need to be mindful of the effect working too hard can have on our physical and mental well being, When we walk away for even a short time we bring back a clear mind and a fresh approach. It allows us to be more productive and more creative.

Work hard but take a break. It is good for you.