“Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is.”
Where do you keep your dreams? Are they stored in your heart or floating somewhere in space? Do you bring them out to play or push them away? Do you tell yourself maybe someday or just shake your head and say “no way”?
“Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.”
― Roy T. Bennett
Do not store away your dreams. Dreams are the core of us, our center, our soul. They are the best of us, something we hope for but do not quite believe.
Do not let your dreams fade away. Bring them out of storage, dust them off and write about them. Share your dreams and let them fly. Make them real.
Write about them! The simple act of writing them down, whether it be in a personal journal, a blog or story will bring your dreams to life.
When your dreams are written down, you can see them and reach out and touch them. They have substance, and they become real.
You now have a different perspective, a different expectation. You believe your dream is something you can achieve.
There you are taking that dream and making a plan on how to make it work. WooHoo! Do your Happy Dance.
That is what I am learning about writing. It can be so exciting and so powerful. The act of writing opens up so many pathways within me. Literally. Pathways between the right and left hemisphere of my brain.
A study done by Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at the Dominican University in California, found that you become 42% more likely to achieve your goals and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis.
It is the way our brains work. The right hemisphere of our brain performs tasks that have to do with creativity and the arts. It holds our imagination. That is where we store our dreams. The left hemisphere performs the tasks that have to do with logic, like math and science.
A bundle of neural fibers called the Corpus Callosum connects the right and left hemispheres. Electrical signals move back and forth between them. They also travel up and down our spinal column and in the fluid that surrounds our brain.
When you write down your dreams and goals, the act of writing, allows the connection between your left and right hemispheres. Your thoughts and dreams become connected with your logical side. They become opportunities.
It then becomes logical and something you can do. It is no longer just a dream. There it is in black and white. You can see it, feel it, and touch it, and you can actively work toward achieving it.
I believe we all have ideas and dreams randomly floating in our brain. The right hemisphere to be correct. We have big and little aspirations. By writing my blog, I have opened my pathways, connecting the right with the left. Writing has let me know myself better. It encourages me to do those things I kept pushing away. You know, the things we would like to do but tell ourselves me can’t.
Think of all the people with their dreams tucked away. Think of yourself. What are your dreams? Write them down, look at them, touch them and breathe life into them.
Dreams and aspirations are an essential part of who we are. Write about them.
What can a pencil do for all of us? Amazing things. It can write transcendent poetry, uplifting music, or life-changing equations; it can sketch the future, give life to untold beauty, and communicate the full-force of our love and aspirations.
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Go ahead, write about your dream today.
Bad things happen to all of us. What I may consider a bad thing someone else may think, “that’s not so bad” and vice versa. We each have our own story, our own life events, big & small, and our own perceptions and ways to deal with our “bad” things.
Sometimes we do not
deal with them at all and just accept them which is a truly bad choice. Ironically, I think we let the bad things
affect us more than we do the good things.
We give them power, power over us.
So what should we do ?
First, I think we
have to acknowledge that it happened. It
is amazing how we can ignore “stuff” and push it into a corner
somewhere. Why do we do that ?
It is possible to let our reactions to the bad things simmer on a back burner somewhere. We react to all things, good or bad, emotionally. We are human; it is part of our DNA.
I am not as certain about other generations and how they react but I know I learned at a very early age that reacting emotionally was not always a good thing. As a child growing up there were few displays of emotions; if there were I do not remember them. You learn how to react from the example of your family, in particular your parents. I do remember guilt and I not know if that is a result of displaying emotions or my perception that it was not okay to share them.
We make excuses for bottling up emotions for many reasons. We do not want people to judge us. We do not want to be embarrassed. No one wants to be considered as being weak.
All of these affect pretty much everything we do. Should we let them ? I have been reading some articles (I seem to be doing a lot of that lately) and there appears to be different opinions. Some people think we should just ignore the “bad” things and treat them as if they are not important so why should we think about them.
My personal experience is the opposite and believe me I tried. I just could not get them out of my mind. I would be fine and then something would trigger me and there it was. It made me sad, it was humiliating; how could I have let that happen, why didn’t I stop sooner. I suffered and I did it in silence.
I did not share those feelings with anyone and I wonder now if anyone really knew what I was going through. I was trying to maintain everything in my life but looking back I know that much of what happened during that time was influenced by how I was “dealing” with it.
Others believe we should seek out help and I so wish that I had. I think it is really important to deal with it as soon as possible. I did not have a good support group. There was no one at work that I trusted and I was divorced so I did not have a spouse I could talk to and I was not comfortable talking to family. I wish I had gone to a therapist.
Seeking out professional help is not a bad thing to do and you should not be embarrassed about doing it. They will be non-judgmental in a private setting which will allow you to be more open and honest about your experience and reactions. It is a safe haven.
For me the hardest part of dealing with my bad experiences is forgiving myself. The hours I have spent going over and over them in my mind. The sleep I have lost. The affect it has had on virtually everything in my life and it was because I did not deal with it. I thought I was. If I had brought all my angst out into the open I would have been so much better off. Time lost, feelings hurt and the list goes on.
Now after many years I have arrived at a point where I am more comfortable with it, where I have accepted the feelings and let them go (for the most part). I have decided not to punish myself any longer. I am human and I have made mistakes and I have forgiven myself.
I have also apologized to my children, more than once, and now having written this I will apologize again. Before I die I will again. That is my deepest regret, that I hurt them. My angst should not have been theirs and I know it was.
” There are so many great things in life; why dwell on negativity? ” Zendaya
So what can you do in the future ? Here are some suggestions:
Build a support group. A close friend(s), develop a mentor at work or at church. Talk to a professional.
Accept your past and deal with it a piece at a time. Do not let it overwhelm you & do not store it away somewhere.
Confide in and apologize to any one who may have been affected by your actions and be willing to accept the consequences.
Make a plan for how you want to move forward and
Set goals for how you are going to complete you plan.
“Attitude is a
choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice.
Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you.