Balance is not something you find, it’s something you create
Look at that crazy man in the image above. Have you ever felt you were balancing on a wire above a wide-open space with a long, long way down? You are desperately trying to maintain that balance and not fall!
Life is all about maintaining balance. Keeping all your ducks in a row and not letting them drift away.
What do you think about each morning when you first wake up? Usually, I think about what is on the schedule today, what do I have to do? What is most important, what should I do first? Do I have to do that now or can it wait?
If I were still working for someone else, it would be more defined. My schedule is much more relaxed now, but it is still necessary to maintain one. I think everyone should have one.
It is all about balance. We have a list of things we need to do to maintain our personal life, and there is also a list for our professional life. There always seems to be an adjustment needed. There is the unexpected, something small which can be set aside for now or something big which you cannot ignore. Everything is interconnected and is affected by any change.
Some days it seems impossible. You want to scream, throw your hands up in frustration, and walk away. But you can’t. In most cases, we get through the day by doing one thing at a time, making adjustments as we go. You figure out a way to gain control again.
Tomorrow will be better. What if it isn’t? What if you are out of balance. Not just a little bit, but where all your connecting bits and pieces do not fit anymore. You feel drained of all your energy and are exhausted at the end of the day. You are irritated and out of sorts. Nothing is working, and you are not accomplishing what you need to do.
Help! What can you do?
First, think about all those bits and pieces and how you are attempting to manage them now. The way you are doing things is not working. You have to be committed to making a change. If you continue on the same course, nothing is going to change, and it will get worse.
It’s time to make some changes. Put your current plan, or schedule, on a paper or a chalk board. Something you can see clearly and it is easy to cross, or wipe, off as you make adjustments. Make an assessment. Remember you are trying to put every aspect of your life in focus. They all interconnect. You cannot change one without it affecting the other.
What should be in your plan? Maybe, you were leaving something out before and that is why your plan was not working. Make a list. It is so easy to concentrate on work but you leave out the personal stuff thinking you can squeeze it in. Nope, it does not work that way.
What should you include?
Work, that is how you make your living.
Your family and relationships. Their schedules all intertwine with yours.
Money and budgets, all the financial stuff, you cannot forget about that.
Health. Include time for physical fitness; it should be part of your schedule. You should also be including time for the doctor and dentist and all your, and your family’s health needs.
Socialization. Take time to be with friends and family.
Religion. You should also include time for any religious activity in which you want to participate.
What is the most significant, most important activity? What comes next? Start moving things around and keep making adjustments. It is the time to think about what needs to be part of your plan and what isn’t that important. Can you eliminate anything. What has value?
When you have a plan you think will work, put it into action, and see if it works. Keep making adjustments as needed. This activity warrants your time because it is what will keep your life in balance. It should not be something you do on occasion when you realize it no longer works. You need to assess what is working and what is not. It is much easier to make mini adjustments as they are required instead of a total overhaul.
As always, thank you for reading my blog. I’m so happy that reading is part of your schedule. It’s important. Have a wonderful balanced day.
There is a better version of me. I know there is. Everyone has one but it is easy to just ride the wave of good. You know, good, better, best? It’s comfortable being good.
We are not perfect human beings, nor do we have to pretend to be, but it is necessary for us to be the best version of ourselves we can be.
I do not remember a time when I did not want to be better. I’m not sure I always recognized that I was good. This is probably true of most people.
What steps can we take to become the best version of ourselves?
Recognize where you are now. What are your strengths and weaknesses. Build on your strengths and look for ways to eliminate your weaknesses.
Make the commitment to change. I think about doing things all the time, like exercise. I think about it, I actually want to and I know I need to. Problem is I have not committed to doing it.
Develop a plan. Recognize where you are now and what you want to do. Determine what steps to take to achieve your goals. Then start acting on them.
Have a support system. Tell someone, a friend, your family, your coach or mentor. Discussing your plans and your progress makes it all real. You will benefit from their support and recognition.
Schedule a time every day to read. Even just 30 minutes a day will be beneficial. Reading is relaxing, it introduces us to new ideas and expands our minds.
Strive to exercise everyday. Exercise is so beneficial. It is relaxing, it helps us sleep better, makes us stronger mentally and physically. Experts say just 30 minutes a day will help us.
Determine a time frame to complete your goals. Make sure you are comfortable with it. Realize this should be realistic and flexible. It is important to choose a length of time that is not too short and not too long. If it is too short it may be too stressful and you will think it is unattainable and give up. If it is too long the tendency may be to approach it with an attitude of “it’s okay, I can work on this tomorrow”. With that approach you likely not achieve your plan.
Celebrate your successes. It is important to acknowledge that you were successful. It makes you feel great and it will reinforces your behavior. Celebrating is a great motivator.
Becoming a better version of yourself is an ongoing process. Develop a plan to get better and do everything you can to complete it knowing when you finish you will be better. Do Not Stop There. Continue to do all the things you were doing.
Life goes on and things change. There will always be reasons to grow, adapt and get better. Always strive to be the best version of yourself.
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a great day!