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Quote Of The Day

Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

Albert Einstein
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Quote Of The Day

Hearts that beat to the tune of kindness can change the rhythm of the world.”

C.J. Peterson
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Quote Of The Day

Everything happens for a reason, live it, love it, learn from it! Make your smile change the world, but don’t let the world change your smile.”

–unknown author
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Quote Of The Day

“Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color your world. Constantly color your picture gray, and your picture will always be bleak. Try adding some bright colors to the picture by including humor, and your picture begins to lighten up.”

Allen Klein
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Quote Of The Day

When I look into the eyes of an animal I do not see an animal. I see a living being. I see a friend. I feel a soul.”

A.D. Williams

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How To Practice Empathy And To Improve Your Life

People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Maya Angelou

This quote by Maya Angelou defines the meaning of empathy for me.

The definition of empathy is the ability to understand things from another person’s perspective. It is the ability to share someone else’s feelings and emotions and understand why they have those feelings.

In my mind, I have been able to achieve empathy if I connect with someone on such a level that I understand their feelings. I also need to leave them with good, positive feelings they will not forget.

How wonderful it would be if we could all connect on such a high level, that we all walked away, feeling better, and remembering how we felt.

Empathy is essential in all aspects of life, both in our personal lives and at work. It helps us understand how others are feeling so we can respond appropriately to the situation.

Empathetic people are more generous and concerned with the well being of others. They usually have stronger and happier relationships, and tend to be happier themselves.

At work, if you are empathetic, your communication skills will be more skilled. You will be better able to understand both coworkers and customers. You will be better at understanding the motivations and fear of your coworkers.

Here are tips to help you increase your ability to communicate and be empathetic.

Smile. So simple to do and so effective. When you share a genuine smile with someone, they will automatically feel better and so will you.

Acknowledge other people by knowing their name and using it to have interactions with them as often as possible. I remember having a boss who would not even hold a door for an employee and rarely used someone’s name. He had a very negative affect. A small gesture makes someone feel good and can have a significant impact on building rapport.

We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.”

Carl Rogers

Learn and use non-verbal communications with everyone. Studies show that a high percentage of our communication is through our body language. Learn to be aware of the messages you give off when talking to an individual or a group. What you say should be 100% in tune with what your actions are showing.

You should also be able to understand the body language of others. A one on one conversation, or a group, there is much being said when no one is speaking. When you are in a group of people, it can be enlightening to watch and see the interactions of others.

Recognize the achievements of others. It feels so good when someone gives a compliment or acknowledges that you have done a great job. Recognizing someone’s abilities does not happen enough, and it can have such a positive effect.

Practice having meaningful conversations with people. There is a tendency today not to communicate one on one and for conversations to be superficial. The use of cell phones, email, and social media has changed how we interact. It is challenging to practice empathy when we no longer take the time to talk face to face. When was the last time you had a real conversation?

Being empathetic is a combination of skills that we should be familiar with, and hopefully, practice. It is a connection with yourself, your emotions, and your feelings. It is also the ability to be able to connect with the emotions and feelings of others.

It will be easy for some and difficult for others, but it can be a learned skill. The most crucial piece of the puzzle is wanting to and being able to make a connection with others.

Practice by spending some time actively watching and listening. Be there in the moment and think about how you feel, what reaction you have. Then take it a step further by imagining the opinions and feelings of other people in the room.

We all have our assumptions and beliefs and it is too easy to make judgments. We need to be able to see why other people have views different than ours. We also need to acknowledge and respect their right to those feelings. We should be able and open to having a conversation. Talking and asking questions should be the most straightforward and most direct path to understanding and empathy.

Empathy is being able to see things, big and little, from different perspectives. Small actions practiced every day will develop a reputation for being caring, trustworthy, and approachable. So go ahead, smile, use people’s names, give others your full attention. Be interested in their lives and what they do, give encouragement and recognition for a job well done.

Power Of Empathy

I’m in it with you. I’m not here to fix you. I’m not here to feel it for you. I’m here to feel with you and let you know you are not alone.”

~ Dr. Brene Brown

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Self Improvement – Taking The Time To Ask Questions – A Journey Of Self Discovery

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

― Lao Tzu

Are you satisfied? I am never satisfied with myself, and I am 73 years old. There is always something more to do and plans to make. I want to make myself better. I want to learn more. I want to never settle into a stagnant life.

I realize there will always be intrusions. There will always be interruptions and obligations, but I sometimes chafe over that responsibility.

I have always let life shape me and often watched as I let it hold me back. Now, I am questioning why. At this time in my life it is not past the time to shape myself. I could look at my life, my age, and tell myself it is too late. That is not true. As long as I breath, I can learn and change. I can get better.

It is time to reassess and to ask myself some important questions. How do I want to live the next years of my life? What is important and what do I need to change?

What about you; do you want to make changes too? Here are some questions to ask.

Are you happy? That is an important question; one we should ask ourselves all the time. It should not be too difficult to answer. We should know, although I personally think there are layers, or levels, of happiness.

Do you feel good mentally and physically? We all have a tendency to ignore our own feelings and our health. We think of the people who we love and have an emotional connection with, before ourselves.

Are we learning new things? This is an important one for me. It is so important to have an active mind. There are so many options for doing research, and learning new things. Make it a habit to introduce something new into your life.

How meaningful is what you currently are doing, either work or personal activities? Do you feel like what you do matters? Does it add value to your life, or to someone else’s?

How can I get better? I ask myself this one all the time. I am new to blogging and writing and I am always looking for ways to improve. Asking ourselves that question could apply to any aspect of our life.

Do I procrastinate? I do, I know I do, and I am trying to establish habits to be better. I believe a high percentage of us procrastinate. Just think about how much more effective we would be if we pushed ourselves to simply step up and get it done.

What else should I be thinking about? Life constantly evolves and so are we. The questions we ask should also change to reflect the changes in our life.

Following this simple exercise on a continual basis can be life altering. One that will change us and make us better in every aspect of life.

I think of it as taking control of my life instead of life controlling me.

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always be where you’ve always been.”

T.D. Jakes