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Quote Of The Day

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”

 -Anais Nin
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The 10 Ways You Can Easily Make Changes And Improve Your Life

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Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave or lose. To the question of your life, you are the only answer. To the problems of your life, you are the only solution.”

Jo Coudert

In my last post, I indicated that I am taking a step back to reassess and get some much-needed tasks done and out of my way. Life was too cluttered, messy, and irritating. I was having a hard time finding my focus.

I intend to do a large amount of cleaning. Get rid of unneeded items in my home and, just as important, in my mind. I need to be clearer in my direction, my intentions.

I am going to, for the time being, post just one blog a week. I will also post one quote a day, as usual, so no change there.

Finding my way is sometimes frustrating, and I think it is important to become more focused, more clearly defined. So that is what I will be attempting to do.

Here are some of the things I am going to use.

  • Find a clear path. Right now, I feel like I am a jumbled mess, and that cannot continue. My mind is racing trying to put everything in perspective and decide what is right for me as far as my blog is concerned. I need to find a clear separation from the rest of my life so that it is compatible with my writing. So far, it is a slow process.
  • Take one step at a time. One of my problems has been trying to do too many tasks at once. I knew what I wanted to accomplish, but I was attempting to do it all at once. Now I realize that was not realistic, and here I am. I need to make a new plan and stick to it, so I do not fall back into my habit of trying to do everything at once.
  • Don’t overthink it. I am a great one for overthinking. My mind runs rampant with all the possibilities, which to tell you the truth can be exhausting. Whoa, slow down. It is easy to become so immersed in all these possibilities that you lose focus on that one small thing you need to do now. Keep it simple, and stick with one step, and when you are done with that step, move on to the next.
  • Don’t place too much value on the length of time you may have been working on something. I realized that I needed to make a change, but it does not always work that way. I could have easily kept going in the same pattern and not accomplished what I wanted because that is what most of us do. We lose track of our main objective and feel we need to push through and keep going. Each day we have the opportunity to change our life. Do it. Take one small step today and put it on repeat by doing it again tomorrow.
  • Find a support system. That is one of the problems I have. For the most part, I am doing this on my own. It is not easy, and it can be overwhelming. If you have family or friends who can help you, ask for their help. If that is not possible and you can afford it, hire someone to help with all the little things you do not understand or cannot do. Enlist whatever help you can; it is important, and it will make your life so much easier, and help eliminate stress.
  • Don’t be a “Negative Nancy.” It is so easy to let your mind wander when you are attempting something new, and inevitably it will fill with negative thoughts. Why do we do that? When it does happen, chose not to listen. Instead think of all the reasons it is important to you. You are capable; just keep taking those small steps forward.
  • Challenge yourself. The world is full of wonderful possibilities. Let go of the past and change your mindset. It is so easy not to believe in your capabilities. It does not take any effort to stay the same and not improve, but there is no reward in that. Being stagnant and not growing is no fun. I am slightly older, and it would be so easy to putter around the house and not change, but that would be so boring.
  • Get rid of clutter. That is my intention. There is so much of it because of my small business which I closed, and all the other personal things I own but do not need. I have always resisted letting things go, but not anymore. All the physical property I do not need is leaving. Remember, clutter can also exist in your mind. As humans, it is easy to let ourselves get in a mental rut. Don’t do that! Clean out the cobwebs and try something new.
  • Be sure to take care of yourself. Life can be hectic, and we tend to take care of everyone else before we think of ourselves as an afterthought. Take a breath, slow down, and relax. Eat healthy foods, exercise, spend time with family and friends. Rest.
  • Step back and analyze the changes you are making. That is what I am doing right now. It is important. I realize now that I could not have kept going at the same pace. It was not so much a physical pace as it was mental. I was causing myself stress. It is important not to push yourself too much without knowing where you are going or what you have accomplished. You can have a plan but get lost in it. Make sure you understand what you have accomplished so far and how it makes you feel. Do not forget to ask yourself if you are happy.

“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.”

-Winston Churchill

So my quest is not to be perfect because I do not believe in perfection. I would much rather be flawed. I do believe in change, and that is what I am continually doing—always adjusting my time frame.

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How To Achieve The Best Version Of Yourself

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“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”

–Golda Meir

We all have dreams. Inside we have little sparks, desires, to be a better version of ourselves.

Life is full of possibility, but it is up to each of us to step outside our comfort zone and take a risk.

We will never know what could happen if we do not try. There is so much potential, all we have to do is make the decision to take that first step, and then another.

The only person who can is us. No one else can, or will do it for us, nor should we want them to.

What dream do you have? How can you be sure you are always working toward making yourself the best version of you?

Ask yourself what is really important and then have the wisdom and courage to build your life around your answer.”

unknown author

Making a change is a little bit like Yoga; there is a lot of stretching involved. You have to stretch yourself mentally and emotionally to make changes in your life. You are creating a different mindset.

Start by taking one small step, followed by another, then another. You do not have to start with a major change, start small, and as you build confidence, move forward from there.

Realize there are no set rules to follow. Everyone is different, and what might work for one will not for someone else. If someone tells you not to do it a certain way, ask why not. Create you own rules for how to improve yourself. You are doing this for you, not them. You have to be comfortable with your decisions.

Remember that you are important and have value. You are the only you. No one else looks like you, thinks like you, has the same thoughts or emotions. Every one has something special about them. Be comfortable with who you are, and do not try to be a carbon copy of someone else. Let your light shine. Believe in yourself.

I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.”

Lucille Ball

Do not be afraid. There are many things in life that we decide are too difficult, and that we are not good enough, talented enough, smart enough to do. Take a risk and go for it. It may require hard work, long hours, mental strain, sore muscles. Focus on the benefits, and if you power through to the end, the feeling of accomplishment you will feel at the end will be worth it.

Slow down and remember to enjoy the small things. Take a walk, go out to dinner with friends and family, read a book, spend time in the garden. Remember to be thankful for the good things you already have in your life. smile, laugh and tell someone you appreciate them.

I believe that everyone is a work in progress. We should always want to be better in some way, and we can always learn something new. Life is an adventure, and we should savor every little bit of it. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not here yet. We have today, this moment in time, and we are promised no more. Every moment is a gift. Make the most of the moments you have by fanning those little sparks you have within you.

“It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.” 

–Oprah Winfrey
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Quote Of The Day

“Of all the liars in the world, sometimes the worst are our own fears.”

— Rudyard Kipling
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Quote Of The Day

“The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.”

Kp Lyrikz
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As always, thanks for stopping by. Spend some time with someone who makes you a better person today.

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Let’s Be Different! It’s OK, Really, And Here Is Why

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If you’re always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be,

Maya Angelou

I have always been one of those people who always played it safe. It felt safer to go about my life without drawing attention to myself. Don’t say this, don’t wear that, be careful of my facial expressions and tone of voice. Heaven forbid, don’t raise my voice, do not question and, do not make direct eye contact.

I was painfully shy as a young child, and an introvert as a young adult. Not awkwardly so, but I never put myself out there. I became comfortable and accepting of that. As I entered the work force it was a challenge. It was necessary to push myself. In some ways I guess you could say I became two people and it worked.

It was never easy, but so very necessary to be able to loosen up enough to communicate well. It felt so uncomfortable at first. It was itchy, prickly uncomfortable like I was wearing wool underwear. You know, like feeling you wanted to get out of your skin, shed it like a snake.

Thank goodness, I am a calm person. At least most of the time. I can sort of suck my breath in and then relax myself. Not something that someone can see ( I don’t think), but an internal process–sort of like a minuscule meditation in my mind and body. I do internalize most everything. It works for me. I am not sure I would recommend it, though.

All of us are different. We each have multiple layers, and that’s okay. It would be boring if we were all the same. What the heck would we talk about? What would we do? We might as well be robots.

Having lived all these years, I finally have come to the conclusion that it is okay to be different, and I wish I had realized that earlier in life. I wish I could have been that slightly wacky person who everyone laughed at but secretly wanted to be.

The game of life is best played not merely by the rules but with a sense of imagination and childlike wonder.

~Anne Scottlin

Remember Pippi Longstockings? Different, heck ya, but so exciting and so fun. I think we should be more like that. More relaxed, less intense, and seeing the delight in everyday life.

Sure, we have to be serious sometimes, but we should not have to conform to every rule and every way of doing something. I believe the people who are different, and a little quirky, have so much to add to life. They bring a different perspective and a refreshing flavor, or nuance, to everything. They make things more interesting.

In personal relationships and professional settings, it is essential to listen to all viewpoints. I think there is a tendency to assume that being conservative is always the best way. By following that way of thinking, we bypass that unique little nuance that could make everything much more exciting and enjoyable.

I know I am not alone in putting on a front, a facade, to the outside world. We do not show our true selves, we don’t put it all out there . The reason will be different for each of us. Self-preservation comes to mind, being fearful, wanting to fit in and be accepted.

Everyone is unique. If you are confident and vivacious, or shy and quiet, it is okay. Be who you are. Trying to conform is tiring, irritating, and it is not necessary. Be yourself. If you are different than everyone else celebrate. Let all of your layers show. You can be shy and quiet and be quirky too. You can be confident and vivacious but also an introvert.

Life is short. Enjoy it. Do something different, something unexpected. Be Pippi Longstockings. Mix it up. Be a little crazy on occasion. How many of us do the same thing every day, day in and day out, and repeat! Boring.

Change it up!. Listen to your inner self and try something new. As a result, you will shine and be amazing.

By being different, you gain a different mindset. You will question the way things are accomplished and also why. You will think about ways to do them differently and make them better. It is easy to accept the status quo, and it becomes uncomfortable to make the needed changes. Not making those changes can lead to a boring, stagnant mindset. Be different and make a change. It is a good thing for everyone.

You are more interesting. We are attracted to people who are different, wacky in a good way. We want to know them, we are curious about them and sometimes we wish we were them. If you do things differently than everyone else, you dress differently, talk differently, you will be intriguing. People will want to know more about you.

You will be a more confident stronger individual. When I was working hard to advance at work, it was exhausting at times because I was trying so hard to conform and be the person I thought I was required to be. It was challenging to be all those things and still maintain who I was. In the end, I became a much stronger person, a better person.

Being different helps you appreciate other people. You will understand and accept other people who are different, while still accepting those who more readily conform. You will easily make good quality friendships.

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” 

Apple Inc.

Let’s be amazing! Be different and embrace all your quirkiness.

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Beware – Energy Vampires – 7 Ways To Protect Yourself

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Come here my little pretty, let me suck away your energy. I’m hungry I need to feed!

People feed off each other’s energy. When you walk into a room, can you feel the energy, the vibe, what the other people are feeling?

Is it positive or is it negative? Does it make you comfortable, or do you want to turn around and walk away?

Sometimes it takes just one person to change the atmosphere of a room. Just like they had sucked the energy out of it.

That is bad under any circumstance but worse in the workplace. In a social gathering you can walk away. You can distance yourself from an acquaintance or friend. It is not so easy to do that at work.

How’s your energy? Do you have positive energy or negative energy? How do you feel every day? Are you usually positive and feel great, or are you more negative and feel down most of the time?

What determines our energy? It has a lot to do with what has happened in our past and how we have dealt with those things that shaped us. Our mindset and how we cope with life challenges have a significant impact on our energy. Whatever our perception of events around us and what we think about the most also affect our energy.

We love to be around positive people. They make us feel better, and we are more relaxed.

We usually are uncomfortable around negative people. They make us feel on edge and tense being near them.

It is not always easy to identify an Energy Vampire, especially when we first meet someone. They can be very charismatic. You may want to spend time with them. Until you don’t.

Have you ever spent time with someone, and at the end of the day you feel drained or overwhelmed? It could be a friend that you go to lunch with, or a colleague that you go with to a conference. You may be irritated, anxious and even depressed.

Why do you feel that way? What did you talk about, and did they have a negative attitude? Did you attempt to talk about something important to you, and they made you feel stupid to feel that way?

When you interact with anyone, and you walk away feeling drained, you have just spent time with an Energy Vampire.

An Energy Vampire tries to absorb your positive energy for themselves. Their purpose is to feel better about themselves. They lack empathy and are only concerned with their feelings.

I used to have that experience over and over with the same person. They needed a shoulder to cry on, and I was always there. Each time I would feel irritated and emotionally drained. It became worse as time went by. They never did anything to change their situation, but they always came back looking for that shoulder. I finally stopped. I could not take it anymore.

How do we protect ourselves from an Energy Vampire?

  • Determine what is acceptable for you. You may be in a situation where you cannot separate yourself from the vampire person. It may be a boss, a co-worker, or a relative. Do the next best thing. Set some boundaries for yourself. If possible explain what you can or cannot do. Remain positive and firm in your decisions.
  • Be passive and do not react. Be neutral and do not argue or dispute what they say. Energy Vampires seek out reactions from others which will increase their desire to keep interacting with you. Stop, be quiet, and let them talk. Hopefully, they will become bored and walk away.
  • Be positive and talk about positive topics. Smile, laugh. Steer the conversation away from anything negative or judgmental. Energy Vampires are melodramatic and can be manipulative. They like to complain and gossip. They tend to be jealous and resentful. Do not provide them with the environment they are seeking.
  • Learn to say no. When you say no, you are automatically taking away the ability for someone to steal your energy. There are many times when we automatically say yes to someone and then almost immediately regret it. We regret it because we know it is going to sap our energy. Learn to say no.
  • Spend as much time as possible with positive people that you feel good being around. Identify those who drain your energy and spend the smallest amount of time with them. Look for ways to eliminate them from your life.
  • Do a self evaluation. What upsets you about another person? You may have an issue in your life that you do not realize, and you attract the same type of person in your life. You may feel insecure on some level, or not worthy. Helping an Energy Vampire may make you feel needed. Once you realize and correct whatever issue you are having. the vampire moves on to find another source of energy.
  • Commit to doing what makes you feel good, what makes you feel happy. The better you are at taking care of yourself, the less likely Energy Vampires will be able to suck your energy.

Life can be busy and sometimes overwhelming. We need all the energy we have. Take care of yourself. Do whatever you can to rest, relax, and enjoy your life. Stay away from the Energy Vampires. Garlic, anyone?

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