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Quote Of The Day

“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.”

–Willie Nelson

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As always, thanks for stopping by. Enjoy your simple blessings today.

Posted in Inspiration, Joy, Life, Personal Development, Positive Thinking, Relationships

Quote Of The Day

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”

–Wayne Dyer
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As always, thanks for stopping by. Have a great day.

Posted in Inspiration, Joy, Life, Personal Development, Positive Thinking, Potential

Quote Of The Day

“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”

–Brené Brown

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As always, thanks for stopping by. Have a lovely day.

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Quote Of The Day

“I was looking for someone to inspire me, motivate me, support me, keep me focused… Someone who would love me, cherish me, make me happy, and I realized all along that I was looking for myself.”

~ Unknown

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As always, thanks for stopping by. Look for inspiration today.

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When Tragedy Strikes – Mass Shootings In America

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We all have expectations. There is a picture in our head of our perfect life. Those are our hopes and dreams.

As we experience each day, there is a rhythm, like a song we hum in our head. It is our life moving forward as we planned it. Each day fits inside our plan with some minor variations caused by the unexpected. Those small bumps that happen but they are minor. Nothing too eventful. We make some adjustments and then the rhythm continues.

Until that changes.

We don’t plan for those significant events that can come crashing down on us. The nasty events that are part of life, no one plans for them. We acknowledge that there is always a possibility of something life- shattering to hit us and obliterate us, but no one ever thinks it will happen.

When it does,life as we know it is gone, changed forever. There is no rhythm, the song we hummed in our head is over, it is out of tune, and there is no longer any comfort in it.

As I was beginning to write today, I was drawn to this topic. I did not understand why. It was making me uncomfortable. There have been no tragedies or life-altering events in my life or anyone close to me. I had no reason to write about this, and it was off topic of anything I would choose to write.

I was uncomfortable enough that I was contemplating deleting what I had written and start over. So I decided to take a break. I went outside with my dog and cat for a walk.

When I came back inside, my feelings had not changed, so I made a cup of coffee and decided to play a computer game. I felt I needed to understand this. As I was casually playing the game, my thoughts were weaving in and out of this writing topic. Then it dawned on me. I can put a name to it.

Two mass shootings within 24 hours. One in El Paso, Texas and one in Dayton, Ohio. It is overwhelming, and I did not realize the impact it was having on me.

How do the families of the victims cope? I cannot get my head around it. How do you adjust to it? This tragedy takes me back to Sandy Hook and the disbelief I felt that day. I was awash with grief for the parents and the siblings, other family members, and for the community. Sadness and grief overtook me then and again today.

I choose not to offer ways to cope today for these families or their communities. There are better people than I to take on that enormous task. I can only offer you my grief and my love and depth of feeling. Words do not suffice today.

We cannot let this continue. It has to stop. It cannot become our “new normal” as I heard questioned last night on the national news.

How have we come to this place in time? Why is there so much hate? Why the urge to kill those we do not know? Why are some of us so intolerant?

We cannot eliminate hate, but we can soften it, educate and change some people’s perspective. There will always be killings in some form or another.

It is time for change, and it is up to us. It is our responsibility.

There is one thing we can do. We can demand, as is our right, to ban any form of an assault rifle in the hands of any individual. These guns were created and designed for use by the military. That is where they belong.

An individual does not need a mass killing weapon.

I firmly believe that all assault-style weapons should be made illegal and confiscated.

Unfortunately, our President and the members of Congress, in particular, the Republicans, have not accepted their duty to do so.

Mass shootings should not be a political issue, but they are. The politicians are a large part of the problem. Those with their hands extended, accepting the money from lobbyists, in particular, the NRA. It should not be a money issue, but sadly, there will be money made.

It is not a mental illness issue or a hatred issue. It is not a glorification of violence or about troubled youth watching video games.

This is a moral issue. It is a compassion issue and a love for humanity issue.

It is bigger than any one individual. This is about all of us.

By not addressing the ability of any assault weapon to kill multiple people very quickly, we are showing to the world that Americans have no moral compass. We can save lives. Why aren’t we? Pass the damn law.

Only with gun violence do we respond to repeated tragedies by saying that mourning is acceptable but discussing how to prevent more tragedies is not. But that’s unacceptable. As others have observed, talking about how to stop mass shootings in the aftermath of a string of mass shootings isn’t ‘too soon”. It’s much too late.

Ezra Klein

As always, thank your for reading my blog. Have an uneventful day. I wish you all well.

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Diversity vs Inclusion – Do you Know The Difference ?

The best explanation I found is from: and I have included an excerpt from the lesson written by Beth Hendricks.

Diversity vs Inclusion

As the owner of a large business in his hometown, Ted has worked doubly hard to build a diverse workforce that represents people from all walks of life. Employees of different races, ethnicities, genders, ages and religion make up his 100-person team because he knows that diversity means good things for customer satisfaction, decision making, reaching goals, and growing his business.

The only problem is, Ted’s business isn’t inclusive. What? How’s that? How can a business be diverse, but not inclusive? Let’s take a closer look.

What Does Inclusion Mean?

There’s a lot of chatter today about diversity in the workforce, and that’s a good thing. Diversity, according to the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM), means ”the collective mixture of differences and similarities that includes, for example, individual and organizational characteristics, values, beliefs, experiences, backgrounds, preferences and behaviors.”

So, Ted’s workforce that includes women, different races, a mixture of older and younger employees, and people with different levels of education or skill sets is a good example of diversity at work. It means that Ted’s workplace environment should boast diverse perspectives, thoughts, and ideas that help the business succeed.

Except, that’s not what’s really happening.

Even though Ted is embracing the idea of diversity, he’s failing at inclusion. Inclusion, the SHRM says, is ”the achievement of a work environment in which all individuals are treated fairly and respectfully, have equal access to opportunities and resources, and can contribute fully to the organization’s success.”

Inclusion means that a diverse pool of employees are respected and valued, allowing them to reach their full potential while contributing to the success of the business as a whole. So, if diversity is represented as various puzzle pieces, inclusion represents what the puzzle looks like when everything is pieced together. In short, you can work in a diverse environment without working in an inclusive one.

Importance of Inclusion

Becoming an inclusive workplace is important for a number of reasons.

First, inclusion plugs the talent gap. With entire generations retiring from the workforce, it’s critical that businesses find qualified and talented people to pick up the torch and help grow a business.

Second, inclusion improves the decision-making process. Imagine having a room full of people with the same backgrounds, experiences, and ideas. There would be no one there to present a contrary viewpoint or draw from different life experiences to challenge people to think of things in a new way. People of different backgrounds help innovate and create solutions to problems. Working with people of varying backgrounds gives everyone an opportunity to learn and grow.

That was an excellent example of the difference between Diversity and Inclusion. Unfortunately I could not glean any additional information because you have to be a teacher or student to have complete access to that site. I included all of the above information because it was the best description I found and made the differences clear and easy to understand.

Diversity and Inclusion apply not only to our work environment but to every aspect of our life. Our understanding of both should start very early in our life.

It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength. Maya Angelou

Our attitude will be determined by many factors. The attitude of our parents and other family members, our teachers, our faith and the stranger on the street. When we embrace diversity and we also show them how how to be inclusive, particularly by our own example, we give our children a gift, a gift of beauty and of love.

So how do we teach our children about diversity and inclusion. When I was a young child we lived in a small village and there was no diversity, not any. So I did not have any examples to learn from. It was a white, white world. All my friends, all my parents friends, the entire school and community were white. Diversity and inclusion were not taught in school or even in our church.

I am showing my age because I find it difficult to imagine there are many places left like that. Then, of course, there is television, the internet, movies, and all sorts of exposure now that I did not have when I was growing up. I do not remember how old I was when we had our first TV; probably about 10 years old and the programming was limited, to say the least. No exposure to diversity or inclusion was found there.

Considering everything I was lucky growing up because I may not have learned about diversity and inclusion but I also did not have any exposure to racism and bigotry. I was almost like a clean slate.

When I grew up and moved out of my parents home I started to experience diversity. I started to see and interact with other races, other religions. I started to witness other peoples reactions to each other. I began to see hints of racism but I did not truly understand the reasoning. There was never an instance where I thought negatively toward someone because of how they looked, what their religion was, or their race.

Looking back I think I was more curious than anything else. That is why, in some ways, I think children growing up now are luckier then me because so many grow up in neighborhoods with many cultures and races. They have the opportunity to go to school and church and form relationships, make friends with other children that are different from them in the way they look or talk. Children are accepting and that is a perfect time to learn about diversity and hopefully inclusion

This is the ideal time when parents, their teachers, their churches should be teaching all children about diversity and also inclusion. Talk to them and show them by your example. It does not take long for a child of any age to realize you are not practicing what you are teaching. What they learn as a child will be the foundation of how they will continue in life.

Parents and schools should place great emphasis on the idea that it is all right to be different. Racism and all the other ‘isms’ grow from primitive tribalism, the instinctive hostility against those of another tribe, race, religion, nationality, class or whatever. You are a lucky child if your parents taught you to accept diversity. Roger Ebert

I consider myself lucky that there was no exposure to racism or hatred or fear of anyone that was different from me when I was a child. I was lucky that my parents, or my community did not expose me to, or teach me to be anything, but that blank slate. I have made my own choices, my own decisions, and luckily I made the right ones.

So how do we teach our children ?

First, of course, would by giving them the opportunity to play with a diverse group of friends. Also, as I mentioned above, by example. Interact with diverse families and make friends, invite them into your home and do so sincerely and with an open heart.

Today, more so then ever, there are so many books that you can read to, and with, your children, about different cultures. Take them to the library and bring home a variety of books. Better yet, buy one or two of those books that they really seemed to enjoy and they can read them over and over. A great place to buy books inexpensively is at a Library Sale. The prices are highly discounted and sometimes they will have “bag” sales where you can fill a bag for a very low price. Check out your local library.

Bring home a cookbook and use that as a way to explain about a particular culture while you are making a meal that someone from that culture would make. Continue the discussion when you sit down to eat and talk about the different foods and how they are part of the culture of a different country. Do they use different utensils, do they pray before they eat or do they bless their food. Do they wear different clothes? What music do they listen to ?

If you can afford to travel then planning a trip to a different country would be wonderful. There are also different cultural events in many cities and communities which you could go to where you may see people dressed in their native dress, there will be different music and some people will be talking in their native language.

When a child is young is a wonderful time to expose them to learning other languages. They will learn much more quickly and easily then we might as an adult. Do it with them. what a great learning and bonding experience for you both.

We are living in a constantly changing world and it is more and more important to have understanding and empathy toward every person. What happens when someone who has had minimal exposure to diversity goes to college or enters the workplace ? How do you teach Diversity and Inclusion to an adult ?

That I think is much harder to do because by that time in our lives we may have already established some pretty solid beliefs and values. We may not be as open to change. If we have the same values as our family or friends we might worry about the impact of being different then they are, or of disappointing them. How will we be judged by our peers ?

Most colleges, but not all, are multicultural or diverse. A college who accepts and recognizes, celebrates those differences would be considered inclusive. A college will generally have representation from most ethnic groups both from within the US and students from other countries that are going to college here. There will be male and female students and professors, there will be disabled people, people with different sexual orientation, well to do students and low income students.

Sort of like a melting pot of humanity. I think it sounds wonderful and I wish that I could have participated in such an environment when I was young. Truly, I do believe that someone becomes a better, more interesting person, for having exposure and interacting with a large diverse community.

Multicultural Student Advisory Board – Calvin College

Colleges will have many programs, or groups, in place for students to participate in. There will usually be organizations represented within the college such as, The Black Student Alliance, LGBTQ, International Students, Disabled and Veterans groups. All these groups, and many more, participate in, and encourage, diversity and inclusion throughout college life.

Colleges, just like organizations, have to have top down participation. It starts at the very top with the President of the college and should include all those in leadership positions. It is a complex issue, an important one, and I think it would require a strong comprehensive, structured plan, or Mission Statement, to be put in place and to be implemented. It would require a dedicated group of people.

In the business world it is becoming more and more important to establish a diverse workforce and to also be inclusive. Diversity will not work well if there is no inclusiveness. Many companies hire a diverse workforce but then do not take the next step and develop them as a cohesive unit where they all work together, are all given the same opportunities and the same recognition.

Diversity without inclusion is like an energizer bunny without a battery.

I found a well written article from Officevibe and written by Alison Robins, titled “5-Game Changing Diversity and Inclusions Activities for Teams”. I thought it was an excellent example for training. You can read it here:

Virtually everyone in an organization of any type, be it a business, a religious group or a college is responsible for the building of diversity and inclusion. Starting from the top; the owner, the CEO, the Pope, the President of a college is responsible. They need to accept that it necessary, that it is important and then lead by example.

Build a comprehensive plan and implement it. Train the leaders of the company and make sure they follow through. Then keep moving down the ladder so that the plan is implemented throughout the entire organization. If diversity is added in such a way that it is also inclusive there will be a positive change that will show in contentment of your employees and therefore their productivity.

“Research also shows that teams that operate in an inclusive culture outperform their peers by a staggering 80 percent.”

Inclusiveness is important because it should allow all employees, irregardless of their sex, age, race, religion, or disability to come to work without apprehension or fear.. There should be an atmosphere of understanding and trust. Workers will excel and be more creative and they will not want to leave. If your organization has a diverse workforce without inclusion employees will eventually leave and move on to an organization that will include and recognize their worth. .

“Diversity is being invited to the party. Inclusion is being asked to dance.” Are you ready to Dance ?

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a wonderful Inclusive day !