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Quote Of The Day

Why hurry over beautiful things? Why not linger and enjoy them?

~ Clara Schumann #Beauty #Enjoyment #Quote
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As always, thanks for stopping by. Don’t forget to linger today and enjoy the view.

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Starting My Blog Has Been An Eye Opening Experience

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Eyes wide open or so I thought. I decided I wanted to start a blog, and it has been interesting, to say the least. Not exactly what I expected. It is more.

My interest in blogging was born from intrigue. I was so curious about my sons and what they were doing. One is posting videos on YouTube, and one develops websites and has a Social Media Management business. It planted a seed in my mind.

Their interest became my interest, and my mind went whirling. Did I want to attempt something, and if so, what? I had absolutely no knowledge of anything to do with Social Media. I was not on Facebook or Twitter, and I do not even have a cell phone. Definitely behind the times. *** their sites are listed at the bottom of this article.

I settled on writing a blog. Anyone can write, can’t they? That’s true in a sense, but can everyone write well? Then there was everything else that goes along with a blog. Who knew? Certainly, not me.

You have to either create your website or find a platform to write on. I could not afford to pay someone to build my website & I definitely was not going to do it myself. So I started researching for an alternative. I chose a free WordPress blog site, and my journey began.

To help understand my journey and the angst I have felt from time to time here is my real reason for starting my blog. I am a 73-year-old woman who has been retired for years. I was looking for an outlet to express myself and to keep my mind active. I was feeling stagnant and did not like the feeling.

The name of my blog is, “adjusting my time frame,” which references my age and my mindset. I did not want to stay still and accept that this was all there is. I felt like I was falling behind and becoming the stereotypical “old” person. No, I am not ready for that—time to do some adjusting.

How do I like it? Most of the time, I love it. There have been moments when I have wondered what the heck am I doing. It has been downright frustrating at times.

Not being proficient on social media made it difficult in the beginning, and there is still so much for me to learn. Just creating my blog space on WordPress was a lot of work for me. I have always been able to learn fairly quickly, but this was a challenge at times. There were lots of choices and decisions.

I just kept picking away at it. Each day I would read and analyze, and then one day, I just decided to go for it and hit the publish button. That felt really good! Now when I look back at my first few blogs, I laugh. It has been about six months now, and I have learned so much.

Sometimes I get frustrated because with blogging comes the lust for acceptance and approval. Each time I published a post, I was looking to see how many people read it, how many people liked it, and how many people followed me. Did I receive any comments?

Like most humans, I like immediate gratification. I want everyone to love my blog. Silly isn’t it. I started the blog for myself, so I should be content with just that.

I have found that each time I write, I want it to be better. I want to be a great writer. I have found I have a lot to learn. I consider myself an acceptable writer but not really good and certainly not great.

Most of what I have experienced is so typical. There is nothing special about my experiences. I know I have to keep doing what I am doing, and I will improve as I go. So many people start a blog and become discouraged. That is easy to do.

I have stopped trying to do too much. At first, I researched and looked at so many promotional sites, places I had never even heard of before. I wasted a lot of time doing that, but I felt I had to play the promotional game. No, I don’t. Not for me, I just have to remain focused.

I am starting to relax a little and fall into a routine. I have established a set schedule and always post three times each week on the same days.

Everyone says it is essential to have a specialized niche when you write. My posts are mostly related to personal and professional growth.

The downside to that is I have many other topics I want to write about. So now I question my initial choice; if you are thinking of writing a blog that is an important thing to consider.

Spend a lot of time deciding what you want to write about. I cannot stress enough how important it is to be comfortable with either writing in a specific niche, or not.

To satisfy my interest in writing other topics, I have now started writing at Medium.Com. You can view my stories at: https://medium.com/@lindalatt

Am I happy I started my blog? Absolutely! Do I regret it in any way? Not at all. Blogging is an excellent way to express yourself. It is a place not only to share knowledge but also to gain knowledge. It does not matter what age you are, young or old, writing a blog can be beneficial for you.

Blogging was just what I needed. It has provided everything I was looking for and more. In some ways it’s magical!

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Create a little magic today!

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What Is The Best Skill To Invest In? Create Goals Or Create Habits?

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“First we make our habits, then our habits make us.”

— Charles C. Nobel

We all have, or should have, goals; small goals & big goals are what keep us moving forward in life, and help us become successful. Goals are good; they are positive and helpful. They can keep us on track.

Goals are not all we need.

There is a difference between goals and habits. When we want to accomplish something like getting a promotion, learning a new language, or losing weight; we set a goal. Let’s say we want to be promoted to the next highest level at work. We set a realistic goal to earn that promotion in a year. We set the goal, and we have a plan on how to get there.

There are a couple of things that might happen.

Let’s say you get to the end of the year and you are successful. That’s great, you achieved your goal, but something else also happens. You congratulate yourself, and you settle into your new position. You stop doing all the good things that helped you to reach the goal. You become complacent. You did not create new habits. To maintain your new position, and to keep improving, you need to form habits.

You also do not have complete control over factors that could affect reaching your goal. The company you work for may downsize, and the position you want could be eliminated as a result. You may be in an accident or become ill. We may have an unrealistic view of what is needed to accomplish the goal and decide it is too much effort.

Habits are more relevant and more productive. Habits are instinctual and become an automatic part of your routine.

“Depending on what they are, our habits will either make us or break us. We become what we repeatedly do.”

Sean Covey

By changing our focus from achieving specific goals to creating positive long-term habits, we can make continuous improvement a way of life.

Goals rely on motivation that we will receive an award such as an increase in income, or praise from someone we respect and want to impress. They are therefore short term.

Habits are something we do automatically, and so they have a life long effect on virtually everything we do. One example is money. If you want to accumulate and acquire wealth, you establish a habit early on in life that each week you will take a percentage of your pay and put it in savings. You do not use that money for anything else. It will become a habit, something you do not even think about, and an excellent practice to maintain.

If you want to establish a habit of reading or exercise, you can do it. Start small and exercise 10 minutes each day. Do the same with reading, decide to read a chapter a day, or to read for 15 minutes. It will become a habit and one that you automatically do. Quite likely you will do both for an increasing length of time, but always continue to do at least the minimum.

When we want to attain something in our lives, we will do well to invest our time in forming positive habits, rather than concentrating on a specific goal. The goal will end, and the habit will continue.

We need both. We need goals to provide direction and push us forward. They are suitable for the short term. Forming habits gives us the ability to keep performing and continually improve because they guide us all the time; every day.

“Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.”

Stephen Covey

As always, thank you for reading my blog. What are your habits?

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Quote Of The Day

“Change is not something that we should fear. Rather, it is something that we should welcome. For without change, nothing in this world would ever grow or blossom, and no one in this world would ever move forward to become the person they’re meant to be.”

–B.K.S Iyengar
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As always, thanks for stopping by. Have a great day.

Posted in Curiosity, Excitement, Inspiration, Learning, Personal Development, Positive Thinking, Self Improvement

Quote Of The Day

“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Taking Risks. Can You ? Should You? Is It Worth It?

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Looks scary right? Sure does, but is it? Images, both real and imagined, can be deceiving.

We will all come face to face with what we consider to be a risk. There is some sort of conceived danger. Sometimes we walk away and we never know what if? Maybe if we choose to go for it we will find out it was only scary for a second. Once we commit to doing it we find it was not scary at all. There was no risk involved.

Does our culture promote risk taking? Not so much. Each of us will have a different take on that question depending on our family and friends. Did our parents encourage risk taking? Do we have a friend who is all in for adventure? Overall, I believe it is more common for us to hold back and take the safe road.

Why take risks? Are there any benefits?

Ask your adventurous friend, what do they think? Do they go over the top explaining how awesome it was, the feeling of excitement, the satisfaction and pride when it was over?

Here are some of the benefits of taking risks:

  • A feeling of pride and satisfaction
  • Confidence in your abilities
  • Learning something new or improving your skill set
  • Gives you an overall feeling of competence
  • A desire to continue trying new “risky” things

What little steps can you take to strengthen your resolve and start taking risks?

  • Talk to someone that intimidates you or makes you unsure of yourself. Say hi for starters and then dive right in. Ask them a question.
  • If you never go anywhere by yourself, try it.
  • Go somewhere you have never been before or try eating something different. If you’ve never tried, use chopsticks.
  • Apply for a different job.
  • Stand up for your beliefs or defend someone else’s.
  • Try something totally new like karate, boxing or yoga.
  • Tell someone you trust that you are afraid of doing new things.

By starting out doing less daunting activities we will realize that it is okay to move away from our comfort zone.

For some these will seem like simple and easy things but not everyone will feel that way. The point is to try new things that you may have thought of doing but you were afraid of. You do not want to be uncomfortable.

No one likes being embarrassed and no one likes to fail.

 “There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction.”

— Oprah

Failure allows us to learn and become better. Failure really makes us stronger. Fail once, step back, assess what happened and try again. You may fail more than once but each attempt will benefit you in some way.

Your life will be more meaningful for having made the attempt. You will be successful.

Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. One fails forward toward success.

C. S. Lewis

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Try something new today!

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The Pure Joy Of Reading Hard Cover Books-Why It Is Good For Us

No matter how busy you may think you are, you must find time for reading, or surrender yourself to self-chosen ignorance. – Confucius

Do you remember reading as a child. The wonder of it all. Getting lost in adventures. Such a wondrous experience, one I eagerly took part in and enjoy still today.

Books are everything. They offer adventure, escape, wonder, and excitement. We gain knowledge. Books teach us. While we are lost in enjoyment our brains are being filled with words, inspiration and knowledge.

As a child, books increase our vocabulary and make us inquisitive about the world around us. They make us eager to learn more, read more and open to learning as we grow. When we read as a child and as an adult it opens our minds and gives us the ability to analyze.

Envision Harry Potter and the effect it has had on so many children. They are wrapped up in all the situations playing out on the page and thinking about all the possibilities. Their imagination soaring.

At the same time they are evaluating and learning concepts. They are learning skills that they will use the rest of their lives.

I love the texture of a book in my hand and the pages as they slip through my fingers. The weight of the book, even it’s smell. The crisp clean smell of a new book first opened and the old musty smell of a book sitting on a library shelf. Reading is a tactile experience imprinted on your brain that stores memories and feelings.

When we read we can lose ourselves in the story. It is relaxing and invigorating all at the same time.

Brain scans are revealing what happens in our heads when we read a detailed description, an evocative metaphor or an emotional exchange between characters. Stories, this research is showing, stimulate the brain and even change how we act in life.

Annie Murphy Paul, March 17, 2012

Reading evokes empathy with the characters. We respond with emotion to the trials and tribulations, the highs and lows of their lives. We suffer and rejoice with the characters. In real life our perceptions and our responses to human interactions may become more empathetic as a result.

Neuroscience and the use of brain scans is showing the affect words have on different areas of our brain.

Keith Oatley, an emeritus professor of cognitive psychology at the University of Toronto (and a published novelist), has proposed that reading produces a vivid simulation of reality, one that “runs on minds of readers just as computer simulations run on computers.” Fiction — with its redolent details, imaginative metaphors and attentive descriptions of people and their actions — offers an especially rich replica. (Annie Murphy Paul, March 17, 2012)

We expand our knowledge and strengthen our brain by reading. We read for enjoyment and to learn.

The most important aspect of reading is overlooked, our brain, the health of our brain. We take it for granted. When you make the decision to exercise what are you thinking about ? The way our body looks, the definition of our muscles, the health of our heart. The most important muscle we have is our brain. Our brain with the help of our nervous system controls everything we do.

When we read we are exercising our brain. Just like muscles, the brain benefits from a good workout. And reading is more neurobiologically demanding than processing images or speech. As you’re absorbing a book or article, “parts of the brain that have evolved for other functions—such as vision, language, and associative learning—connect in a specific neural circuit for reading, which is very challenging,” says Ken Pugh, PhD, president and director of research of Haskins Laboratories, ( By Lauren Duzbow , June 2008)

Reading makes us smarter by increasing our general knowledge and our vocabulary. Our expanded ability to use words allows us to be better in all aspects of our lives. We become better, more interesting conversationalists. We become better writers, better teachers, better bosses, better parents.

When we read we stimulate our brain. We are exposed to new thoughts and ideas. Have you ever been reading and thought “Wow, I never thought of that!” or “I want to be more like that.”

Reading can give us a different perspective. When we are done reading a page, a chapter or a whole book we can sit and soak it all in. We reflect, we think and we are richer for it.

When we read we relax, lower our stress levels and sleep better. We relate better to the life and experiences of other people. We become better humans.

Pick up a hard cover book and relish in the experience. Feel the weight of it in your hand, feel the pages as they slip across your fingers and smell the wonderful aroma. Sink back in a chair and absorb. Lose yourself in the wondrous joy of reading.

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a nice day.