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Quote Of The Day

“Success is a peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.”

~ John Wooden
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The Value Of True Friendship In The Age Of Social Media

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“…nothing delights the mind so much as fond and loyal friendship. What a blessing it is to have hearts that are ready and willing to receive all your secrets in safety, with whom you are less afraid to share knowledge of something than keep it to yourself, whose conversation soothes your distress, whose advice helps you make up your mind, whose cheerfulness dissolves your sorrow, whose very appearance cheers you up!”

~ Seneca

I think we can all agree that friends are are an essential part of our life. Real friendships should be cherished and we should spend time nourishing them.

My question for all of you is, do you think it is possible to develop real friendships on social media?

Another question would be, do we devalue our friendships by using social media as a way of maintaining a connection with our friends?

We lead busy lives, and it is easy to lose contact with friends and family. We send off a text, or send a message on Facebook instead of calling someone or get together and talk face to face.

We spend time on social media, and in my opinion, we are wasting precious time. We should be spending less time on social media, and instead use that time to have face to face conversations, or at least phone calls. We can also use Skype or Face Time so we can have a more personal interaction.

Spending time on Twitter, Facebook, Reddit or Tumblr, among our many choices, can suck you in and before you know it you have spent hours. Another question. Do you feel happy when you realize the time spent, or do you regret not using that time to get together with family or friends?

Because we spend so much time on Facebook and Twitter, we see day to day disclosures of our friend’s activities, and we feel we do not need to spend time with them. We feel like we are up to date and think there is no need to meet them for dinner, call them on the phone, or invite them to our homes.

When we interact on social media, we cannot know how our friends are. We do not know if they are experiencing something negative because they may be presenting a happy face. They do not want to share their experience with everyone, but they might like to share with us. They may want to share their feelings with a face to face meeting. The only way to know for sure is not to take it for granted that everything is okay. We need to spend time with our friends. We need to ask them face to face.

Social media gives us a flat experience. There is no real contact and no personal involvement. It is non-personal.

If we continue to use social media as our way to maintain our friendships, our friendships will suffer. They will become more and more superficial.

We use social media to gain knowledge, but do we? You can view a post and receive a small nugget of information, but unless we take the time to do in-depth research, we only see part of the picture. If your friends post their viewpoint about an article, but we do not get together and talk with them, we may not understand why and we lose real understanding.

Then, of course, there is the possibility of not agreeing with a comment left by a friend. You respond by making a negative comment, they answer back, and you end up arguing on line. There is a strong possibility that neither of you has any understanding of each other’s true feelings. As a result, your friendship can be damaged.

Please don’t misunderstand; I am not totally against the use of social media. There are positive elements, but I do feel we have to maintain a balance.

If you feel yourself drawing away from your friends and not having one on one contact, it may be time to back away from social media. You can not replace the positive mental and emotional impact of our friendships and our interactions with one another.

Because it is so powerful and states so well the importance of our interactions with our friends, I am inserting the same quote used at the beginning of this blog. It says what I feel, and what I have tried to share here, much better then I have.

“…nothing delights the mind so much as fond and loyal friendship. What a blessing it is to have hearts that are ready and willing to receive all your secrets in safety, with whom you are less afraid to share knowledge of something than keep it to yourself, whose conversation soothes your distress, whose advice helps you make up your mind, whose cheerfulness dissolves your sorrow, whose very appearance cheers you up!”

~ Seneca

Cherish your friendships.

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Get together with your friends today.

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“Why It Is Important To Explore Creativity – 4 Ways To Be Creative And Add Fun To Your Work”

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Creativity is intelligence having fun.”

Albert Einstein

What is creativity? According to Lexico, powered by the Oxford dictionary, it is “The use of the imagination or original ideas, especially in the production of an artistic work.”

When I think of being creative, I think of someone like my granddaughter, who loves and excels at the creation of art. I also think of myself when I was working for an organization. And in my employee reviews, my creativity was always mentioned as one of my top assets.

There are many forms of creativity. The act of creating a drawing, a porcelain bird, a piece of art you hold in your hand, or what seems like an opposing form, an idea for creating a new product and the promotion of that product, or a new way to solve a problem.

Creativity is thinking outside the box. Someone can look at items and events with a different lens and find patterns and connections that no one else can see. It is taking those patterns and connections and creating a solution to a problem or creating a new product or theory.

“Creativity is a combinatorial force: it’s our ability to tap into our ‘inner’ pool of resources – knowledge, insight, information, inspiration and all the fragments populating our minds – that we’ve accumulated over the years just by being present and alive and awake to the world and to combine them in extraordinary new ways.”

— Maria Popova, Brainpickings

Srinivasa Ramanujan, a mathematical genius, said that the insight for his work came to him in his dreams.

Albert Einstein had the extraordinary scientific achievement, the discovery of the principle of relativity, after having a vivid dream.

Niels Bohr, whose dreams lead him to the discovery of the Atom 

 “Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules, making mistakes, and having fun.” 

— Mary Lou Cook

Creativity is a skill. It is a skill which is becoming more and more valuable.

When you look at the ever-changing world we live in; creativity is necessary to create new jobs and also new and better ways to change the way we look at existing industries.

One problem we have right now is climate change. When you list the causes of climate change, you will find many areas where creativity will be required to create innovative new systems.

Many people worry about the loss of jobs, but jobs will be created to replace those outdated industries and systems.

We are all born with natural creative talents, but quite often, those talents are not utilized and become dim. Some of us will be more naturally talented than others.

It is possible to increase our creativity just as we are able to learn any new skill. It is necessary to learn techniques to build creative skills.

To develop a creative mindset, you have to be able to challenge existing assumptions, be open to new ideas and possibilities. As with learning any new skill, you have to step outside your comfort zone and experiment and consistently ask questions.

Dr. Robert Epstein, a psychologist and creativity researcher, has identified four core competencies that enhance our ability to think creatively and generate novel ideas. https://www.opencolleges.edu.au/informed/features/can-learn-creative/

  • Capture new ideas

Find an effective way to preserve novel ideas as they occur, without judging them or editing them. Carry a notebook and write down your ideas or use a voice recorder.

I use a notebook to write down ideas for my blog and articles published on Medium.com.

  • Seek out challenges

Stop avoiding challenging problems or projects. Think about the possible ways to generate new ideas and solutions. Seeking challenges may lead to failures, but accepting failure is a necessary part of being creative.

With any project we do while learning any new skill, we face failure. It is part of life. When we fail, we learn the most.

  • Broaden your knowledge and skills

Whenever we acquire knowledge and skill that is outside of our current area of expertise, we expand our abilities. With more diverse knowledge, we will be able to make interconnections between what we know and something we had never considered previously.

  • Manage your surroundings

When you work in the same surroundings all the time, there is nothing to stimulate new thoughts. When you think of a classroom or your office, it is always the same. But if you introduce something out of the ordinary, it can stimulate you to think in a different way.

Change your environment by going outside, go to an exhibit unrelated to anything you usually do or have an interest in.

Read books about subjects unrelated to what you do or how you think. Listen to different music, go to an art class, or enroll in a college class you would never have considered before.

Diversity will help you move out of your comfort zone and stimulate your brain. Your thinking will change, and you will become more creative.

“Creativity involves breaking out of expected patterns in order to look at things in a different way.” –

– Edward de Bono

Creativity is becoming more important and more valued by employers.

Your ability to think outside the box and be creative will be essential in all aspects of your life.

Some of the skills you will need are effective communication skills and your ability to interact well with a diverse group of people.

Critical thinking, such as dissecting a problem and logical reasoning, is an ability you should work to develop. Employers value people who are self-directed, self-disciplined, and self-monitored.

You should look for classes, webinars, and written material to gain as much knowledge and skill in this area as possible. It will serve you well at work and in any area of your life.

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use the more you have.”

— Maya Angelou

 I believe that you add fun and happiness to your life when you add creativity.

By being creative, our life is more exciting and stimulating. We are more relaxed and live more in the moment, and we become more confident. We are more fun to be around.

Every time we open ourselves up to something new through creativity, we become less afraid. Because of learning, it’s okay to challenge ourselves; we are more likely to continue and open our world to endless possibilities.

“To practice any art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow. So do it.” 

— Kurt Vonnegut

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a wonderful day!

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The Pure Joy Of Reading Hard Cover Books-Why It Is Good For Us

No matter how busy you may think you are, you must find time for reading, or surrender yourself to self-chosen ignorance. – Confucius

Do you remember reading as a child. The wonder of it all. Getting lost in adventures. Such a wondrous experience, one I eagerly took part in and enjoy still today.

Books are everything. They offer adventure, escape, wonder, and excitement. We gain knowledge. Books teach us. While we are lost in enjoyment our brains are being filled with words, inspiration and knowledge.

As a child, books increase our vocabulary and make us inquisitive about the world around us. They make us eager to learn more, read more and open to learning as we grow. When we read as a child and as an adult it opens our minds and gives us the ability to analyze.

Envision Harry Potter and the effect it has had on so many children. They are wrapped up in all the situations playing out on the page and thinking about all the possibilities. Their imagination soaring.

At the same time they are evaluating and learning concepts. They are learning skills that they will use the rest of their lives.

I love the texture of a book in my hand and the pages as they slip through my fingers. The weight of the book, even it’s smell. The crisp clean smell of a new book first opened and the old musty smell of a book sitting on a library shelf. Reading is a tactile experience imprinted on your brain that stores memories and feelings.

When we read we can lose ourselves in the story. It is relaxing and invigorating all at the same time.

Brain scans are revealing what happens in our heads when we read a detailed description, an evocative metaphor or an emotional exchange between characters. Stories, this research is showing, stimulate the brain and even change how we act in life.

Annie Murphy Paul, March 17, 2012

Reading evokes empathy with the characters. We respond with emotion to the trials and tribulations, the highs and lows of their lives. We suffer and rejoice with the characters. In real life our perceptions and our responses to human interactions may become more empathetic as a result.

Neuroscience and the use of brain scans is showing the affect words have on different areas of our brain.

Keith Oatley, an emeritus professor of cognitive psychology at the University of Toronto (and a published novelist), has proposed that reading produces a vivid simulation of reality, one that “runs on minds of readers just as computer simulations run on computers.” Fiction — with its redolent details, imaginative metaphors and attentive descriptions of people and their actions — offers an especially rich replica. (Annie Murphy Paul, March 17, 2012)

We expand our knowledge and strengthen our brain by reading. We read for enjoyment and to learn.

The most important aspect of reading is overlooked, our brain, the health of our brain. We take it for granted. When you make the decision to exercise what are you thinking about ? The way our body looks, the definition of our muscles, the health of our heart. The most important muscle we have is our brain. Our brain with the help of our nervous system controls everything we do.

When we read we are exercising our brain. Just like muscles, the brain benefits from a good workout. And reading is more neurobiologically demanding than processing images or speech. As you’re absorbing a book or article, “parts of the brain that have evolved for other functions—such as vision, language, and associative learning—connect in a specific neural circuit for reading, which is very challenging,” says Ken Pugh, PhD, president and director of research of Haskins Laboratories, ( By Lauren Duzbow , June 2008)

Reading makes us smarter by increasing our general knowledge and our vocabulary. Our expanded ability to use words allows us to be better in all aspects of our lives. We become better, more interesting conversationalists. We become better writers, better teachers, better bosses, better parents.

When we read we stimulate our brain. We are exposed to new thoughts and ideas. Have you ever been reading and thought “Wow, I never thought of that!” or “I want to be more like that.”

Reading can give us a different perspective. When we are done reading a page, a chapter or a whole book we can sit and soak it all in. We reflect, we think and we are richer for it.

When we read we relax, lower our stress levels and sleep better. We relate better to the life and experiences of other people. We become better humans.

Pick up a hard cover book and relish in the experience. Feel the weight of it in your hand, feel the pages as they slip across your fingers and smell the wonderful aroma. Sink back in a chair and absorb. Lose yourself in the wondrous joy of reading.

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a nice day.

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Perfectly Imperfect-How To Believe In Yourself And Gain Self-Confidence

Do you know a ‘Perfect” person. No, I did not think so. There is no such thing. Sure there are always those people that you will see and think they are picture perfect. For some reason we will be critical of ourselves and feel we do not measure up.

I do think that we are all flawed, maybe a little quirky or weird. I also believe we are all beautiful and magical. We are Perfectly Imperfect.

Everyone has issues and everyone has something they are really good at. Most people do not live up to their potential. Everyone has potential! We may not see it in ourselves but it is there. If we ignore the possibilities we will not grow as individuals.

We have to believe in ourselves. If you could pick one thing you would really want to do, love to do, what would it be? Do you believe you have the potential? Yes, you do.

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself”
– George Bernard Shaw

It’s time to start creating yourself! Make an assessment of yourself and be honest. You know yourself better than anyone else. To make yourself better you have to put in the work. Sometimes you may be discouraged. Do not stop!

What knowledge do you have? What is your skill level? Don’t rush this. Take the time to understand what you will need to do. Do not be afraid to ask for help if you are uncertain. Better to take time now to make a great plan instead of having to take a step backward later.

“Surround yourself with the dreamers, and the doers, the believers, and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.”– Edmund Lee

Don’t just set a goal without knowing how you are going to complete it. It is really important to have a detailed plan. Write it down and continually go over it so you can make adjustments as needed. Break it down into small steps. It will make it easier for you to see your progress.

When you see progress, you will gain confidence. When you gain confidence it will become easier to keep moving forward. You will feel the difference in your attitude and so will other people. Remember the person you think of as perfect, they are not, but I bet they are confident. Confidence exudes strength and positivity.

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” 
— Winston Churchill

Positivity is an attractive quality and it will attract the interest of other people. It is an admirable ability. If you want to be more positive you can make that part of your plan. Write it down. Practice being positive and look for ways to build an optimistic attitude.

What are the activities that expose you to negativity? The internet? the nightly news? the people you spend time with? someone at work? There are so many activities that can have a negative impact.

Switch from negative to positive! Always look for a positive way to influence negative situations. The negative co-worker? There usually is one. Try to add something positive to your conversations and look for ways to spend less time with them.

Adopt positive practices. Read something every day either for pleasure or to improve your skills. Keep a journal and reflect on the positive things that happen each day. Look for positive sayings, or quotes, and read at least one every day. I love doing that and it does help.

When in doubt Smile. It is the easiest and best way to feel positive. Spread your smile around and make someone else’s day better as well.

It is easy to feel overwhelmed or fearful to make changes in your life.

Fear is a natural reaction. Do not worry. You can use fear as a motivator. Take the fear and think of it as a challenge. Remember, Yes You Can!

Take some time and think about what frightens you and make a list. Divide it into sections. It can help to put it all in perspective. Just making the list may make you realize your really have nothing to be afraid of.

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Take the hardest task and do it first. You will build confidence and before you know it the fear is gone and you have developed a new skill. Congratulations!

Remember at the end of the day none of us is perfect. We each have flaws. Take all your quirkiness, your weirdness and practice each day on improving yourself. Do not get rid of “You” and all the parts of you who make you a beautiful, magical person! Polish yourself, make yourselves shine and be proud that

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a Perfectly Imperfect day. Celebrate You !