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Quote Of The Day

“Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.”

~Haruki Murakami
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Quote Of The Day

“One of the best places to start to turn your life around is by doing whatever appears on your mental ‘I should’ list.”

Jim Rohn
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Quote Of The Day

“How noble and good everyone could be if, every evening before falling asleep, they were to recall to mind the events of the whole day and consider exactly what has been good and bad. Then, without realizing it, you try to improve yourself at the start of each new day; of course, you achieve quite a lot in the course of time.”

~Anne Frank
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Quote Of The Day

Hearts that beat to the tune of kindness can change the rhythm of the world.”

C.J. Peterson
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Choices We Make And Why They Are Important – How They Affect Our Life

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“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”

Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Life throws choices at us each day; day in and day out. Sometimes we pay attention, and sometimes we do not. We make many choices with little thought or action; small happenings which we automatically discard or accept.

Many choices are made early on in life, and we take them for granted. We have grown from a small child into adulthood and more than likely; we adopted the thoughts and actions of our parents. We may never change, but that is a choice. We chose to accept them.

Life experiences should and probably will change the way you look at everything. As we are exposed to different people, different cultures, different viewpoints, we will have the opportunity to make new choices. They may be a blend of what you believe now, and what you just were exposed to and decided to accept, or they could be new and different.

When I was a small child, life was simple, and the world did not ever seem to change. Then all of a sudden life went into overdrive, full speed ahead, take a deep breath, and hang on. That’s when you start making choices, and you better be paying attention. You are the one in charge and you make the decisions. Choose wisely.

I believe the quote by Roy T. Bennett includes many of the essential choices we will make in life. Attitude, Respect, Optimism, Happiness, Kindness, and Giving.

Your attitude is everything, and it is all about choice. Every morning when you wake up, you have the opportunity to make choices, and they will affect what you do and how you do it. Every decision you make will affect each day, each week, each month and the rest of your life. Are you going to be positive today or are you going to be a Negative Nancy?

Respect is a choice and an important one. So many people appear not to understand the meaning of being respectful. Everyone has the right to make their own decisions, and we should respect their choices. Our opinions are our own and have nothing to do with anyone else’s. It is crucial to respect yourself and to respect others. The sting of disrespect is potent and can harm another person.

Choosing to be optimistic is so important. We are living through a time filled with negative thoughts and actions. It can be mind-numbing. I think it is crucial to be optimistic. Being optimistic is having hope in the future. It is the ability to believe that you can be successful even when it appears impossible. Optimism makes us confident and able to visualize ourselves accomplishing goals. You may not be naturally optimistic, but it is something you can practice. Right now, I am being optimistic about writing, one small step at a time.

Kindness is something that should be automatic. There should not be a thought process required, yet there is. It is a choice every one should make every day. What a better world it would be. I know many people do choose kindness effortlessly, probably more than we will ever know. Unfortunately, we hear more about the negative events in the news and our social media feeds. Talk and write about positive events in your life as often as possible. We can make a difference for ourselves and others by doing that.

I think Kindness and Giving are two sides of the same coin. When we are kind, we are giving something of ourselves to someone else. A smile, a touch of our hand, a kind gesture like buying someone a cup of coffee, or just having a conversation with a stranger. So simple.

Happiness. Are you happy right now? What about the rest of your day? How are you going to spend your day, and will it make you happy? It is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There are days, or whole slices of our life, that are miserable and sad. Life can be shit sometimes. The unexpected event that knocks you down can bring you to your knees. It will not be easy to visualize being happy, but it is there, hidden. You will get past the bad times, and happiness will come. It will come from the kindness of a friend or a stranger, a shared smile, a small gesture made. When that happens, smile. The times when all is right with the world, we still have a choice every day to be happy. Smile, be happy, and spread it around. Please.

There are other choices that we can make. We have to recognize that we need to change continually. We have to be open to change, accept it, and use it to improve ourselves continuously. Not accepting change is like a self-imposed curse. Being stagnant should not be an option, but it is a choice, a decision, we all can make. No matter how young, or how old you are, you need to welcome change into your life. That is why I am writing. I made a choice to do something different and energize myself, and it is working.

The people we spend time with or listen to will strongly influence our choices. There always seems to be someone you know who is that Negative Nancy, and who finds something each day to complain about, or make fun of someone. Their viewpoint does not match yours and causes you stress. They are difficult to ignore, and sometimes you find yourself influenced by a statement they made. It can be so frustrating, and in some cases, depressing. You do not want to hurt them, but by continuing to be around them, you are hurting yourself—decision time. You need to distance yourself from them or end the relationship. You want to spend your time with people who will support your beliefs, make you stronger, better.

Know yourself, have confidence, and listen to your inner voice. I have written about this before and believe in this innate ability we have within us. Call it intuition. It is like a hunch we feel inwardly that warns us about something we are contemplating doing. It is a little niggling sensation that tells you not to do something, or it may be telling you to go ahead; it’s okay.

When you are making a decision, and you have an uncomfortable feeling, stop, there is a reason you have that feeling. Give yourself some time to contemplate why before you say yes or no. Recently I thought I should not do something but did it anyway; not once, but twice. It was a mistake both times.

Life is about choices. Some we regret, some we’re proud of. Some will haunt us forever. The message: we are what we chose to be.”

—Graham Brown

Life is all about the choices we make. Our choices form us. They make us happy or sad, successful, or not. We will not always make the right choices, but if we choose to learn from them, we will continue to grow as a person. We will become better. No one said it would be easy, but this is the only life we have. Make it a good one.

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Quote Of The Day

“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.”

– Ernest Hemmingway
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Looking For The Best You? Clear Your Mind And Push Hard To Open The Door To A Better You

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Push yourself, because no one else is going to do it for you.

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Did you think it would be easy? Welcome to reality. Life is wonderful. It’s also hard. It takes work. Sometimes the work is easy and sometimes it is mind numbing hard.

We do not pop into this world all set and ready to go. We have to learn to do everything. Doing anything new always requires work of some kind. The great thing is we can learn. We just have to be willing to put in the effort.

Sometimes we are scared to try something new. What if we fail? The answer to that is just keep trying. Good things are well worth the effort required.

What about the door? There will be many doors we believe are closed but are they really? We think they are and in our mind we have decided they would be really hard to open. It is up to each of us to open ourselves to change so we become stronger and start to believe we can push the doors open.

When we attempt to learn something new and we really suck at it we automatically want to give up. We look for an easy way out. We don’t want to put in the work required and sometimes we are just comfortable with the way things are. Why change?

If we just take some time to understand our reaction we would realize that we are making excuses. We learn new things all the time and don’t think about it until we are faced with something that is a challenge.

Remember when you were a kid and you quickly learned so many things? We did not even think about it, we just went for it. Why? Because we weren’t scared to do new things. We had not learned to be cautious or scared. We thought we could do anything.

What happened to that positive attitude? Life happened. We may have tried something and were hurt. Our parents or friends told us not to do something. Someone said it was scary. We tried something and it did not work or we did something in front of someone and became embarrassed. We are influenced by others.

We need to stop being so easily influenced by the negativity of others. We should not listen to others or to the voices in our head that tell us we can’t. Try it anyway. We’re adults now right? So we can make you own decisions.

It’s time to be open minded. It is time to try new things. We should be excited to try something new. Sometimes we are, but most of the time not so much.

What do we have to do to embrace new experiences? How do we become open to trying?

  • Accept the fact that there may be a better way to do things. Recognize that you do not have the answer for everything and that you may not always be correct. Sometimes you are just too comfortable with where you are. You have done well at your job or in relationships, You’re great at doing multiple things like playing a great game of basketball or writing and presenting projects at work.

The question is can you be better. The answer is more than likely, yes, you can. You can be better in what you already do and you can be better doing something new and different as well. You will be expanding your life.

  • To make changes to the way you think it is necessary to make yourself vulnerable. You have opened yourself up to the possibility of change and possible failure. There is risk involved. Scary, isn’t it.
  • When you become more open minded and are trying new things you will probably makes mistakes. Mistakes are part of learning. You have probably heard the saying, “Fail Forward”. It is a proven fact that we learn the most when we fail.

“Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something.”

– Morihei Ueshiba
  • You become stronger by opening up yourself to change. When you do something that is new, something that scares you, it can be life changing. If you are successful that is certainly a win. If you try and fail and pick yourself up and try again that is an even bigger win. Each attempt you make you learn and become a stronger person. You are better for it.
  • You become more confident. It is a great feeling to be open minded and open doors to new ideas, new people and new experiences. Your life is richer. It may not necessarily affect you monetarily. Your life will be richer because you are experiencing so much. You feel good about yourself.
  • It may not be easy to learn to think differently but it is so important. Look for new ideas and new ways to do things. Read, but read something different. Listen to other people, but not the same people. How about joining a discussion group. Watch something different instead of the same old stuff on TV. How about webinars, like TED talks. Open Your Mind. Expose yourself to the wonderful diversity of life.
  • The most important part of being open minded is knowing what is important. How you conduct your life will help determine how successful you are opening doors. Are you friendly and are you sincere? There is a t-shirt I really like which states, “In a world where you can be anything…Be Kind”. Are you kind? Do you help people or are you in it for yourself? The way you approach life and how you conduct yourself has a big impact on how easy it is to open doors. Opening a door for someone else may lead to you having a door opened for you as well.
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