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Quote Of The Day

“You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.”


~ Mary Pickford
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Quote Of The Day

“There’s a myth that learning is for young people.
But as the proverb says, ‘It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.’
The middle years are great, great learning years. Even the years past the middle years.
I took on a new job after my 77th birthday – and I’m still learning.
Learn all your life. Learn from your failures. Learn from your successes,
When you hit a spell of trouble, ask ‘What is it trying to teach me?’
The lessons aren’t always happy ones, but they keep coming.”

John Gardner
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Quote Of The Day

“You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.”

—Mary Pickford, Actress and Producer 
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Quote Of The Day

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

Winston Churchill
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Quote Of The Day

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal; it is courage to continue that counts.”

–Winston s. Churchill
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What Does It Take To Be Successful? Where Do You See Yourself In The Future?

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“There is a powerful driving force inside every human being that, once unleashed, can make any vision, dream, or desire a reality.”

— Anthony Robbins

So you want to be successful. What does it take to get you from where you are now to where you see yourself in the future?

Being successful takes hard work, and it usually does not happen overnight. You have to take on the daily grind of putting forth your best effort, day in and day out. How long it takes will depend on you. Where are you now? What is your skill set, and what can you do better?

Here are four qualities you will need to move forward on your path to success.

Perseverance

Having perseverance means you will put forth a continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition. When you stick things out even when you face some setbacks, or you become discouraged, you show your strength of character and your persistence.

You will need a clear vision of what you want to achieve. Your vision will help you stay focused and organized.

Work Ethic

What is work ethic? According to Merriam-Webster, work ethic is a belief in work as a moral gooda set of values that are centered on the importance of doing work and reflected primarily in a desire or determination to work hard.

If you have a great work ethic, it will shine through your work performance. An essential part of that is your integrity. It is your ability to work hard and do the right thing while working within a group for the benefit of everyone.

You will be disciplined to follow through, have great focus and dedication to complete the job, and do it well.

Growth Mindset

If you have a growth mindset, you believe that you can develop and strengthen your abilities through dedication and hard work. There is no limit to learning. Hard work, a sustained effort, and persistence are all important, but believing you can continue to learn and become better will add layers to your skillset.

Believing that you can continue to learn and improve is essential and will allow you to become more successful. You do not set roadblocks for yourself, but instead, look for ways to do better the next time. Ask your self what you did that worked, then take it one step further, and ask what can I do next time to do even better.

Never Stop Learning

We are never too old to learn something new. There are new things discovered every day, new technology, new products, better strategies, and ways to do things. To keep our minds sharp, embrace change; do not be afraid to try something new.

Learning changes our brain chemistry, which in turn increases our ability to learn faster. It has been proven it helps prevent dementia. Being active mentally will also give us a positive attitude, increase confidence, and make us happier.

Learning something new makes us more interesting to be around. Our increased knowledge makes us more productive and more valuable as an employee or as an entrepreneur.

Embrace Failure

No one likes to fail, but if we think about it, we realize we learn more from our failures than anything else we do. We can read, attend seminars, watch webinars, and participate in a multitude of learning practices, but what do we gain? Yes, we learn, and we gain from all those experiences, but do we grasp real understanding? Is it ingrained into our brains?

What we gain from failure is a conscious choice. We can choose to view failure as a negative, be fearful, and to avoid failure at all costs because we do not like the way it feels. The better reaction is accepting that we did fail and using it as a learning tool. What did we do wrong, and how do we change it so that it will work in the future?

Where you see yourself in the future and whether you will be successful is up to you. It will depend on your strength of character, your willingness to work hard, and to learn from failure. It requires a strong work ethic and your ability to keep learning and always striving to do better.

Being successful requires being proactive and not waiting for life to come to you. It means you’re on offense, not defense. You’re active, not passive.”

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Mistake – Danger – Failure – 7 Ways To Jump Forward To Success

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So something negative happened and you feel like you are a failure. It happens to everyone at some time in our life. It’s our reaction that counts!

There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.

Colin Powell

No one is perfect. It is rare that someone tries something they have never done before with no preparation and gets it right the first time. Just does not happen.

We learn by trying something and failing.

No one wants to fail, but it is a fact of life. When we fail we open ourselves up to the opportunity of learning.

We can read about how to do something and have all the knowledge available to us, but until we attempt it ourselves we truly do not understand. Even when we feel totally prepared we may not be successful. We might fail.

Failure sucks! When we fail we are usually devastated. We want to tuck into a fetal position, cover up with a blanket and sulk. That doesn’t help but it is part of the process.

We may deny it. We may blame it on something else. Placing the blame somewhere else is counter productive. There is no benefit in doing so. We learn nothing.

Once we move past the devastation and denial we can start looking at what happened. It is necessary to poke around a bit and keep poking until you gain some understanding and acceptance.

Failure is telling you that you did something wrong. You need to analyze what you did. Break it down step by step and come to an understanding of why you failed.

Try again and keep trying. Next time you may fail again. If you give up then you are accepting failure. You really don’t want to do that.

How do we benefit from failure?

  • Growth Opportunity. Use failure to be better at your craft. I failed recently and it was mind numbing. I was angry and depressed. After I went through the initial trauma I understood that I just have to keep trying. It is a challenge and I know I will learn a great deal because of it.
  • Strength. We learn how strong we are. How we react to failure defines us. Do we give up? No, we fight through to success one step at a time.
  • Determination. Determination is what keeps pushing you forward towards your goals. We learn something about ourselves. We become better and stronger.
  • Resilience. We learn to adapt and accept change We look for other ways to make it work. You learn to understand that failure is a part of life and that we are capable of overcoming it.
  • Confidence. When we fail and get up and try again we are winners, not failures. We come to realize that we can succeed with the right amount of work and effort. We become more confident in our abilities.
  • Mindset. Our mindset changes. When we overcome failure it changes our perspective about everything in our life. Our mental strength will become stronger and we will believe that we can learn and grow and overcome obstacles.
  • Passion. We learn what is truly important to us, what we are passionate about. Passionate enough to keep trying. Having enthusiasm for what you do changes everything.

 “No human ever became interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and improve, the better you are as a person. Ever meet someone who’s always had everything work out for them with zero struggle? They usually have the depth of a puddle. Or they don’t exist.” 

Chris Hardwick

Failure is a part of life. It will happen over and over again but it doesn’t mean we should give up. Failure is not a life or death situation.

I actually think experiencing failure makes us stronger, better people. Like Chris Hardwick, I believe it certainly makes us more interesting human beings.

Embrace failure. Use failure for your personal growth. Tell some interesting stories and make someone laugh. Laugh at yourself. You survived.

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Taking Risks. Can You ? Should You? Is It Worth It?

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Looks scary right? Sure does, but is it? Images, both real and imagined, can be deceiving.

We will all come face to face with what we consider to be a risk. There is some sort of conceived danger. Sometimes we walk away and we never know what if? Maybe if we choose to go for it we will find out it was only scary for a second. Once we commit to doing it we find it was not scary at all. There was no risk involved.

Does our culture promote risk taking? Not so much. Each of us will have a different take on that question depending on our family and friends. Did our parents encourage risk taking? Do we have a friend who is all in for adventure? Overall, I believe it is more common for us to hold back and take the safe road.

Why take risks? Are there any benefits?

Ask your adventurous friend, what do they think? Do they go over the top explaining how awesome it was, the feeling of excitement, the satisfaction and pride when it was over?

Here are some of the benefits of taking risks:

  • A feeling of pride and satisfaction
  • Confidence in your abilities
  • Learning something new or improving your skill set
  • Gives you an overall feeling of competence
  • A desire to continue trying new “risky” things

What little steps can you take to strengthen your resolve and start taking risks?

  • Talk to someone that intimidates you or makes you unsure of yourself. Say hi for starters and then dive right in. Ask them a question.
  • If you never go anywhere by yourself, try it.
  • Go somewhere you have never been before or try eating something different. If you’ve never tried, use chopsticks.
  • Apply for a different job.
  • Stand up for your beliefs or defend someone else’s.
  • Try something totally new like karate, boxing or yoga.
  • Tell someone you trust that you are afraid of doing new things.

By starting out doing less daunting activities we will realize that it is okay to move away from our comfort zone.

For some these will seem like simple and easy things but not everyone will feel that way. The point is to try new things that you may have thought of doing but you were afraid of. You do not want to be uncomfortable.

No one likes being embarrassed and no one likes to fail.

 “There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction.”

— Oprah

Failure allows us to learn and become better. Failure really makes us stronger. Fail once, step back, assess what happened and try again. You may fail more than once but each attempt will benefit you in some way.

Your life will be more meaningful for having made the attempt. You will be successful.

Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. One fails forward toward success.

C. S. Lewis

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How Can We Benefit From Defeat? Loser or winner, which one do you want to be?

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” -Maya Angelou

Ralph W. Emerson wrote: “Our strength grows out of our weakness. A great man is always willing to be little. While he sits on the cushion of advantages, he goes to sleep. When he is pushed, tormented, defeated, he has a chance to learn something; he has been put on his wits; . . . he has gained facts; learned from his ignorance; been cured of the insanity of conceit; has got moderation and real skill.”

Winning, we all want to win. Nobody wants to lose. Few of us just do not care. We are naturally competitive and it starts early in life. Something as simple as playing with friends when we are very young can turn into a competition. The winner of the race across the yard is happy and expresses his joy with a happy smile and jumping up and down. The loser of the race is not smiling, may even be crying and is probably angry. Losing makes them feel bad. They do not like the feeling and they decide next time they will be the winner of the race.

Being defeated is never comfortable but it is always an opportunity. When we lose it is important to reflect about the why. Why did this happen, why was my opponent better, what did they do that I did not do? We need to evaluate our performance and find ways to improve.

When we fail the world does not end and life goes on. What we do with our failure will determine where we go from there. If we just accept our failure and decide, “that’s it, I cannot do any better” we have placed a limit on ourselves. We will become complacent and become mediocre. We will not improve.

On the other hand if we take the time to dissect our failure we give ourselves the opportunity to learn and grow and to become better.

“The taste of defeat has a richness of experience all its own. To me, every day is a struggle to stay in touch with life’s subtleties. No one grows without failing.”  

 Bill Bradley, former U.S. Senator and professional basketball player

Failure is a challenge. A challenge that only you can decide to accept or to deny.

I would not recommend denying a loss. Do not place the blame somewhere else. Own it and use it to become better.

When you accept the fact that you did lose you have already taken a step forward. It happened, this time someone else did a better job. Let’s face it, we cannot and will not win them all. It is realistic, and it is the best practice to understand that. You will be more open to analyzing what happened and learning from it. It will enable you to do a better job next time.

Life is all about lessons and learning. When we are working or playing there is always an opportunity to learn and get better. The good thing about losing is we pay more attention. Winning is great but when you are really good and win most of the time you tend to relax and just go along for the ride. There is no reason to practice or to try new things.

When we lose, it is like a kick in the gut. It makes you stand up and take notice. Loss makes you question yourself. What happened? Do you like the feeling of defeat? Hell, No!

When you have worked hard at something and end up not coming out on top it is extremely disheartening. It can suck the life out of you, cause anger and be the catalyst for depression. Case in point was my reaction for not having an article accepted which you can find here: https://medium.com/@lindalatt/what-made-me-throw-a-temper-tantrum-3bcdb2ee8a82?source=friends_link&sk=d42129c788ad027864c15e13c470c90b

Defeat and anger can be used as a tool, a weapon. I was really pissed off but it made me just want to try again and again. It is an incentive. Use your anger and disappointment to improve. Work harder!

If you are angry good, that is not a bad thing. Use your anger to strengthen your will. Challenge yourself. Everything we do is constantly in flux and nothing is guaranteed. Take your anger and turn it into positive action.

Ask your self why you did not win. Be your own biggest critic. If you are working with a group, or have a mentor, ask for feedback. Look for ways you can improve the next time.

Dissect yourself. What are your strengths and what are your weaknesses. We all have some of both. Remain positive and keep working toward being better. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all wake up every day and ask ourselves what we are going to do better today. A tiny thing but just think about the possibilities.

Winning and being successful is not guaranteed. You have to be willing to put in the work. When I started my blog I had no idea the amount of work that is required to be successful.

I am a long, long way from success but I am passionate about my dream I continually work on remaining positive and having a great attitude. I always strive to be better.

I hope I have the right formula moving forward in my quest to be a writer, a good writer. If not then I will do some adjusting on my journey. I will put in the work. There will be more disappointments but with each I know I will learn from it and get better. I will be a better writer and a better person for the effort.

Hopefully, I can help influence you as well to stay positive. We may not always win but as long as we learn from our mistakes we are all winners. Always put in the best effort and always look for ways to improve.

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