As always, thanks for stopping by. Time to dream!
“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.”– Ashley Smith
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Where do you keep your dreams? Are they stored in your heart or floating somewhere in space? Do you bring them out to play or push them away? Do you tell yourself maybe someday or just shake your head and say “no way”?
“Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.”― Roy T. Bennett
Do not store away your dreams. Dreams are the core of us, our center, our soul. They are the best of us, something we hope for but do not quite believe.
Do not let your dreams fade away. Bring them out of storage, dust them off and write about them. Share your dreams and let them fly. Make them real.
Write about them! The simple act of writing them down, whether it be in a personal journal, a blog or story will bring your dreams to life.
When your dreams are written down, you can see them and reach out and touch them. They have substance, and they become real.
You now have a different perspective, a different expectation. You believe your dream is something you can achieve.
There you are taking that dream and making a plan on how to make it work. WooHoo! Do your Happy Dance.
That is what I am learning about writing. It can be so exciting and so powerful. The act of writing opens up so many pathways within me. Literally. Pathways between the right and left hemisphere of my brain.
A study done by Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at the Dominican University in California, found that you become 42% more likely to achieve your goals and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis.
It is the way our brains work. The right hemisphere of our brain performs tasks that have to do with creativity and the arts. It holds our imagination. That is where we store our dreams. The left hemisphere performs the tasks that have to do with logic, like math and science.
A bundle of neural fibers called the Corpus Callosum connects the right and left hemispheres. Electrical signals move back and forth between them. They also travel up and down our spinal column and in the fluid that surrounds our brain.
When you write down your dreams and goals, the act of writing, allows the connection between your left and right hemispheres. Your thoughts and dreams become connected with your logical side. They become opportunities.
It then becomes logical and something you can do. It is no longer just a dream. There it is in black and white. You can see it, feel it, and touch it, and you can actively work toward achieving it.
I believe we all have ideas and dreams randomly floating in our brain. The right hemisphere to be correct. We have big and little aspirations. By writing my blog, I have opened my pathways, connecting the right with the left. Writing has let me know myself better. It encourages me to do those things I kept pushing away. You know, the things we would like to do but tell ourselves me can’t.
Think of all the people with their dreams tucked away. Think of yourself. What are your dreams? Write them down, look at them, touch them and breathe life into them.
Dreams and aspirations are an essential part of who we are. Write about them.
What can a pencil do for all of us? Amazing things. It can write transcendent poetry, uplifting music, or life-changing equations; it can sketch the future, give life to untold beauty, and communicate the full-force of our love and aspirations.Adam Braun
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Go ahead, write about your dream today.
“Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.”– James Dean
Everyone wants to be strong and we should always strive to be stronger in every aspect of our life. Stronger physically, mentality and emotionally.
So how do we do that ?
First do an inventory of you. How do you feel ? What bothers you ? Did you have a dream or dreams that you have put on the back burner or have you totally given up the idea of doing them ? How is your health, both physically and mentally ? Are you depressed ?
Is there something that happened in your life that you have not been able to accept, that really bothers you and you have not been able to bounce back from. Something that changes your outlook or makes you decide to do something different. Perhaps you decide to start a new career path or just add a new element to your life that makes it more meaningful.
Life throws us curves and some curves we are able to accept, or adapt to rather easily, and sometimes not so much. When that happens and you just can’t deal with it, or think you can’t, take some time to think about something you did before that helped you to move forward more easily. Write it down, what did you do that worked, and what didn’t. Can you implement those same tactics now.
To improve in any area of our life it is important to have a plan and set some goals. When you make a decision to do X, Y or Z, you need to be realistic.
Is the goal attainable ? Can you actually accomplish it ? Do you have the knowledge right now or are you physically able to do it. Is it something that will make you feel better, make you happy and overall improve your life?
Examples might be designing a web site. Do you have any knowledge or expertise to do it or will it require going to school to learn how, or will you have to hire someone to do it for you. Do you have the money to do that ?
Another example would be writing a blog like I am. Anyone can start a blog but do you have the writing skills for it to be successful ? Do you have the knowledge needed to understand how to promote the blog such as what the heck is SEO ? Answer: Search Engine Optimization. What and how is the best way to use it. I am just learning about all the ins and outs so trust me there is more than just writing involved.
How about Fitness ? The vast majority of people either are physically active or want to be. I have mentioned before that I have a love/hate relationship with exercise and I know there are many of you who feel the same way. If I do not have a plan or a major goal it is almost impossible for me to even start and then be consistent. I am going through that right now.
One thing that stops me, or I use as an excuse, is the proper way to do something. Like using hand held weights. Sure any one can pick up a weight but it is how you actually perform the movements that will give you the best results and also prevent injuries.
So yes, there is also a proper way to form your plan or set your goals. First realize that there really isn’t a perfect plan that exists that everyone can follow because everyone is different. My plan may not work for you and vice versa.
A plan should include a time frame. When do you need to complete your plan ? It creates in your mind the belief that what you are doing is important, you really want to do it and it moves you forward into the action needed to actually execute your plan.
It should be straight forward. When your read your plan does it actually show exactly what it is you truly want to accomplish ? Does it make sense ? If someone else reads it will they be able to understand your intent?
When reading your plan does it motivate you to follow through ? The reason you want to complete your plan must be written in such a way that when you read it you will want to take the action needed to achieve your goals.
Do you have an easily understood action plan ? You should be able to look at your plan and understand the steps you have to take to reach your goals. What is step number one, step number two and so on.
Be flexible when putting your plan into action. You may come to realize that something just is not working and you have to eliminate that portion and possibly introduce something else that will be more effective. It is important that you and your plan is adaptable.
If you research goal setting on the internet you will see the term Smart Goals. I have seen that reference several times and it is a good format to follow. Here is one example:
I strongly believe we should always have a plan for self improvement.
“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to Fail” Benjamin Franklin
If we do not constantly evaluate and adjust our way of thinking we limit ourselves greatly. We become stagnant. It is important at any time in our lives and I believe the sooner in life we come to realize this the better, the more fulfilled and enjoyable our lives will be.
When I look back at my life I often wonder what the heck was I thinking ? Why did I do this and why didn’t I do that ? If only. I do not know statistically how many of us just sort of float through life but I think the percentages are high, much higher than they should be. Why is that ? We do not plan, we take things for granted, we do not have high expectations. We should.
I have come to this point in my life where the possibility of dying is more possible than not. There is still so much I want to do. None of us, at any time in our life, knows how much longer we have; there are no guarantees. I have a plan to do as much as I can now but I wish I had made a plan for my life when I was 20, 30 or 40.
We place limitations on ourselves, knowingly or unknowingly. Our tendency is just to think everything will work out. Please do not do that. No matter what age you are make a plan. Do not limit yourself. Dream. How can you improve ? Read and then read some more. Take a class. Learn another language and how to play a musical instrument. Laugh, smile and share. Think about yourself and your family and friends but also think about others. Help yourself and do something to help someone else.
Make your plan and be stronger today then you were yesterday. Live well and Prosper.
“Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.”– James Dean
As always, Thank You for reading my blog. Have a wonderful day.
“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”– John Lennon
When I started writing my blog I had the purpose of assessing my life, looking back at what I had done and also looking forward to what I still want to do. Life is short and I do not think we truly appreciate that until we are a little older. We are not mindful.
We are too busy living our life to step back and appreciate it. What a gift ! There is so much joy available in virtually most any experience. The simple things that are there everyday if we would just slow down a little bit. To me it is like Spring, that wonderful season when everything is new and fresh. The “greening effect” of the buds on the trees, flowers popping out of the ground, the sound of a Robin, the “peepers” sounding by the pond. Glorious !
All those things make me happy and there are so many other common everyday things like my first cup of coffee and the second cup in late afternoon. My cat waking me in the morning and then leading me to the outdoors to start my day. My happy little dog who always brings me something he loves; one of his balls, a worn, chewed stuffed animal or his favorite squeaky.
Hearing the voices of my children and the wonderful “little” voice of my grandson. My teenage granddaughter who offers me so much hope for the world watching her grow and mature. See her forming her opinions and values and developing her wonderful artistic talents.
So why do we have a “problem” being happy ? We all have bad days and that is understandable. We work hard and we get tired. Something will happen that is discouraging and ,yes, bad things do happen. The loss of a good friend, an accident and someone is injured, you, or someone you love, is diagnosed with cancer. Just turning on the nightly news can be disheartening.
But why are we not happy with our day to day life, when it is not filled with the real bad stuff, but just those ordinary days. We get up, we have breakfast, everyone goes off to work or school, we come home, spend time together and then it’s time to go to bed. Those kinds of days, normal days. The feel good days that we take for granted.
When someone asks how are you and you want to answer honestly and tell them you are depressed, you are not happy, you feel lousy, life sucks. Do you even know why you feel like that ? Sometimes we wake up that way. You did not sleep well and you are tired but what is the real reason behind it.
Sometimes I think we expect too much or we try too hard. Everyone has expectations of how you will feel when you finish doing something; like planning a vacation or completing a big assignment at school or work. When you are home from vacation or you have completed that assignment you expect to feel good, really good, and then you don’t.
Kind of like the Peggy Lee song from 1969, “Is That All There Is?”.
So what can we do to be happy ? I think it is possible to change our way of thinking about what we do each day and to adjust our way of doing things, change our perspective. Some refer to this as mindfulness.
Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we’re doing, and not overly reactive or be overwhelmed by what’s going on around us.
I read an article by Paige Oldham for Simplemindfulness;
https://www.simplemindfulness.com/how-to-set-goals-that-will-increase-your-happiness/ . A great article which I recommend reading.
I really like how she expressed it, ” Living authentically and intentionally, doing what we love, and expressing our feelings with the people we love – these are the most common things people deny themselves of throughout their lives. ”
So how do we practice Mindfulness ? Like with most important things you have done in the past, or what you perceived as important enough at the time to put in the effort, you make a plan and you set goals and you form new habits.
First things first though, you have to decide what is important. What do you value, what makes you feel good, and at the end of the day you know it helped you feel happy ? I go back to those simple things in life that make you feel good and add value to your life. The things we usually take for granted.
If you are working there will be decisions to be made so you can balance your work and your happiness. Learn to schedule in little breaks whenever possible to do something that will bring joy and alleviate stress. Get up from your work area and move around, get some coffee, read a quote that makes you feel good, look at pictures of your family, make a quick call home. There are many things you can do to relax even when doing an important task at work. When in doubt just smile; it will make you feel better.
Whenever possible take a moment to do a mental scan of how you feel. Close your eyes and slowly think about each part of you. Are you relaxed ? Are you clasping your hands tightly in a fist, does your neck or any part of your body feel tight ? If the answer is yes then you are showing signs of tension or stress. Do an evaluation of what you were doing that made you feel that way. By doing so you are learning more about what causes you stress and you can look for ways to change.
I like to write things down. Make a daily journal about your day and how you feel. Make a list of what you do each day and break it down into pros and cons. Decide what it is that makes you feel good and what makes you feel bad. Then think about what, and how, you can change. Decide how you can spend more time doing what makes you feel good and how you can eliminate those things you spend time on that really do not help you or that make you feel bad. Make it a habit to once a week take some quiet time, read your journal for that week, and keep working on your plan.
We all push ourselves to move forward and make ourselves better and to make a better life for our families. Is that important ? Yes, of course, it is. But at what cost ? There is a balance that we have to learn and most of us ignore. There may be something in our subconscious mind that tries to tell us that we are out of sync but we usually ignore it and keep pushing forward. We are not being mindful.
We are competitive beasts and we always want more and that has become quite normal. Many people when they retire have a problem dealing with the changes retirement brings because they no longer have anything to strive for. They never learned to have a balance in their life and now they have nothing to turn to except maybe regret. They come to realize that what they had worked so hard for did not have the value they had thought. At the end they may ask, “Is That All There Is?
Learn to live in the present. Learn Mindfulness.
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a great “mindful” day.