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Quote Of The Day

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”

~ Helen Keller
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Quote Of The Day

“The real winners in life are the people who look at every situation with an expectation that they can make it work or make it better.”

– Barbara Pletcher, Author
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Quote Of The Day

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

Aristotle
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Mistake – Danger – Failure – 7 Ways To Jump Forward To Success

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So something negative happened and you feel like you are a failure. It happens to everyone at some time in our life. It’s our reaction that counts!

There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.

Colin Powell

No one is perfect. It is rare that someone tries something they have never done before with no preparation and gets it right the first time. Just does not happen.

We learn by trying something and failing.

No one wants to fail, but it is a fact of life. When we fail we open ourselves up to the opportunity of learning.

We can read about how to do something and have all the knowledge available to us, but until we attempt it ourselves we truly do not understand. Even when we feel totally prepared we may not be successful. We might fail.

Failure sucks! When we fail we are usually devastated. We want to tuck into a fetal position, cover up with a blanket and sulk. That doesn’t help but it is part of the process.

We may deny it. We may blame it on something else. Placing the blame somewhere else is counter productive. There is no benefit in doing so. We learn nothing.

Once we move past the devastation and denial we can start looking at what happened. It is necessary to poke around a bit and keep poking until you gain some understanding and acceptance.

Failure is telling you that you did something wrong. You need to analyze what you did. Break it down step by step and come to an understanding of why you failed.

Try again and keep trying. Next time you may fail again. If you give up then you are accepting failure. You really don’t want to do that.

How do we benefit from failure?

  • Growth Opportunity. Use failure to be better at your craft. I failed recently and it was mind numbing. I was angry and depressed. After I went through the initial trauma I understood that I just have to keep trying. It is a challenge and I know I will learn a great deal because of it.
  • Strength. We learn how strong we are. How we react to failure defines us. Do we give up? No, we fight through to success one step at a time.
  • Determination. Determination is what keeps pushing you forward towards your goals. We learn something about ourselves. We become better and stronger.
  • Resilience. We learn to adapt and accept change We look for other ways to make it work. You learn to understand that failure is a part of life and that we are capable of overcoming it.
  • Confidence. When we fail and get up and try again we are winners, not failures. We come to realize that we can succeed with the right amount of work and effort. We become more confident in our abilities.
  • Mindset. Our mindset changes. When we overcome failure it changes our perspective about everything in our life. Our mental strength will become stronger and we will believe that we can learn and grow and overcome obstacles.
  • Passion. We learn what is truly important to us, what we are passionate about. Passionate enough to keep trying. Having enthusiasm for what you do changes everything.

 “No human ever became interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and improve, the better you are as a person. Ever meet someone who’s always had everything work out for them with zero struggle? They usually have the depth of a puddle. Or they don’t exist.” 

Chris Hardwick

Failure is a part of life. It will happen over and over again but it doesn’t mean we should give up. Failure is not a life or death situation.

I actually think experiencing failure makes us stronger, better people. Like Chris Hardwick, I believe it certainly makes us more interesting human beings.

Embrace failure. Use failure for your personal growth. Tell some interesting stories and make someone laugh. Laugh at yourself. You survived.

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Determination And How It Helps You Be Successful – Why It Matters

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Desire is the key to motivation, but it’s determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal – a commitment to excellence – that will enable you to attain the success you seek.

Mario Andretti

When I was working in Retail Banking I was motivated but more than that I was determined. To be truly successful I think you have to be both.

I was motivated by need and I was motivated by being a single mother of two young boys. They were my driving force. It was not enough for me to just have a job, an entry level job. To be able to provide for me and my children I knew I had to push myself to move up the ladder. I needed money and for that to happen I had to strive for excellence..

It was more than money though. I was motivated to be successful and to set a good example for my two sons. They saw me working hard. Going to college, working full time and sitting with either an open book or the computer virtually all the time.

Was I successful? Yes, I was. Why? It was because I was motivated but it was really because I was determined. You can be motivated and I believe that the majority of people are but not everyone chooses to be determined. It is a choice.

When you are motivated you have a willingness to do something. There is usually a carrot at the end of a stick as a reward. Motivation can change at any moment. It can literally disappear.

My motivation was to increase my income to support my sons. My motivation would have decreased if I had received additional income from a different source. It could also disappear if I did move up the ladder to a certain level and became comfortable there. I might not be motivated to keep working at moving up that ladder anymore.

Determination is different. Determination is a personal quality that can be applied to any situation. It is something you have inside you, a force of will. You decide you want to do something and you are determined to see it through even when you know it will be difficult.

Motivation would be wanting to move ahead at work.

Determination would be continuing to push toward that goal even when there are roadblocks in the way.

To put it in simple terms, motivation is whatever causes you to want to do something and someone can motivate you. Determination is your personal choice. No one can make you be determined.

So how does determination help you move ahead?

It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”

Leonardo da Vinci

Determination is powerful. It is a strength of character and a overwhelming force to be reckoned with. It is a key factor for success.

Probably the most well known creed of determined people is “never give up”. When they determine something they want, they set a goal and make a plan on how to get there. They will power through set backs and obstacles. If something does not work they find another way.

Determination can be the difference between achieving a goal and being successful or the person who gives up before they reach their goal.

You may have wonderful talents and great work ethic but if you do not have the magical addition of determination you may never be as good as you could be. There are many people from all walks of life that we admire and respect but we may wonder why they never quite made it.

Sometimes we are faced with challenges and set backs both personally and professionally that are just too much. That is true of so many yet they there are some who power through when most people wonder how could they do that. We would have totally understood why they could not.

To name a few:

Benjamin Franklin dropped out of school at the age of 10 to help support his family.

Albert Einstein did not speak until he was four years old. His teachers thought he was lazy and he would never amount to anything.

Stephen King’s first novel was rejected 30 times.

Oprah Winfrey overcame a childhood of turmoil to become North America’s first black millionaire among many other honors. You can read her story here: https://www.notablebiographies.com/We-Z/Winfrey-Oprah.html

When you are determined to succeed you will push yourselves to do more so you can reach your goals. There will always be obstacles to overcome for all of us. There will also be failures. When that happens do not stop. Failure is a lesson and an opportunity which you can use to improve. Be determined to learn, get better and push on to success. Your determination will be what pushes you to overcome challenges.

If you were just motivated to complete your goal and you faced failure this is the moment where you might say enough and accept your status and not push to be better.

Determination tells you that yes you can continue and you will take the next step on your journey toward success.

“Your opponent, in the end, is never really the player on the other side of the net, or the swimmer in the next lane, or the team on the other side of the field, or even the bar you must high-jump. Your opponent is yourself, your negative internal voices, your level of determination.”

Grace Lichtenstein

I truly believe that people are born with determination, that it is a natural trait. I also believe that you can develop a determined personality. There are steps you can take to change your perspective. It will be easier for some than others, but it can be done.

Changing your perspective, deciding you will be DETERMINED will require multiple steps. It may take longer than you think or it could happen quickly. It depends on your mindset.

Your mindset is so important. Your actions will be determined by how you look at yourself. If you have a positive mindset you will be able to set goals and be focused on achieving them. You goal is to stay positive and also develop a determined mindset.

One thing I think is really important is to talk to your support system, i.e.: your partner/family. When you are determined to achieve any goal you will be working hard. Let the people closest to you know what the goal is and why it is important. Make a plan that will involve them. It is important they understand what you are doing and how they can support your effort.

Realize that you have to be focused, completely focused. It is easy to waver or go off track. Develop a habit of reviewing your goal and your plan on how to reach it. Read it every day, either first thing to begin your day or last thing at night, or both.

Relax. You will be working hard and expending a lot of energy . Take care of yourself. Step away and do something to relax. Breath. Take a walk. Exercise. Do something enjoyable with your family. It is important to be rested and in a good mood, a positive mood.

Realize that developing a determined mindset doesn’t happen all at once. It will not happen overnight. Do not be disappointed if you find yourself slipping into old habits. Step back and reassess. Think about your end goal and why it is important.

Don’t expect immediate results. Be willing to spend the time now to realize your end goal. Determination is an action, an action you are taking. There may be a learning curve involved. Just like learning a new skill of any kind you have to put in the effort to become an expert.

Let go of negativity. If you feel it creeping into your thought process boot it out. There is no time for meaningless thought. Negativity has no value. Stay away from negative people and their influence. Develop a positive mantra that you can say to yourself whenever you are stressed, tired or a negative thought starts in your head.

Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not: unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent”

Calvin Coolidge

Determination. It will power you to success. You have a Vision. You have Ambition. Execute with Determination. You will have Success. What decisions will you make today?

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