Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave or lose. To the question of your life, you are the only answer. To the problems of your life, you are the only solution.”
In my last post, I indicated that I am taking a step back to reassess and get some much-needed tasks done and out of my way. Life was too cluttered, messy, and irritating. I was having a hard time finding my focus.
I intend to do a large amount of cleaning. Get rid of unneeded items in my home and, just as important, in my mind. I need to be clearer in my direction, my intentions.
I am going to, for the time being, post just one blog a week. I will also post one quote a day, as usual, so no change there.
Finding my way is sometimes frustrating, and I think it is important to become more focused, more clearly defined. So that is what I will be attempting to do.
Here are some of the things I am going to use.
Find a clear path. Right now, I feel like I am a jumbled mess, and that cannot continue. My mind is racing trying to put everything in perspective and decide what is right for me as far as my blog is concerned. I need to find a clear separation from the rest of my life so that it is compatible with my writing. So far, it is a slow process.
Take one step at a time. One of my problems has been trying to do too many tasks at once. I knew what I wanted to accomplish, but I was attempting to do it all at once. Now I realize that was not realistic, and here I am. I need to make a new plan and stick to it, so I do not fall back into my habit of trying to do everything at once.
Don’t overthink it. I am a great one for overthinking. My mind runs rampant with all the possibilities, which to tell you the truth can be exhausting. Whoa, slow down. It is easy to become so immersed in all these possibilities that you lose focus on that one small thing you need to do now. Keep it simple, and stick with one step, and when you are done with that step, move on to the next.
Don’t place too much value on the length of time you may have been working on something. I realized that I needed to make a change, but it does not always work that way. I could have easily kept going in the same pattern and not accomplished what I wanted because that is what most of us do. We lose track of our main objective and feel we need to push through and keep going. Each day we have the opportunity to change our life. Do it. Take one small step today and put it on repeat by doing it again tomorrow.
Find a support system. That is one of the problems I have. For the most part, I am doing this on my own. It is not easy, and it can be overwhelming. If you have family or friends who can help you, ask for their help. If that is not possible and you can afford it, hire someone to help with all the little things you do not understand or cannot do. Enlist whatever help you can; it is important, and it will make your life so much easier, and help eliminate stress.
Don’t be a “Negative Nancy.” It is so easy to let your mind wander when you are attempting something new, and inevitably it will fill with negative thoughts. Why do we do that? When it does happen, chose not to listen. Instead think of all the reasons it is important to you. You are capable; just keep taking those small steps forward.
Challenge yourself. The world is full of wonderful possibilities. Let go of the past and change your mindset. It is so easy not to believe in your capabilities. It does not take any effort to stay the same and not improve, but there is no reward in that. Being stagnant and not growing is no fun. I am slightly older, and it would be so easy to putter around the house and not change, but that would be so boring.
Get rid of clutter. That is my intention. There is so much of it because of my small business which I closed, and all the other personal things I own but do not need. I have always resisted letting things go, but not anymore. All the physical property I do not need is leaving. Remember, clutter can also exist in your mind. As humans, it is easy to let ourselves get in a mental rut. Don’t do that! Clean out the cobwebs and try something new.
Be sure to take care of yourself. Life can be hectic, and we tend to take care of everyone else before we think of ourselves as an afterthought. Take a breath, slow down, and relax. Eat healthy foods, exercise, spend time with family and friends. Rest.
Step back and analyze the changes you are making. That is what I am doing right now. It is important. I realize now that I could not have kept going at the same pace. It was not so much a physical pace as it was mental. I was causing myself stress. It is important not to push yourself too much without knowing where you are going or what you have accomplished. You can have a plan but get lost in it. Make sure you understand what you have accomplished so far and how it makes you feel. Do not forget to ask yourself if you are happy.
“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.”
So my quest is not to be perfect because I do not believe in perfection. I would much rather be flawed. I do believe in change, and that is what I am continually doing—always adjusting my time frame.
As always, thanks so much for reading my blog. Have a beautiful, satisfying day.
Every next level of your life will demand a different version of you.”
Is it time to change your life? A new year is right around the corner, and most of us are thinking about the possibility of change.
What do we want to happen in the New Year? Do you want to improve your life? Of course, you do! It is human nature to want more in your life and to be a better person.
There is never a better time than the start of a new year to make plans and set goals.
Here is the tough part. The clock strikes midnight on December 31st, and we have our list of ideas, either in our head or, hopefully, we have written them down. We celebrate the New Year, and the first week or two, we pay attention to our goals for the year. When a month or two goes by, most of us have very nicely fallen back into our old habits.
It is so easy and so comfortable to continue to do things the way we always have.
Remember, if you do nothing to change your life, life will change you. Life is ever-evolving. We may not notice it because we are too busy being comfortable doing the same thing every day.
Heads up people, you’ve got this. You can change. The decision is up to you. It requires a conscious choice and a strong effort, but no one can make it except you.
I have to laugh at myself because I have been trying to force myself to use the treadmill consistently. You know what did it for me, what made me finally commit to getting on that darn machine?
It’s crazy, but this is what is working for me. During the holiday season, the local grocery store where I shop offers Peppermint Mocha coffee creamer. I love it! However, I have not been drinking it for 2-3 years. I made a choice for my health, to not use creamers in my coffee.
So last week I was shopping, and I saw the display. I stopped and was probably drooling over the Peppermint Mocha creamer. I stood there for a few moments and thought about it; should I or shouldn’t I? Then for some reason, it clicked, and I decided to buy the creamer, but I made a trade-off. I would have to use my treadmill. No Treadmill. No Creamer!
It worked! I have been using my treadmill every day. Granted, I am not Speedy Gonzales. I am walking at a speed of 3 miles per hour, on an incline level of 4, and I do it for 30 minutes each time. It is a good start that I am determined to continue. I have also decided to use this bottle of creamer and then give it up. Once the season is over, it will no longer be available anyway.
I will continue to use the treadmill. For some reason, this time feels different. I know I have made a decision that works for me this time.
Now I am going to look at all my goals in a different way. What trade-off can I make? What am I willing to do to accomplish a new goal? What am I willing to give up for personal growth?
Many things that we do throughout the day do not benefit us in any way. How many times do we check our social media during the day? Let’s say we check Twitter, Facebook, Instagram three or four times. When we do this, how many minutes are we spending each time?
We do not even realize the length of time we are spending. What goal do you have for the new year? How much time have you allocated to each day toward achieving it?
See where I’m going here? You can make a trade-off. Check social media twice each day, once in the morning and once in the evening. Use that time to work on your goal instead.
How many hours do you watch TV each evening? Do you watch programs that you really enjoy, or are there some you watch just because they came on after your favorite show? Television can suck us in, and if we were to think about it, we might realize that we are wasting time. We waste valuable time. It is mind-numbing and not beneficial.
Sorry, but it is true, and I am guilty of it too. Let’s change it up this year and read a book instead.
The point is, we waste time. We do not think about it and, for the most part, are oblivious to it.
Here is a simple exercise to do. Take sheets of blank paper and complete the two suggestions below.
1 – For one week, keep track by writing down what you do and the amount of time used. Look at it at the end of the week, and I mean, LOOK at it. Make graphs if you have to. Make blocks on a piece of paper, write down the activity, and the amount of time spent. I think you will be surprised.
2 – What are your goals? How important are they to you? How much time are you willing to spend to achieve them? Write it all down. Whatever format you used for #1, use the same for #2, so you can compare them.
Now put them side by side. Look at sheet #1 and the time you are spending. Is there time spent anywhere on that sheet that you can eliminate and transfer to sheet #2?
Can you make a trade-off so you can work on your goal; so that you can achieve your goal?
Decide what you want. Decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work”.
H. L. Hunt
Change can be frightening, but change can also be exhilarating. Worth the risk, let’s get working!
Open the door and take the first step into the New Year.
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Here is to trade-offs in 2020!
“Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Do not bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.”
― William Faulkner
I want to better. I have always felt that way and now at 73 the feeling is even stronger. I want to be smarter than I am now. I want to be more compassionate. I want to be healthier and more physically fit.
The thing is…we should all want to be better at any age and we should always keep looking for ways to improve.
So how do we become better at any age?
Be Open To Change
How many times have you made excuses for not doing something new? It is so easy to say no. We are hesitant about the unknown; even scared.
Sometimes we let someone close to us influence our decisions. They may be scared we will get hurt, either physically or mentally.
I say why not try it. It will build your confidence and increase your knowledge and overall well being.
Learn Something New
We should strive to learn something every day. Read, watch videos and webinars. Learn how to do something you have always been interested in, but always put it off.
Do you like music? Learn to play the piano, the violin or cello. Join a choral group and sing you heart out. Learn a new language; how about sign language?
Join a sports league like volleyball. Go to REI and take a class or how about Home Depot and learn how to use tools to do home improvement.
Now, more than ever, there are people in need. Just think how much better you will feel about yourself if you volunteer to help others.
Join an organization like Habitat for Humanity or a local soup kitchen. Volunteer to drive patients to the hospital for treatments. Deliver for Meals on Wheels. Read to children at the library or to those in the hospital. Visit Nursing Homes and interact with the residents there.
This is something so easy to do and we can easily ignore. I always hold the door for people and I always smile and say Hi. It is funny though because sometimes when you do that people do not acknowledge it. Do not get angry at the them, which can be an automatic reaction.
Sit in a parking lot sometime and watch people; especially at a grocery store. I see so many people struggle with packages and car doors. Get out of the car, and ask if you can help them. I have done it before. Sometimes they say no, but sometimes they are relieved and very appreciative.
This is something we all need to be better at. Speaking from experience, it can be very frustrating and demoralizing to be talking and have someone talk over me, or ignore me.
We are all in a hurry and we want our voices heard. Remember to take a moment and listen. Show respect to everyone by letting them have a voice. That includes children, the elderly, the clerk at the store, your co-workers and your spouse.
How do you feel when you are quite sure someone is lying to you, or not telling the whole story, slanting it in their favor?
It is beneficial to you, and everyone you interact with, to be honest. Sometimes it is not easy to explain your feelings and ideas so take your time, think first, and be as open and honest as possible. I always find it easier when I put myself in their shoes; how would you want to be treated?
Let Go Of Resentment
This is a tough one. When you have encountered a negative person, or experience, in the past, you will understand how it feels. It is difficult to let it go. It can affect you for a long time, if you let it.
Letting your resentment fester you are hurting yourself. It is allowing the negative experience hurt you twice. Find a way to let it go and move past it.
Acknowledge what happened, accept it, and move on. Think it through, poke at it a bit, and talk to someone you trust about your feelings. If necessary, talk to a professional to help you move past it.
“Make the most of yourself….for that is all there is of you.”
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a wonderful day.