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Always Dream And Aim High – 7 Tips On How To Be Better Than Yourself

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“Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Do not bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.”

― William Faulkner

I want to better. I have always felt that way and now at 73 the feeling is even stronger. I want to be smarter than I am now. I want to be more compassionate. I want to be healthier and more physically fit.

The thing is…we should all want to be better at any age and we should always keep looking for ways to improve.

So how do we become better at any age?

Be Open To Change

How many times have you made excuses for not doing something new? It is so easy to say no. We are hesitant about the unknown; even scared.

Sometimes we let someone close to us influence our decisions. They may be scared we will get hurt, either physically or mentally.

I say why not try it. It will build your confidence and increase your knowledge and overall well being.

Learn Something New

We should strive to learn something every day. Read, watch videos and webinars. Learn how to do something you have always been interested in, but always put it off.

Do you like music? Learn to play the piano, the violin or cello. Join a choral group and sing you heart out. Learn a new language; how about sign language?

Join a sports league like volleyball. Go to REI and take a class or how about Home Depot and learn how to use tools to do home improvement.

Volunteer

Now, more than ever, there are people in need. Just think how much better you will feel about yourself if you volunteer to help others.

Join an organization like Habitat for Humanity or a local soup kitchen. Volunteer to drive patients to the hospital for treatments. Deliver for Meals on Wheels. Read to children at the library or to those in the hospital. Visit Nursing Homes and interact with the residents there.

Be Helpful

This is something so easy to do and we can easily ignore. I always hold the door for people and I always smile and say Hi. It is funny though because sometimes when you do that people do not acknowledge it. Do not get angry at the them, which can be an automatic reaction.

Sit in a parking lot sometime and watch people; especially at a grocery store. I see so many people struggle with packages and car doors. Get out of the car, and ask if you can help them. I have done it before. Sometimes they say no, but sometimes they are relieved and very appreciative.

Listen

This is something we all need to be better at. Speaking from experience, it can be very frustrating and demoralizing to be talking and have someone talk over me, or ignore me.

We are all in a hurry and we want our voices heard. Remember to take a moment and listen. Show respect to everyone by letting them have a voice. That includes children, the elderly, the clerk at the store, your co-workers and your spouse.

Be Honest

How do you feel when you are quite sure someone is lying to you, or not telling the whole story, slanting it in their favor?

It is beneficial to you, and everyone you interact with, to be honest. Sometimes it is not easy to explain your feelings and ideas so take your time, think first, and be as open and honest as possible. I always find it easier when I put myself in their shoes; how would you want to be treated?

Let Go Of Resentment

This is a tough one. When you have encountered a negative person, or experience, in the past, you will understand how it feels. It is difficult to let it go. It can affect you for a long time, if you let it.

Letting your resentment fester you are hurting yourself. It is allowing the negative experience hurt you twice. Find a way to let it go and move past it.

Acknowledge what happened, accept it, and move on. Think it through, poke at it a bit, and talk to someone you trust about your feelings. If necessary, talk to a professional to help you move past it.

Make the most of yourself….for that is all there is of you.” 

–Ralph Waldo

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Quote Of The Day

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new” #Change #Focus #Motivation #Quote

Socrates
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Quote Of The Day

Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.”

#Change #Life Lessons #Motivation #Quote

Carol Burnett
Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.

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5 Tips To Follow to Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

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“It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.”

― Roy T. Bennett

It is natural to reach a level of comfort in our workplace. There is a familiarity and a rhythm to what we do. Every day we know what to expect, who we will work with, and the personalities of our co-workers. Even when the work we do does not stimulate us, does not challenge us, we accept that and settle in.

Throughout life, there will be opportunities that become available to us, but we hesitate. We are not comfortable with change. We may be scared and feel we are not qualified. We want to take advantage of the option, but all we think about is the possibility of failing. Change can be stressful and cause anxiety.

What happens when life throws you a curve, either good or bad? Maybe your company downsizes or moves to another state, or out of the country. You might lose your job, or decide to quit because you don’t want to move.

All of those things will require change and will throw you out of your comfort zone. What would you do if you receive a promotion? There is also the possibility that you make the decision, consciously or unconsciously, to push yourself to improve and move forward, knowing that it may be a while until you find a comfort zone of your own making.

Change can be scary, and, yes, it can cause stress. However, having worked for many years working under a low level of self-induced stress by continually pushing myself to do better, I think it can be a good and productive way to work.

We each have a choice every day when we start our day. Will we settle in and do just what is required of us, or will we do more?

When there was a change in my life, I went back to work. I would be raising two young children on my own. I took an entry-level job in a field I had worked in before and never thought I would work in again. I did not have a college education, so I was starting at the bottom. It did not take me long to realize that I not only wanted but needed more. That was my choice, and I pushed myself forward every day.

There was no comfort zone. I worked most of the time with a certain level of stress; like a low hum. Sometimes it was more of a roar.

As a result, I was always pushing the boundaries, and that became normal to me. I was more productive, and I always looked for new things to learn. I guess you could say I was ambitious. Although, I never thought of it that way; that thought just popped into my head.

Change became more comfortable, and I was able to adapt more quickly. I became more creative in the way I did my work, and I learned to question and look for better, more efficient ways to complete my assignments.

Deciding to work outside of a comfort zone worked for me and I was successful as a result. Do I consider myself lucky or special? No, why would I? In my mind, it was all about pushing myself and going the extra mile.

So how can you leave your comfort zone, and what steps can you take?

First, of course, is deciding to go for it. There are all sorts of scenarios and reason, and everyone’s will be different in some way.

Think of it as a reset, or a reboot, Compare it to your computer system that requires a periodic update. In this case, you are doing an update on your comfort zone.

When you do an update on your computer, you find that some of your programs run differently. That is what you need to do too.

Start making changes. They do not have to be big, change your life in one day, changes. Start small, and keep adjusting, adding more changes. Don’t stop if something does not work or it feels uncomfortable. That is how you learn, and you will grow from all your experiences, both good and bad.

Take it slow. It does not have to happen overnight. Think about what you either have to change, or want to change, and determine what makes you uncomfortable. What makes you afraid? Analyze and determine if you can break it down into steps. Then take one step at a time.

Depending on the type of person you are, or what your work environment is like, there are two approaches you can take. Based on the situation you find yourself in, you can, of course, use both

If you work in a fast-paced environment, you may be used to making quick decisions, and that is what you are comfortable doing. What if you slow it down and take a step back. Look at what is happening, take a breath, a moment, and think. Instead of making a snap decision, you will be making an educated decision. It will feel uncomfortable because it is not what is usually done.

On the other hand, you may be comfortable taking your time making decisions. You may like to analyze and look at all the options. Sometimes we may hesitate and take an extra day to make a decision. Take a risk and make a snap decision. Trust your judgment. You may like it, and there may be a benefit because you will learn to trust yourself and be more confident as a result.

Trying new things can be stressful, but in the long run, it can be beneficial. When you learn new skills and have new experiences, you become more interesting and have a broader perspective, not only for your work but of yourself.

Continue pushing yourself in all aspects of your life, not just at work. There is so much to do and so much to learn. Life is short, but it is full of possibilities, no matter who you are, or how young or how old. Don’t live a life half full; do as much as you can and don’t get too comfortable.

“Coming out of your comfort zone is tough in the beginning, chaotic in the middle, and awesome in the end…because in the end, it shows you a whole new world.” 

– Manoj Arora

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Quote Of The Day

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There are two primary choices in life; to accept conditions as they exist, or to accept the responsibility for changing them.

~ Aldous Huxley

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Quote Of The Day

“The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.”

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Quote Of The Day

“Change is not something that we should fear. Rather, it is something that we should welcome. For without change, nothing in this world would ever grow or blossom, and no one in this world would ever move forward to become the person they’re meant to be.”

–B.K.S Iyengar
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