“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”
—Martin Luther King
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“Mountaintops inspire leaders but valleys mature them.”
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“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Each day we are given a gift, the ability to start fresh. We are presented with a blank page, and we have the opportunity to write our story, change our life, make improvements, and decide what is important.
We are in control.
So what should we do with it?
Here are a few suggestions.
- Leave yesterday behind
What happened yesterday is over and cannot be redone. If you had a great day, fantastic. Remember that feeling and let it help you start in a positive mood today.
If yesterday was a day that left you feeling frustrated and angry, do not let that overwhelm you. You can, however, use it to motivate you to work harder today. You have a fresh start, a blank page, make it better.
- Wake up early and get started.
Typically, mornings are when we have the most energy, are the most effective at getting things done, and have a positive attitude.
Take advantage of that energy and attitude and get moving.
The best plan would be working on the item on your to do list that has the most value. Do that first and when you are done you can move on to the next.
If you tend to procrastinate about exercise, make that your first priority. I know when I exercise early in the day, I have more energy and enthusiasm, and that helps me be more efficient.
- Always have daily goals
It is essential to have a specific plan for each day. It is the most effective way to accomplish your goals.
When you wake up without a plan, it is so easy to go off course. I know I have to have a list to guide my day. I like to write down tasks to complete for each day in the afternoon or evening of the day prior.
That way, I always have a plan to look at first thing in the morning. It will guide my day.
My list is structured with the most important item first. I always include a time slot for the Treadmill. I divide the balance of the list into smaller tasks that require less time or effort to complete.
- Be flexible
Life can be challenging. It is important to be able to accept change and be able to navigate through what may get thrown at us.
Practice mindfulness. Be calm and accept what you cannot change, once you do that, re-focus on your goals, and re-structure your goals accordingly.
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change.”~ Wayne Dyer
- Minimize distractions
The Internet is such a powerful thing. It is a blessing and a curse. We turn to it all the time, and it has become an integral part of our everyday life.
It can help us do our work, and it can also become a hindrance.
Flip the computer on and do some research. I do it every day. I read blogs and articles, and I write my own.
I check my email, Twitter and Facebook and I get sucked in.
It is an excellent source of information, and it can be a huge time waster.
Limit your time on social media. We should all turn it off when you are working so we can be more effective.
- Make time for yourself
When you make your schedule for the next day, include “me” time.
You have a long list. Sure, I get that, but remember, it is necessary to take care of your self. You will not be effective if you are not well-rested and well-fed.
You should schedule a time for exercise, lunch, a coffee break, a walk outside. Most importantly, schedule time for your family and friends.
- Value yourself and your abilities
It is so easy to praise someone else, but we seldom acknowledge our own skills and accomplishments.
When we start a new day, we have a blank page, and that includes ourselves. Do not focus on what you may have done incorrectly in the past.
Focus on what you learned from your mistake and how you were able to move ahead, perhaps in a new way with a new idea, and accomplish what you started to do.
Focus on your growth and what you have learned. Be proud that you can take risks, learn from your mistakes, and become better for it.
So….today will over soon, and if you are lucky, you will be left with tomorrow and a new opportunity, a blank page. What are you going to write on it?
“Isn’t it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?”~ L.M.Montgomery
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Come here my little pretty, let me suck away your energy. I’m hungry I need to feed!
People feed off each other’s energy. When you walk into a room, can you feel the energy, the vibe, what the other people are feeling?
Is it positive or is it negative? Does it make you comfortable, or do you want to turn around and walk away?
Sometimes it takes just one person to change the atmosphere of a room. Just like they had sucked the energy out of it.
That is bad under any circumstance but worse in the workplace. In a social gathering you can walk away. You can distance yourself from an acquaintance or friend. It is not so easy to do that at work.
How’s your energy? Do you have positive energy or negative energy? How do you feel every day? Are you usually positive and feel great, or are you more negative and feel down most of the time?
What determines our energy? It has a lot to do with what has happened in our past and how we have dealt with those things that shaped us. Our mindset and how we cope with life challenges have a significant impact on our energy. Whatever our perception of events around us and what we think about the most also affect our energy.
We love to be around positive people. They make us feel better, and we are more relaxed.
We usually are uncomfortable around negative people. They make us feel on edge and tense being near them.
It is not always easy to identify an Energy Vampire, especially when we first meet someone. They can be very charismatic. You may want to spend time with them. Until you don’t.
Have you ever spent time with someone, and at the end of the day you feel drained or overwhelmed? It could be a friend that you go to lunch with, or a colleague that you go with to a conference. You may be irritated, anxious and even depressed.
Why do you feel that way? What did you talk about, and did they have a negative attitude? Did you attempt to talk about something important to you, and they made you feel stupid to feel that way?
When you interact with anyone, and you walk away feeling drained, you have just spent time with an Energy Vampire.
An Energy Vampire tries to absorb your positive energy for themselves. Their purpose is to feel better about themselves. They lack empathy and are only concerned with their feelings.
I used to have that experience over and over with the same person. They needed a shoulder to cry on, and I was always there. Each time I would feel irritated and emotionally drained. It became worse as time went by. They never did anything to change their situation, but they always came back looking for that shoulder. I finally stopped. I could not take it anymore.
How do we protect ourselves from an Energy Vampire?
- Determine what is acceptable for you. You may be in a situation where you cannot separate yourself from the vampire person. It may be a boss, a co-worker, or a relative. Do the next best thing. Set some boundaries for yourself. If possible explain what you can or cannot do. Remain positive and firm in your decisions.
- Be passive and do not react. Be neutral and do not argue or dispute what they say. Energy Vampires seek out reactions from others which will increase their desire to keep interacting with you. Stop, be quiet, and let them talk. Hopefully, they will become bored and walk away.
- Be positive and talk about positive topics. Smile, laugh. Steer the conversation away from anything negative or judgmental. Energy Vampires are melodramatic and can be manipulative. They like to complain and gossip. They tend to be jealous and resentful. Do not provide them with the environment they are seeking.
- Learn to say no. When you say no, you are automatically taking away the ability for someone to steal your energy. There are many times when we automatically say yes to someone and then almost immediately regret it. We regret it because we know it is going to sap our energy. Learn to say no.
- Spend as much time as possible with positive people that you feel good being around. Identify those who drain your energy and spend the smallest amount of time with them. Look for ways to eliminate them from your life.
- Do a self evaluation. What upsets you about another person? You may have an issue in your life that you do not realize, and you attract the same type of person in your life. You may feel insecure on some level, or not worthy. Helping an Energy Vampire may make you feel needed. Once you realize and correct whatever issue you are having. the vampire moves on to find another source of energy.
- Commit to doing what makes you feel good, what makes you feel happy. The better you are at taking care of yourself, the less likely Energy Vampires will be able to suck your energy.
Life can be busy and sometimes overwhelming. We need all the energy we have. Take care of yourself. Do whatever you can to rest, relax, and enjoy your life. Stay away from the Energy Vampires. Garlic, anyone?
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a great day!