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“Stop trying to live up to assumptions and perceived expectations that may or may not be rooted in reality and just start doing things out of a whole and honest place. Be that. Do that. Share that.”MissMustardSeed
It is normal to want to do the very best we can and to do as much as we can.
As a result, we set high goals, and with that, we also have high expectations. We get wound up in the excitement of it all; and all the possibilities.
We want to be perfect, and that is a good thing. We should always strive to do the best possible job. The keyword is possible. It is not realistic to believe we can be perfect. It is possible to do our best.
It is easy to lose track. Sure, we pay attention, but we are so focused on our goals that we may not give ourselves time to take a step back and look at the whole picture.
Are you doing too much? Have you taken on more than you can do? You are doing a great job, you have built a client base, and you have other requests for doing another project. Yes, you say, I can do that.
You push yourself to take on one more project, then another and another. Then you begin to realize you are overtired, you are stressed, and you are no longer happy. What you are doing is no longer inspiring. It is work, overwhelmingly hard work.
It is time to stop. Step back and take a break. You need to sit down and analyze where you are.
What do you want to do? Do you need to hire help? Do you want to grow larger, or do you want to dial it back a notch or two? What will make you happy?
Sometimes we become so busy we do lose track of what we started to do in the first place. It is also possible that something has changed and you need, or want, to do something different.
You started with a certain expectation, but you became sidetracked either by yourself as outlined above or by someone else and their influence.
You will be influenced by other people’s opinions when you first start your business.
It can be a family member, a close friend, a mentor, or perhaps your banker. Everyone will have opinions, and some will want to live their dream through you.
Some of the information they share will be beneficial, and some will have no value and could be detrimental. Either way, it is easy to say yes to their suggestions. Some you may feel obligated to do or at least try.
It is easy to lose control or lose sight of what your objective is. At some point, you will come to realize that you cannot be effective, and you cannot fulfill their expectations or your own.
You have to speak up. That is so hard to do, but it is necessary. From an early age, I always tried to meet the expectations of my parents, my teachers, my friends. The truth is, you can’t do that and be happy or be productive.
Make a plan and talk to anyone who is expecting a particular outcome, or a specific way of you doing something. Explain that you have realized that to be successful, this is what you will be doing moving forward.
Thank them for the ideas or suggestions they have made and that you appreciate their help. You may experience some push back but hold your ground. If you do not impose limits, they will continue to try to influence you to do it their way.
No one knows you like you do, and no one is responsible for your success or happiness. You are. Understand what you want to achieve and set limits for yourself and for those that want to influence you.
Honouring your own boundaries is the clearest message to others to honor them, too.― Gina Greenlee
Now it is time to do a re-set. Eliminate the expectations and move forward. Make the needed adjustments to your plan and do what you love. Be happy and be inspired. Never lose the essence of you and what you want to accomplish.
Always be excited! Go get ’em!
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Stepping onto a brand new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.”Maya Angelou
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Everything happens for a reason, live it, love it, learn from it! Make your smile change the world, but don’t let the world change your smile.”–unknown author
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If you don’t have a smile. I’ll give you one of mine.”–unknown author
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“Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”— Albert Einstein
Recently I have been spending time contemplating where I am, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
Am I happy and content? What do I need to do, and how can I do it better. How can I be more effective?
This is not about doing my best for a job or for someone else. This is about doing my best for me, and in turn for those I care about.
What is most important? How about you? How often do you spend time, quality time, committed to understanding what is important?
How many of us slow down to the extent that we understand ourselves?
We are continually exposed to so much and it all affects us. It changes us, particularly when we are not paying attention. Have you done a check-up recently and asked yourself what is important in your life?
Do you ask yourself the important questions? How are you? Are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you like yourself, your thoughts, your actions? What do you care about? Are you happy? Are you growing, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually?
There are a few recent, or upcoming events, that have probably inspired me to do some soul searching.
The big holidays of the year, Thanksgiving and Christmas, and then the New Year is right around the corner. Most everyone looks for ways to change, or improve, at the end of the year. So much to think about.
I have been spending time thinking about family. The birth of a beautiful granddaughter, new life. The health of my husband which is deteriorating. My toddler grandson, who is so smart and energetic, brimming with excitement. My teenage granddaughter, beautiful and becoming her own person. My two sons who are such compassionate, intelligent people who I am so proud of. All the stages of life spreading out before me. I watch with love and joy.
My writing this blog; where do I want to go with it? Do I want to make changes? How can I make it better? How can I bring more value to myself and my followers?
Writing articles for Medium. https://medium.com/@lindalatt. This experience has been so enlightening and so challenging. It is an opportunity to write about anything I want, any subject, any experience, any emotion. I am in awe of the others who share their stories. Most of the time I feel I am unworthy of sharing the same place with them.
Writing is something I will definitely focus on in the coming year. It encourages me to learn the craft of writing and to increase my knowledge on many levels. It is stretching my mind and refreshing my brain cells; who doesn’t need that!
What it comes down to is being better. As I have said before, I want to be a better version of myself. I just wrote an opinion piece on Medium, https://medium.com/@lindalatt/does-donald-trump-have-a-moral-compass-that-would-be-a-big-fat-no-does-it-matter-to-you-a1b7c2d62169
Writing it has been a result of many moments of frustration, anger, disbelief and sadness. It is a result of disillusionment of the narrative that exists and the actions taken. It frightens me. I cannot accept that.
So, as a result, I have looked deeper into my own beliefs and feelings. I do not want to be influenced by the negativity that exists in this country at this moment in time.
This next year will be about adding value to my life.
Each morning I will ask myself this question, “What good shall I do this day?”
Will you join me?
The compass of compassion asks not what is good for me, but what is good? Not what is best for me, but what is best? Not what is right for me, but what is right? Not how much can we take, but how much ought we leave, and how much might we give? Not what is easy, but what is worthy. Not what is practical, but what is moral.Carl Safina
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“The world is full of people looking for spectacular happiness while they snub contentment.”– Doug Larson
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