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7 Habits To Help You Be Successful In Business

The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today.”

— Franklin D. Roosevelt

Everyone wants to be successful. It is the habits we consciously learn and maintain that will bring us success; whether it is in business or our personal life.

Developing those habits may require some effort on our part; some may be easy and others, not so much. Like everything else, the energy we put into learning new habits will determine our success.

So what do we need to do?

  • Start your day off in a positive, energized mode. There are a few things you can do such, as exercise. Exercise can clear your head, and it allows you to visualize your day. I have found it is a great time to solve problems or develop ideas. It does not matter what form of exercise. It can be yoga, running, or weight lifting; any activity that gets your blood flowing.
  • Have a focus list for the day. Make it the night before and come back to it first thing in the morning. The list should include everything you want to accomplish for the day. It could also include a run down of what projects you will be working on that week. Exercise should be on the list, so if you have already done that, you can check it off. You have already started your day on a positive note. Move on to the next thing on the list.
  • As part of your focus list, you should decide what the top three jobs are for the day and then prioritize them again. Which is the hardest? Do that first, then move on to the next hardest and then to number three— that way, you will have completed the essential items. Then you can spend the rest of the day checking off as many of the other jobs as your time allows.
  • Decide to change your attitude toward email, social media, and phone calls. You can get lost in the unnecessary. Check you email and phone messages at designated times. Perhaps first thing in the morning and once again later in the day. Respond only to what is necessary, then move back to your focus list so you can complete the more important aspects of your job. If necessary you can finish your day completing those tasks.
  • Practice mindfulness. Live in the moment. Yesterday is gone, so do not dwell there. Tomorrow is the future, so although it is nice to dream about the success you want to have, you need to do your best job today. You will be prepared for the future by being successful today.
  • Focus on self-improvement by continuing to learn and develop yourself. Always read, take classes, watch webinars. We are never too old to learn. Learning is fun and will make you more interesting. Being open to change and learning new things makes you more valuable at work.
  • Always develop the people that work for you. Treat them with respect, smile, and have meaningful conversations. Ask if you can help; be a mentor. Create a plan which gives them a road map of what they need to learn to move forward. Always give good, honest feedback.

The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.

Vince Lombardi

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The Psychological Effect Of Appearance And Communication Skills On Each Of Us

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Are you aware of the effect you have when you walk into a room full of people?

“The time men spend in trying to impress others they could spend in doing the things by which others would be impressed.”

~ Frank Romer

When someone walks into a room, all eyes will turn, and within seconds a judgment will be made.

Sometimes it is “Wowser, look at him!” Other times you look away; not impressed.

What sparks the “Wow” response? Why does your gaze linger? Is it the clothes, or is it something else? What do you see and what do you feel?

Sometimes there is an essence, a magnetism; maybe a sexual response.

Certainly, the clothes matter and in business, you will hear the statement, “dress for success” often. There is a psychological reason for it. Your clothing affects how you act and feel. When you dress well, and you know you look good, your confidence level is higher, and you perform better. Your appearance will also have a psychological effect on others; the people you work with, your customers, and virtually anyone in the room.

The English idiom “don’t judge a book by its cover” is a metaphorical phrase that means one shouldn’t prejudge the worth or value of something by its outward appearance alone.

What we wear paints a picture, but the image we present is so much more than the clothes we wear.

When you walk into a room, you do so with intent. What is lurking inside that veneered cover? What else is important?

What happens when you have a conversation and have to answer a question? Your response and your ability to articulate can make or break you. If your appearance is a facade, you are in trouble; that essence you gave off just evaporated into thin air.

A voice can also be magnetic and can draw someone in, relax, or excite them. The words you choose are essential and can show your knowledge and intelligence, but the tone of your voice is equally important. A clear, confident voice spoken in a well-modulated tone will have a positive impact on the listener.

As soon as you are in a conversation with someone, the ability to be a good listener is imperative. No discussion is one-sided. If you want to impress someone, stop talking, ask them a question, and let them talk. Watch the body language of the other person and ask them clarifying questions. Make eye contact and perhaps lean in toward the other person indicating your interest in them and their opinion.

The way you walk into the room and the way you speak is affected by your attitude. You have probably heard the term, “fake it till you make it.” I would not recommend attempting to fake your attitude. Your attitude shines through virtually everything you do. It shows in your facial expression, your eyes, your smile, body position, and movements, to name just a few. Your attitude is transparent. You cannot fake being positive or energetic. You can try, but I would not advise it. Organizations look for people who have a passion for life and show their enthusiasm through their actions and words. You cannot fake that!

We should all be excellent at communication, but we are not. Communication is a learned skill and no one is perfect. There are many simple techniques which you can practice each day to become better.

Some of the most common mistakes and the most irritating in my opinion are people who do not look at me when I am speaking. You can see that they are not listening and are already thinking about what they are going to say. Worse yet is being interrupted, or having someone walk away, while I am still talking. Yes, people do that!

Don’t do that. Instead, look for ways to improve.

Here a few tips:

  • Spend more time listening, not talking.
  • Focus on the other person, make eye contact, move toward them, not away.
  • Ask plenty of questions and then clarify their intent.
  • Never interrupt.
  • Avoid finishing someone’s sentence.
  • When you are unsure of what the other person is saying, pause when they are done speaking. Let them know you want to clarify and then ask them a question.
  • Do not think about what you are going to reply until the other person has stopped talking.

How you dress, your non-verbal cues, and how you speak are all integral parts of how you communicate. Do them each with great care. We take our suits to the dry cleaners and we press our shirts. We should do the same with our verbal and non-verbal communication skills.

“One man is more concerned with the impression he makes on the rest of mankind, another with the impression the rest of mankind makes on him.”

~ Arthur Schopenhauer

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Quote Of The Day

“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.”

–T. Harv Eker

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What Shoes Are You Wearing Today? One Step, Two Steps, Change – Finding Balance and Shifting Gears

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“Getting in balance is not so much about adopting new strategies to change your behaviors, as it is about realigning yourself in all of your thoughts so as to create a balance between what you desire and how you conduct your life on a daily basis.” 

Wayne Dyer

Life is a continual balancing act. Each day there are choices to make. Which shoes are you going to wear today? The right question should be, how many shoes can I wear today.

You know I thought life would slow down as I have aged. In some ways it has. I am certainly not responsible for as much as before, but there are decisions I must make each day. There are other people I must include in those decisions, and I have to decide which is most important.

Looking back I know I had so many responsibilities, raising two children as a single parent, working full time, going to college part time and all the other life experiences that were so important and necessary. Now I wonder how I did all of it.

I look at my children and wonder how they are doing it today. Life is even more complicated now than it was then. Everything moves faster, and there are more pressures and stress. Maybe that is why I feel like my life has not slowed down as I anticipated it would.

Finding balance is an ongoing process, and it is also always in flux. Each day of your life will be different. There will be various activities with different people involved. There will be highs and lows and the decision of what is the most important thing to do each day

Next week, it will likely be different. Sure, there will be some activities that will be pretty constant, but they may not be precisely the same. Next month, the same thing will happen.

So, to find and maintain balance in your life, you must be able to be flexible and switch gears, quickly, and continually…day in, day out, and onward.

But what is balance? What do you consider to be a balanced life, day, or week? Do you know? It will be different for each of us, which makes total sense. If you were to ask twelve people what a balanced life is, you would receive twelve different answers.

Thinking about balance is essential. How would you decide? I think a good exercise would be to break down the different parts of your life; write them down. What would they be?

I am sure you would include Work, Family, Health, Money, Your Home, Down Time. Each one of those areas can be analyzed as well. Family would be one. You can break that down into your significant other, your children and your parents and siblings, etc. Don’t forget your self in that equation either. There are other considerations as well, such as Personal and Professional Growth or Religion.

How much of your time can you allocate to each one of those areas? How many hours do you work each week? What responsibilities do you have at home? Do you have more than one job? Do you have help from someone who shares some of these responsibilities?

When you break down all the areas of your life and the time you have each day, each week and each month, do you think your life is in balance? If you can answer yes, congratulations, you are doing the right things.

Most of us would probably answer, no. It can be a harsh reality when you slow down enough to look at how you are living your life. It may be on point, or it may be totally out of whack, or it is somewhere in between. Most of us are probably in the in-between area.

The first thing most people will tell you is that you have to set some goals. There always has to be goals, and that is a good thing. Our goals bring some needed structure, something on which we can focus. Without them, we make our life more prone to being out of balance.

What are the right goals? The problematic part of goal setting is making our goals realistic. I would say to focus on the most critical aspects of your life first, such as work because that provides you financially and your family because they provide for you emotionally and are your support. Once you set your goals, focus on them, and make it your priority to get them done.

You should have short and long term goals. Your short term goals will help support the ability to obtain your long term goals.

Your goals should be very specific, not vague. You should be able to break your goals down into easy to do mini-goals. They should be realistic and achievable.

When you are planning a schedule for each day, the same thing applies. Your schedule has to be realistic and attainable. If you are always stressed out because you cannot keep up, it is time to make some changes.

If you are in a relationship and have children, it is necessary to have the support of your spouse/partner. They are an integral part of the whole equation. Each has to support the other and have the ability to interact with each other. The most important part of this relationship is the ebb and flow of your interaction. Do you support one another at any given time. Remember that is the most crucial part of finding balance. Your life is always in flux, and it will change each day, sometimes moment to moment. You have to have the adaptability to change as well to maintain your balance.

Simplify. When you are looking at your life’s plan and trying to establish short and long term goals to bring everything into balance, look for ways to simplify. What is 100% necessary and what isn’t? If something is not required, and it does not add much value, eliminate it. Is there a better way of doing something? Is there someone else who can do it for you? Can you afford to pay to have something done, so you do not have to do it?

You will always have many shoes to wear in life. Sometimes, they will be work shoes, and sometimes they will be the shoes you wear for fun. Sometimes, no shoes at all.

Life is a moving event. It is always in flux. Something or someone will change. You will lose something, and something else will take its place. Hold on and enjoy the ride.

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.

Thomas Merton

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Quote Of The Day

“One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”

– Michael J. Fox

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