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Do You Have A Positive Attitude? How To Be More Positive

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A positive attitude is contagious, but don’t wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier!”

–Author Unknown

We are happy and feel good when we have a positive attitude. There are times in our life when we do not feel positive about ourselves, and consequently, about our life in general.

Bad days, we all have them. We get in a funk. We do not feel like doing anything, we are grouchy, and we are not pleasant to be around. Those are the days when we want to curl up somewhere and ignore the world.

Why is it that some days we can pop out of bed and feel like we can conquer the world. You wake up with a smile, jump out of bed, and cannot wait to get started.

Other days, not so much.

There are days when I wake up, and I realize it is a funky day. It usually happens when I have not slept well. I can feel the grouchies stirring in my body. It almost like I cannot wait to say something negative.

Then there will be those days when something doesn’t go right. You encounter a problem at work or, you disagree with a friend or co-worker.

So what do I do? What can you do? Maybe some of these suggestions can help you too.

The first thing to do is to recognize how you feel. Acknowledge it and tell yourself it is okay. You are grouchy; no big deal, you can get past it. Smile and poke some fun at yourself. Realize how you feel and that it is up to you to decide how to deal with it.

If you are responding to a bad situation or a disagreement, acknowledge what happened and accept that you were part of it and take responsibility for your action or reaction. Don’t play the blame game because that can cause additional problems. Learn from what happened so you can avoid a reoccurrence in the future.

I have a conversation with myself. I talk it out in my mind. I think it through, ask myself questions, until I get to a better place. I may not solve the problem, but I change my mindset enough to be able to cope with and get past it.

Change your surroundings. For me, it helps to go outside. Go for a walk, have coffee with a friend, walk your dog. Go for a ride, maybe go to a park or go to the library.

Talk to a friend. I talk to my dog and cat. It helps. I talk, they listen, they don’t talk back, and it lets me work through whatever it is that is bothering me. That is the true definition of a friend.

Change the channel. What I mean is change what you are doing at the moment to give yourself a different perspective. Listen to some music, read a book, watch a movie or exercise. Do something you enjoy, but you may not be able to as much as you would like. It allows you to relax and let your mind wander. You will feel refreshed and you may come away with a different, improved, attitude.

Spend time with positive people. Sounds easy, but we cannot always control who we spend our time with. There may be a co-worker, or even a relative, who we are required to interact with.

Start by scaling back the amount of time you spend with them. Don’t be rude, but if you see them in the break room, in the hall, or anywhere where you are not required to be, keep walking, do not stop. Avoid unnecessary conversations.

Do not get pulled into negative actions or conversations with anyone. If you do not have anything positive to add, don’t. Just remain quiet. There is something about human nature that makes it difficult to step back. We feel like we have to become involved. No, we do not.

Make a point to think, and talk, using positive language. One of the things I love and respect about my oldest son is his positive language. Ask him how he is and he will respond, “I’m Fantastic!” He is smiling and standing with a confident attitude. He exudes positivity.

How we respond to people can change our day and theirs. Be positive, even when you are feeling a little funky, it will make you feel better. Fake it till you make it.

Smile, even if you are all alone. Smile at everyone with whom you interact. The mail person, the store clerk, the barista who made your coffee. Thank them with sincerity. Ask them how they are and listen to what they say.

Limit the amount of time you spend online. We almost feel it is necessary to plugin, but do we really? There is so much negativity online and on the news. It can creep up on you, put you in a bad mood, bring you down. Unplug.

Pick what you listen to or what you read. There are many choices you can make online, which are beneficial. If it is negative, turn it off, but if it is positive, then stay tuned. The choice is up to you. Listen to educational podcasts such as Ted Talks. If there is a skill, you want to learn, or improve, visit YouTube, or take an online course.

Remember to be grateful. We can get so wound up in what is wrong, especially about things we can’t change, that we forget about what is positive in our life. We do not have control over many things that happen to us, but we can control our attitude and our response.

Choose to be positive. So much of what we do have, we do not appreciate. I wouldn’t say I like our house. It does have many issues that we should fix, but I realize that most of what is wrong, we will have to accept. I will make small changes as we can afford to, but I have a home. Many others do not.

We have food on our table; we have each other, and for the most part, when you stop and think about it, what else do we need. I am grateful for all the important things we do have.

One thing we can all do and should do is take care of ourselves. Rest, relax, spend time with the people you love. With me, most of my negativity can be fixed by taking a nap.

Everyone’s situation is different, but doing small, simple, easy things like sharing a smile can make all the difference. I am sending you my smile today. It is a big one. Pass it on!

“When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It’s all a matter of perspective.”

– Harvey Mackay

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a Fantastic day!

Posted in Excitement, Inspiration, Life, Motivation, Positive Thinking, Self Improvement

Quote Of The Day

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.”

Zig Ziglar
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Why Your Goals Are Important! How Do You Plan For 2020?

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Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they started.”

David Allen

Goals, goals, goals! People think and talk about goals all the time, or at least that is what it seems like. There have been enough articles written about goals and their importance.

It is almost 2020, and it is time to think about 2019, and what you accomplished, and to look forward to what you want to have happen in 2020. Were you able to achieve what you hoped for in 2019? Don’t let it stress you out if you did not finish what you started.

In planning for success in 2020, set some goals

Why? Because goals are important. Even if you feel goals are not important, or you think you have never set any goals; you have. You may not have written them down, but I am pretty certain you have them rambling around in your head

We all have things that are important to us and we would like to make them happen. So, yes, we do spend time thinking about them. Unfortunately, we may not go through the process of setting goals.

That is the problem, and that is why so many articles have been written about why you should set goals. If you do not go through the process of forming and writing down what you want to accomplish, I can almost guarantee that you will never be successful.

You need to set formal goals. It is a process and it is important.

If you continue to let your thoughts ramble around in your head with no structure or direction, that is where they will stay.

“By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands—your own.”

—Mark Victor Hansen

So it is time to sit down and do it!

What Do You Want?

You need to decide what you want to accomplish? The process of taking the time to contemplate what it is we want to happen in our life can be cathartic. How often do we open up to our true feelings and emotions? How often do we acknowledge what we really want?

Spend some time. Most of the time we don’t acknowledge what we truly want. We are too busy, we do not have the confidence, and it is easy to just drift through our life and do what is most comfortable.

By setting goals we are deciding how we want to live our life. We are making a conscience choice instead of leaving our life to chance.

Be Specific

Setting a goal requires us to be specific. For example, you want to save money. What is the total amount? Do want to save that amount in twelve months, or do you want to save it in six months? Divide the amount by the number of months and set a goal of saving that amount each month. How much will you have to put away each week?

When you have a specific goal and you understand what is required to make it happen you are more likely to succeed.

Goals benefit us in many ways.

Provide Clarity

When you set a goal and see it written down and planned out, it makes everything clear. We have gained confidence and can plan each day simply by looking at our goal.

Accountability

Before we took the time to write down our goals and they were tid-bits of thoughts slooshing around in our mind there was no accountability. There were days when you might not have thought about doing any work to achieve those vague wants and needs.

When you set a goal, you make yourself accountable. You know your goals and you have a plan. You know what you have to do.

Time Saver

When you have goals and have written down a plan it is like having a GPS system that tells you what turn to make and when to make it.

Everything is clear and concise and you don’t have to spend time every day deciding what to do and how to do it.

Look at your goals. It is all mapped out for you.

Motivation

Each time you set a goal it is making a commitment. It is like writing down an affirmation of how you want to live your life. You, and only you, are responsible for achieving your goals and it motivates you to look at your plan every day.

You are motivated to do well. As you complete portions of your goals and see progress you will gain confidence and find yourself celebrating those small steps completed along the way. It motivates you to keep on track.

Learn Better Skills

By setting goals and making a plan to complete them you may learn new skills or improve the ones you have.

Before you set your goals, and you were randomly thinking about what you would like to do in the future, there was no structure.

When you set goals it is necessary to prioritize what is important. What is my goal? What to I have to do first? Is this really necessary, or can I eliminate it? How long will it take?

You become better at organizing by breaking your goals into steps. Decide what needs to be done first, then second and third.

Summary

To summarize setting goals is an effective way to organize your life and be more effective.

You should set both short term and long term goals and keep your goals manageable. Attaining manageable goals leads to setting larger goals for the future.

Your goals are a tangible, written reminder of your priorities. When you make goals a part of your everyday life, they can become automatic guide, similiar to having an internal GPS system. Goals keep us on a straight projectory to a better, happier, more relaxed, confident life.

Remember goals can be about any part of our life. We set them for work, but they can be for so much more. Life goes by fast and we tend to focus on how we make our living and how we support ourselves. We forget to focus on what makes us better and what makes us happy. Set some goals for all of those things too.

Maybe if we set our goals for being better physically, mentally and emotionally, the goals on work and money will fall into place. We are all better when we take care of ourselves first.

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.”

—Andrew Carnegie

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Quote Of The Day

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

Winston Churchill
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What Is The Value Of Time? How Do You Make The Most Of Yours In The New Year?

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Time is free, but it’s priceless

You can’t own it, but you can use it.

You can’t keep it, but you can spend it.

Once you’ve lost it, you can never get it back.”

Harvey MacKay

Time is the most valuable asset we have, but it is what we take the most for granted. How many times have you said, “Oh, I’ll just do that tomorrow!”

One of the times I realize that I waste time is when I have an unexpected deadline. Recently, someone called and said they were stopping by for a short visit. I asked what time they would arrive and realized I had a window of 20 to 30 minutes.

I went into hyper-drive and did so much within that time period. My husband said he was impressed; he said look at what you accomplished in that little bit of time. All the while I am thinking to myself that I should approach everyday with that attitude. Maybe not quite so hyper but I know that everyday I misuse time.

Most people are creatures of habit and we tend to fall into a routine that we are comfortable with doing. We do not think of changing and may even shy away from any idea of change. That is so easy to do.

It is December and right now some of us may be thinking about 2019 and what we did with all of our time. In just a few weeks we start a new year. Do we want to make any changes?

“Each year’s regrets are envelopes in which messages of hope are found for the new year.”

John R. Dallas Jr.

I know I do have changes I want to make. I have a few activities I have been procrastinating about for a long time. They are first on my list to do in 2020.

My approach this year will be different.

Instead of simply making a list, I am going to actually make a schedule and I am going to take it one step further by breaking them into time segments. I do not know how long each will take me so I will schedule in 30 minutes a day and at a specific time.

What I am hoping will happen is once I start the task and the 30 minutes is up I will just keep going. If I do an hour each time the task will quickly get done. When one is done I will schedule another in that time slot

The big goal for me will be to create a new habit. There will always be another project or activity that I can allocate to the specific time slot.

If I allocate 30 minutes to multiple tasks throughout the week and consistently do them, my hope is to create multiple habits.

I want to create good beneficial habits that I will continue to do. I did some research and found a study that concluded it takes 66 days to form a habit that will become habitual. It states, ” On average a plateau in automaticity was reached after 66 days. In other words it had become as much of a habit as it was ever going to become.” https://www.spring.org.uk/2009/09/how-long-to-form-a-habit.php

Most other information I read stated that habits can be formed in 21 days. That might be true for some activities and for some people or personalities. Speaking from experience 21 days would not work well for me.

So what do you want to accomplish in 2020? What is important to you and why? The reason why it is important to you will help determine the outcome. The level of importance to you really is the determining factor on whether you will successfully create a new habit.

This is my plan for accomplishing my goals in the coming year. It is simple and realistic for me.

There are many other things that can be done for making the New Year more organized and for you to be successful.

I posted Time To Plan For 2020 How To Make An Effective Strategy For The New Year on 12-4-2019 which gives some additional information. https://adjustingmytimeframecom.blog/2019/12/04/time-to-plan-for-2020-how-to-make-an-effective-strategy-for-the-new-year/

There are a high number of great articles you can read about the effectiveness of plans, strategies and goal setting to be found on the internet.

I am looking forward to 2020 and becoming more effective. I wish the same for you as well.

As always, thanks so much for reading my blog. Have a great day.

“New year—a new chapter, new verse, or just the same old story? Ultimately we write it. The choice is ours.”

Alex Morritt

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Time To Plan For 2020 How To Make An Effective Strategy For The New Year

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What the new years brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year”.

Vern McLellan

It’s December and Christmas is just three weeks away. What? How did that happen, I haven’t made any plans yet for next year.

A new year, a new you, a new plan. Time to decide what you want to accomplish in 2020.

What do you want to achieve? What is important and what comes first?

What is your strategy? How do you decide?

If you are like the majority of people, you have these vague plans circulating in your head. You know, the stuff you have been thinking about for most of the year. There may even be a thing or two you wanted to do this year, but you never quite got around to doing.

You need a plan, a good plan, a realistic plan. You need a plan that is not scattered in your head. Every year we tell ourselves that this year will be different and that this year, you will be organized, and you will follow through on your goals.

Now is the time to make sure that happens. Sit down with a blank piece of paper and a pencil and start writing down random thoughts. Close your eyes and think about all the things you want to happen, not just for your work, but for your life.

It is essential to include both. Quite often, we focus on work because that is how we make our living. Our work provides us with income to survive. But life is more than work, and we also need to plan for the things that make us happy. Write it all down.

You may want to write everything down and then walk away for a while. Let it brew for an hour or two, maybe even overnight, Then come back and start breaking it down. Put your random thoughts into categories. Label them ‘work’ and ‘personal’ and then break each of those down again. Maybe list them from most important to least important.

Don’t make it over complicated. Keep it simple and direct, and also keep it real.

When you have a list of your goals, break them down. How are you going to do them? It is great to have goals, but where we usually fail is by not planning the steps of how to complete them.

Let’s say you want to learn to speak another language, or you want to participate in physical activity such as karate. You will need to do some research and break it down into steps. Where can I take a class, how often should I take a class? How long does each class last; an hour? Can I take a class nearby, and if not, how far away do I have to drive? You need all the pertinent information so you can plan for it and include it in your schedule.

You will need to do this with all of your goals, both professional and personal. Remember to be realistic. There are so many hours in each day.

Buy a calendar and a planner. There are many great planners which will give you options for daily, weekly, and monthly. The choice is up to you. Some people use more than one. Of course, you can also use your computer. Mix it up. There is no reason you can’t use all of these options if that is what works for you. Make it as simple and easy as possible.

Look over your schedule, all your goals, and the time you need to relax and recharge. Do you need to dial it back?

Remember, if you overload yourself, it is likely you will not be successful.

Be sure to talk to your family so they understand what you want to accomplish. When they are aware of your plans and see how much effort you are putting into achieving them, they will want to participate and help you. It is a great learning tool for children. Remember, no one watches you more than your children. They are learning from your example.

This is your plan for the new year. Enjoy the process. It can be a learning experience for you, as well. When you are planning out the year ahead, you are thinking about what is important, what your values are.

It also allows you to reflect on 2019 and what you achieved, what worked, and what did not. If something did not work, it is another opportunity for growth; what can you do to improve and do it better the next time.

Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.

Oprah Winfrey

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a great day and good luck with your plans for 2020!

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What Value Can I Add To My Life Today? How Will I Spend My Time? What About You?

 “Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”

— Albert Einstein
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Recently I have been spending time contemplating where I am, mentally, emotionally, and physically.

Am I happy and content? What do I need to do, and how can I do it better. How can I be more effective?

This is not about doing my best for a job or for someone else. This is about doing my best for me, and in turn for those I care about.

What is most important? How about you? How often do you spend time, quality time, committed to understanding what is important?

How many of us slow down to the extent that we understand ourselves?

We are continually exposed to so much and it all affects us. It changes us, particularly when we are not paying attention. Have you done a check-up recently and asked yourself what is important in your life?

Do you ask yourself the important questions? How are you? Are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you like yourself, your thoughts, your actions? What do you care about? Are you happy? Are you growing, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually?

There are a few recent, or upcoming events, that have probably inspired me to do some soul searching.

The big holidays of the year, Thanksgiving and Christmas, and then the New Year is right around the corner. Most everyone looks for ways to change, or improve, at the end of the year. So much to think about.

I have been spending time thinking about family. The birth of a beautiful granddaughter, new life. The health of my husband which is deteriorating. My toddler grandson, who is so smart and energetic, brimming with excitement. My teenage granddaughter, beautiful and becoming her own person. My two sons who are such compassionate, intelligent people who I am so proud of. All the stages of life spreading out before me. I watch with love and joy.

My writing this blog; where do I want to go with it? Do I want to make changes? How can I make it better? How can I bring more value to myself and my followers?

Writing articles for Medium. https://medium.com/@lindalatt. This experience has been so enlightening and so challenging. It is an opportunity to write about anything I want, any subject, any experience, any emotion. I am in awe of the others who share their stories. Most of the time I feel I am unworthy of sharing the same place with them.

Writing is something I will definitely focus on in the coming year. It encourages me to learn the craft of writing and to increase my knowledge on many levels. It is stretching my mind and refreshing my brain cells; who doesn’t need that!

What it comes down to is being better. As I have said before, I want to be a better version of myself. I just wrote an opinion piece on Medium, https://medium.com/@lindalatt/does-donald-trump-have-a-moral-compass-that-would-be-a-big-fat-no-does-it-matter-to-you-a1b7c2d62169

Writing it has been a result of many moments of frustration, anger, disbelief and sadness. It is a result of disillusionment of the narrative that exists and the actions taken. It frightens me. I cannot accept that.

So, as a result, I have looked deeper into my own beliefs and feelings. I do not want to be influenced by the negativity that exists in this country at this moment in time.

This next year will be about adding value to my life.

Each morning I will ask myself this question, “What good shall I do this day?”

Will you join me?

The compass of compassion asks not what is good for me, but what is good? Not what is best for me, but what is best? Not what is right for me, but what is right? Not how much can we take, but how much ought we leave, and how much might we give? Not what is easy, but what is worthy. Not what is practical, but what is moral.

Carl Safina

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