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Quote Of The Day

Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

~ Albert Einstein
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Quote Of The Day

“No one can ever take your memories from you – each day is a new beginning, make good memories every day.”

– Catherine Pulsifer, Author
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As always, thanks so much for stopping by. I hope you liked today’s quote. What are your memories? Make some new ones today.

Posted in Coping, Life, Motivation, Positive Thinking, Potential, Self Improvement

Do You Ever Feel Like You Are On A Treadmill And Can't Get Off?

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Do you ever feel that way? Does your life feel like you are stuck in the same routine over and over again?

I think it is easy to get stuck in a rut and continually do the same routine day in and day out. Why? Because it is easy and it is comfortable; until it’s not.

When I started this blog I did so because I did not want to get stuck in my life. I did not want to become stagnant and that is how I felt. I did not like the feeling.

So I started a journey of what I hoped would be discovery. I am still on that journey, but I still feel stuck.

We cannot always control our life. Other factors, events, and people will influence us and possibly keep us from progress. That is life and I am still struggling to define myself.

At the end of last year, faced with assessing my progress, I was not happy with my overall situation. I felt boxed in by responsibilities that I had been pushing on the back burner for much too long. I made the decision to take some time to organize and rearrange my life and the way we live.

What I have discovered is it is not easy to do. We become so accustomed to living the same way, and not making changes, that we push back from actually making those needed changes in our life. That is what I find myself doing.

Yes, I have made some changes, but not nearly enough, and I am not happy with myself. I find it upsetting that I cannot commit to my goal of eliminating the clutter from my life. I laugh at myself sometimes because it is laughable. I cannot tell you the number of times I have walked into our closet, contemplated what to do, and then just walked back out without doing anything.

Part of my problem is not knowing what to do with everything. Recycling is so important and I become fixated on what to do with different items. What do you do with old blue jeans? or old shoes? I did find out that Nike has a program for recycling old sneakers which is great and there is a company that recycles old T-shirts. I have actually kept several items just because I hate the idea of them ending up in a landfill.

I have to get past that or I will never get rid of anything. So I have started a pile of items to donate. I will also probably take some items to an auction house and I have been listing some items for sale.

The point I am trying to make is that change is not easy. We do get stuck in a routine that may not be beneficial to us. I think it is easy to avoid change and I know it is not good for us.

What I am doing is not only clearing out items in my home that have been here too long. I am also working toward clearing out the debris in my head. I highly recommend it.

I think we all need to challenge ourselves all the time. It is good for our mind and it is good for our soul.

We only have so much time and we do not know how long we have. I need to get this done now.

So this week I will be kicking into high gear. Wish me luck, because I know I will need it.

How about you?

There is nothing wrong with change…if it is in the right direction.

Winston Churchill

I am trying to change in the right direction. I will give an update soon.

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Do You Have A Positive Attitude? How To Be More Positive

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A positive attitude is contagious, but don’t wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier!”

–Author Unknown

We are happy and feel good when we have a positive attitude. There are times in our life when we do not feel positive about ourselves, and consequently, about our life in general.

Bad days, we all have them. We get in a funk. We do not feel like doing anything, we are grouchy, and we are not pleasant to be around. Those are the days when we want to curl up somewhere and ignore the world.

Why is it that some days we can pop out of bed and feel like we can conquer the world. You wake up with a smile, jump out of bed, and cannot wait to get started.

Other days, not so much.

There are days when I wake up, and I realize it is a funky day. It usually happens when I have not slept well. I can feel the grouchies stirring in my body. It almost like I cannot wait to say something negative.

Then there will be those days when something doesn’t go right. You encounter a problem at work or, you disagree with a friend or co-worker.

So what do I do? What can you do? Maybe some of these suggestions can help you too.

The first thing to do is to recognize how you feel. Acknowledge it and tell yourself it is okay. You are grouchy; no big deal, you can get past it. Smile and poke some fun at yourself. Realize how you feel and that it is up to you to decide how to deal with it.

If you are responding to a bad situation or a disagreement, acknowledge what happened and accept that you were part of it and take responsibility for your action or reaction. Don’t play the blame game because that can cause additional problems. Learn from what happened so you can avoid a reoccurrence in the future.

I have a conversation with myself. I talk it out in my mind. I think it through, ask myself questions, until I get to a better place. I may not solve the problem, but I change my mindset enough to be able to cope with and get past it.

Change your surroundings. For me, it helps to go outside. Go for a walk, have coffee with a friend, walk your dog. Go for a ride, maybe go to a park or go to the library.

Talk to a friend. I talk to my dog and cat. It helps. I talk, they listen, they don’t talk back, and it lets me work through whatever it is that is bothering me. That is the true definition of a friend.

Change the channel. What I mean is change what you are doing at the moment to give yourself a different perspective. Listen to some music, read a book, watch a movie or exercise. Do something you enjoy, but you may not be able to as much as you would like. It allows you to relax and let your mind wander. You will feel refreshed and you may come away with a different, improved, attitude.

Spend time with positive people. Sounds easy, but we cannot always control who we spend our time with. There may be a co-worker, or even a relative, who we are required to interact with.

Start by scaling back the amount of time you spend with them. Don’t be rude, but if you see them in the break room, in the hall, or anywhere where you are not required to be, keep walking, do not stop. Avoid unnecessary conversations.

Do not get pulled into negative actions or conversations with anyone. If you do not have anything positive to add, don’t. Just remain quiet. There is something about human nature that makes it difficult to step back. We feel like we have to become involved. No, we do not.

Make a point to think, and talk, using positive language. One of the things I love and respect about my oldest son is his positive language. Ask him how he is and he will respond, “I’m Fantastic!” He is smiling and standing with a confident attitude. He exudes positivity.

How we respond to people can change our day and theirs. Be positive, even when you are feeling a little funky, it will make you feel better. Fake it till you make it.

Smile, even if you are all alone. Smile at everyone with whom you interact. The mail person, the store clerk, the barista who made your coffee. Thank them with sincerity. Ask them how they are and listen to what they say.

Limit the amount of time you spend online. We almost feel it is necessary to plugin, but do we really? There is so much negativity online and on the news. It can creep up on you, put you in a bad mood, bring you down. Unplug.

Pick what you listen to or what you read. There are many choices you can make online, which are beneficial. If it is negative, turn it off, but if it is positive, then stay tuned. The choice is up to you. Listen to educational podcasts such as Ted Talks. If there is a skill, you want to learn, or improve, visit YouTube, or take an online course.

Remember to be grateful. We can get so wound up in what is wrong, especially about things we can’t change, that we forget about what is positive in our life. We do not have control over many things that happen to us, but we can control our attitude and our response.

Choose to be positive. So much of what we do have, we do not appreciate. I wouldn’t say I like our house. It does have many issues that we should fix, but I realize that most of what is wrong, we will have to accept. I will make small changes as we can afford to, but I have a home. Many others do not.

We have food on our table; we have each other, and for the most part, when you stop and think about it, what else do we need. I am grateful for all the important things we do have.

One thing we can all do and should do is take care of ourselves. Rest, relax, spend time with the people you love. With me, most of my negativity can be fixed by taking a nap.

Everyone’s situation is different, but doing small, simple, easy things like sharing a smile can make all the difference. I am sending you my smile today. It is a big one. Pass it on!

“When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It’s all a matter of perspective.”

– Harvey Mackay

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a Fantastic day!

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Quote Of The Day

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.”

Zig Ziglar
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Why Your Goals Are Important! How Do You Plan For 2020?

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Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they started.”

David Allen

Goals, goals, goals! People think and talk about goals all the time, or at least that is what it seems like. There have been enough articles written about goals and their importance.

It is almost 2020, and it is time to think about 2019, and what you accomplished, and to look forward to what you want to have happen in 2020. Were you able to achieve what you hoped for in 2019? Don’t let it stress you out if you did not finish what you started.

In planning for success in 2020, set some goals

Why? Because goals are important. Even if you feel goals are not important, or you think you have never set any goals; you have. You may not have written them down, but I am pretty certain you have them rambling around in your head

We all have things that are important to us and we would like to make them happen. So, yes, we do spend time thinking about them. Unfortunately, we may not go through the process of setting goals.

That is the problem, and that is why so many articles have been written about why you should set goals. If you do not go through the process of forming and writing down what you want to accomplish, I can almost guarantee that you will never be successful.

You need to set formal goals. It is a process and it is important.

If you continue to let your thoughts ramble around in your head with no structure or direction, that is where they will stay.

“By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands—your own.”

—Mark Victor Hansen

So it is time to sit down and do it!

What Do You Want?

You need to decide what you want to accomplish? The process of taking the time to contemplate what it is we want to happen in our life can be cathartic. How often do we open up to our true feelings and emotions? How often do we acknowledge what we really want?

Spend some time. Most of the time we don’t acknowledge what we truly want. We are too busy, we do not have the confidence, and it is easy to just drift through our life and do what is most comfortable.

By setting goals we are deciding how we want to live our life. We are making a conscience choice instead of leaving our life to chance.

Be Specific

Setting a goal requires us to be specific. For example, you want to save money. What is the total amount? Do want to save that amount in twelve months, or do you want to save it in six months? Divide the amount by the number of months and set a goal of saving that amount each month. How much will you have to put away each week?

When you have a specific goal and you understand what is required to make it happen you are more likely to succeed.

Goals benefit us in many ways.

Provide Clarity

When you set a goal and see it written down and planned out, it makes everything clear. We have gained confidence and can plan each day simply by looking at our goal.

Accountability

Before we took the time to write down our goals and they were tid-bits of thoughts slooshing around in our mind there was no accountability. There were days when you might not have thought about doing any work to achieve those vague wants and needs.

When you set a goal, you make yourself accountable. You know your goals and you have a plan. You know what you have to do.

Time Saver

When you have goals and have written down a plan it is like having a GPS system that tells you what turn to make and when to make it.

Everything is clear and concise and you don’t have to spend time every day deciding what to do and how to do it.

Look at your goals. It is all mapped out for you.

Motivation

Each time you set a goal it is making a commitment. It is like writing down an affirmation of how you want to live your life. You, and only you, are responsible for achieving your goals and it motivates you to look at your plan every day.

You are motivated to do well. As you complete portions of your goals and see progress you will gain confidence and find yourself celebrating those small steps completed along the way. It motivates you to keep on track.

Learn Better Skills

By setting goals and making a plan to complete them you may learn new skills or improve the ones you have.

Before you set your goals, and you were randomly thinking about what you would like to do in the future, there was no structure.

When you set goals it is necessary to prioritize what is important. What is my goal? What to I have to do first? Is this really necessary, or can I eliminate it? How long will it take?

You become better at organizing by breaking your goals into steps. Decide what needs to be done first, then second and third.

Summary

To summarize setting goals is an effective way to organize your life and be more effective.

You should set both short term and long term goals and keep your goals manageable. Attaining manageable goals leads to setting larger goals for the future.

Your goals are a tangible, written reminder of your priorities. When you make goals a part of your everyday life, they can become automatic guide, similiar to having an internal GPS system. Goals keep us on a straight projectory to a better, happier, more relaxed, confident life.

Remember goals can be about any part of our life. We set them for work, but they can be for so much more. Life goes by fast and we tend to focus on how we make our living and how we support ourselves. We forget to focus on what makes us better and what makes us happy. Set some goals for all of those things too.

Maybe if we set our goals for being better physically, mentally and emotionally, the goals on work and money will fall into place. We are all better when we take care of ourselves first.

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.”

—Andrew Carnegie

As always, thanks for reading my blog. Have a awesome day! Be Happy!

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Quote Of The Day

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

Winston Churchill
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