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Quote Of The Day

Life is too ironic. It takes Sadness to know what Happiness is, Noise to appreciate Silence. and Absence to value Presence.”

~ Unknown author
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As always, thanks for stopping by. Add some silence, someone’s presence, and happiness to your day!

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Quote Of The Day

“The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.”

Kp Lyrikz
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As always, thanks for stopping by. Spend some time with someone who makes you a better person today.

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Quote Of The Day

People who don’t like cats were probably mice in an earlier life.”

Unknown author
For all the cat lovers #Cats, #Love, # Life
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Quote Of The Day

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”

–Wayne Dyer
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Joy, Happiness, Fun – Where You Can Find Them Every Day Hiding In Plain Sight

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The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.

Henry Ward Beecher

When was the last time you took a whole day and filled it with joy, laughter, and special moments? A simple intentional day set aside for happiness.

We plan a schedule and make goals for almost everything we do in life. Why do we ignore planning fun?

Do we take it for granted? Are we so busy that we let it slip through our fingers like grains of sand?

If you were to make a list and attach a value to everything in your life, what value would you give joy?

Think about this…when you think of events in your life, what comes to mind first? Is it something that makes you smile, something that was fun to do, and gave you joy?

It is hard to give a value to joy because it is priceless. There is a poem that I have referred to before which I love. I think it clearly states how important it is. https://wordpress.com/block-editor/post/adjustingmytimeframecom.blog/47

Here are some ways of bringing joy into your life:

Having a meaningful connection with the people who are most important to you and making a memory that you can store in your heart forever. Priceless.

Be spontaneous. Do you remember when you were a child? Being spontaneous is a part of childhood; children are joyful. They react without any hesitation to beautiful things, unique and funny things. Their smiles and laughter roll from them.

We need to re-learn spontaneity. Practice it. Watch a child, and remember those feelings; then copy them. I feel it sometimes, and it usually happens when I am outside, or I spend time with my pets. I react to butterflies because they are fragile and beautiful; they bring me joy. When I walk the dog, and he takes off like a little madman with his ears flapping and a smile across his furry face, I run too, laughing as we go across the yard. Practice being spontaneous.

Think about things you have done in the past that made you happy. Who were you with, where were you, what were you doing? Write them down. Envision ways to add them into your life and start scheduling them like you would going to the store and buying groceries.

Make a list. What can you do in 5, 10 or 15 minutes, How about a half-hour or an hour?

I believe that joy comes in small things, like spending more quality time with the people you love or looking at butterflies. Simple things. Don’t push them away. Life is short. Add those little moments to each day.

Smile! Give someone the gift of your smile as often as you can. So easy and it can change someone’s day, as well as your own. Better yet, make someone giggle.

Start a journal and use it to store the joyful moments in your life. Write down the things you did that made you happy. Do it often and make it a habit. It is a great way to store memories that you can look at any time. Just like a photo album but it is in written form. When you leave this earth think of the joy and memories you will leave for your family; what a special gift.

Practice random acts of kindness. Someone at work, the next-door neighbor, a child who lives down the street, someone at a store. Pick some flowers, bake a plate of cookies, leave a hand-drawn smiley face on someone’s car windshield; there are so many small things. It’s fun to do something for someone, and it brings joy to them and you.

At the dinner table, talk about the good things that happened that day and share them with your family. Tell them what made you happy and why. Encourage them to do the same. Make it a daily practice. Think about your conversation, remember the happy things, and smile as you drift off to sleep.

Focus on living in the moment. Strive to add joy to what you are doing. Do not think about what happened yesterday, unless it made you happy. If there is joy found there make it a memory. Do not worry about tomorrow; it is not here yet.

Be playful! Dance in the rain, sing out loud. Play with your child at the park, make funny faces, catch fireflies in a jar. Do something you have not done since you were a child. If someone looks at you like you are weird, so what; smile at them and keep having fun.

One of the biggest challenges in trying to be happy right now isn’t that we don’t know how to be happy. It’s mostly that we just don’t do it. We don’t make the time for happiness, for peace, and for overall joy in our life.     

Kumar Anupam

Make time for joy in your life every day. It is hiding in plain sight. Look, and you will find it. Practice Joy!

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have fun today; laugh and spread the joy!

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A Friend, Frightened, Tired But Not Powerless

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“I am bent, but not broken. I am scarred, but not disfigured. I am sad, but not hopeless. I am tired, but not powerless. I am angry, but not bitter. I am depressed, but not giving up.”

Author unknown

I have a friend, a special friend…I think of her often. She wanders in and out of my thoughts.

Do you know how that feels? I miss her now that she is no longer here. We used to sit and drink coffee together and talk about random topics. Not important issues really, just the everyday events and experiences of life. We laughed! She had a knack for making you feel good.

I liked spending time with her, but we did not see each other often, not every week, and sometimes it would be a month or longer.

Then there was an inexplicable change. I could feel it, but I could not put my finger on it. There was a flash of feeling, a question. What was it?

We spent a bit more time together, she stopped by more often, and she asked to go with me a few extra times. Nothing dramatic or compelling, only slightly different. There was a whisper…..

Then, nothing. There were no emails, no phone calls, no visits…only silence.

It did not seem unusual at first; the difference was slight. It felt more like a shift back to the old normal. There used to be times when we did not talk or see each other. But it did not feel right.

Then there was an email. I was so excited. She was back. Open the darn thing, I could not open it fast enough. Where have you been?

Shock! It was not where have you been. It was where she was now.

She had turned her world upside down.

It all came rushing together. Now I understood. There had always been hints, little bits of insight about her home life, and there had been more chunks of it right before she disappeared. I knew she was unhappy, but I was stunned when I read her words.

There had been a small window of opportunity, and she jumped through it. She ran. There would not be any more casual conversations over coffee, not anytime soon.

She had been planning this for a very long time. There just needed to be that time, the right time. I had no clue.

I was stunned, and I was in awe of her. She was such a strong, scrappy woman. I sat there, re-read her email and cried. I was sad for her and what she had been hiding. She had told no one.

She was miles away, such a long way. In another state at the other end of the country, but I had no address yet, and no phone number to call. A request not to tell anyone and the information that someone would probably contact me looking for her. The plea, so urgent, please pretend you have not heard from me.

The call came, then again and again. So many questions. Where is she? Had I heard from her? He needed to know. He questioned why I did not know, why I could not answer him.

I lied, of course, I lied to him, over and over again. No, the answer I gave him, was always no. No, I have not heard from her. I am worried too; I hope she contacts you soon. When she does, please tell her I am thinking of her. They were all lies. He was not worthy of anything more than that. I would protect her.

He told me he was going to the police to file a missing person’s report. Shit! Now what? She does not want him to find her.

What should I do? She was going through so much, trying to settle in and make a new life. She was afraid. There was the constant worry that somehow he would find her.

I sent off an email, not sure it would reach her. She was in the process of changing everything. Please call me. I need to talk to you. Waiting for that call was agony.

I knew if he filed a missing person’s report, they would find her. He would know where she was. She called, and we talked for a long time. What should she do? She decided to contact one of his relatives. In the end, he did not file the report.

He never talked to her directly. Eventually, there was contact by email. He demanded she come back. He would change; things would be different. Yeah, when pigs fly!

She hired a lawyer. There were mutual investments and property. She had to deal with that, and eventually, it happened. Finally, it was no longer necessary for any contact. She still had the fear that he would find her.

Gradually life went on for my friend. She created a new life, but it was different. She was different. There was the never-ending relief that the relationship was over, but she was having a difficult time finding a new rhythm. There were so many changes.

It has been almost three years. I miss her. I miss the smiling face, the twinkle in her eyes, the warmth she radiated. She was, and, is my friend. I no longer take her for granted.

We still talk, of course, and email back and forth. It is not the same. The friendship and the way we care for each other has not changed. It is the same, but it is more intensified now. I want to be able to sit next to her and drink coffee. My dream is to surprise her. Buy a plane ticket and knock on her door.

You see now there is something new, a new threat, my friend has cancer.

What happens now? Will I ever see her again?