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Consistency And Why It Is Important – A Strategy To Try

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Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.”

  ― E. James Rohn

For success in business and every aspect of our life, we talk about doing many things.

We read about and listen to virtually the same nuggets of information over and over again. Such as:

We need to be learning new things by taking classes, reading books, and listening to webinars. We have to set goals, be willing to change, and adapt to every situation.

We should be aware of what is going on around us, be able to present ourselves in a certain way, and be able to read and understand body language.

We should not fear competition and use it as a challenge to do better. We need to believe in ourselves and we should find support, such as a mentor, family members, and friends.

We should always keep trying, and if we fail, we need to look at what did not work, make some changes, and try again. We can use failure as a challenge to do better.

We should value diversity, not be afraid of what might appear different, be willing to change to be better, and respect the ideas of others.

We should always live in the moment, not dwell on the past, or focus on the future; focus on today.

We should set goals and maintain a schedule.

These are all exactly what we should be doing. Most of do these things or attempt to on some level. What brings them together, and what helps us to be successful is consistency.

Consistency is like the glue that holds everything together. When we practice being consistent, we can develop a routine and build momentum. Being consistent develops new habits.

That is where I think we let ourselves down; we do not follow through. We set goals, and we have our schedules, and we may do them for a while, but then we stop.

We all have goals that we do not follow through on. Mine is exercise. I have no excuse, I have the time, but I always push it off to do something else; like writing. I will get on my treadmill a couple of times a week; better than nothing, but far from enough.

“It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently.”

― Anthony Robbins

Is there a magic pill that will help you be consistent? No, but I did read about something this morning that makes perfect sense. I’m not sure it will work for you or me, but it is worth a try.

It is called the paper clip strategy. I found this article this morning published in Business Insider: https://www.businessinsider.com/the-paper-clip-strategy-2015-4

It tells the story of a 23-year-old stockbroker who was successful because of a strategy he used. Each morning he would place two jars on his desk. He filled one jar with 120 paper clips and the other was empty. He would make business phone calls, and each time he completed a call, he would transfer one paper clip to the other jar. He continued making calls, doing no other tasks, until all the paper clips had been transferred into the other jar.

The use of the paper clips or any other object you might choose gives you a visual cue. Being able to transfer all the paper clips each day consistently will form a habit, and it is an easy way for each of us to keep motivated and feel successful.

So how am I going to incorporate this technique? There are some suggestions in the Business Insider article that resonated with me because I need to do them. I need to drink more water, and I am not good at doing it; I focus on it for a day or two, and then I conveniently forget. Of course, there is the treadmill that sits right around the corner from where I am writing. I could also set a goal for the number of words to write each day or the number of stories.

I am going to give it a try. How about you? Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out.

Robert Collier

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Quote Of The Day

Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.

Confucius
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Quote Of The Day

Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. George Bernard Shaw

George Bernard Shaw
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Quote Of The Day

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.”

Napoleon Hill
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Choices We Make And Why They Are Important – How They Affect Our Life

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“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”

Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Life throws choices at us each day; day in and day out. Sometimes we pay attention, and sometimes we do not. We make many choices with little thought or action; small happenings which we automatically discard or accept.

Many choices are made early on in life, and we take them for granted. We have grown from a small child into adulthood and more than likely; we adopted the thoughts and actions of our parents. We may never change, but that is a choice. We chose to accept them.

Life experiences should and probably will change the way you look at everything. As we are exposed to different people, different cultures, different viewpoints, we will have the opportunity to make new choices. They may be a blend of what you believe now, and what you just were exposed to and decided to accept, or they could be new and different.

When I was a small child, life was simple, and the world did not ever seem to change. Then all of a sudden life went into overdrive, full speed ahead, take a deep breath, and hang on. That’s when you start making choices, and you better be paying attention. You are the one in charge and you make the decisions. Choose wisely.

I believe the quote by Roy T. Bennett includes many of the essential choices we will make in life. Attitude, Respect, Optimism, Happiness, Kindness, and Giving.

Your attitude is everything, and it is all about choice. Every morning when you wake up, you have the opportunity to make choices, and they will affect what you do and how you do it. Every decision you make will affect each day, each week, each month and the rest of your life. Are you going to be positive today or are you going to be a Negative Nancy?

Respect is a choice and an important one. So many people appear not to understand the meaning of being respectful. Everyone has the right to make their own decisions, and we should respect their choices. Our opinions are our own and have nothing to do with anyone else’s. It is crucial to respect yourself and to respect others. The sting of disrespect is potent and can harm another person.

Choosing to be optimistic is so important. We are living through a time filled with negative thoughts and actions. It can be mind-numbing. I think it is crucial to be optimistic. Being optimistic is having hope in the future. It is the ability to believe that you can be successful even when it appears impossible. Optimism makes us confident and able to visualize ourselves accomplishing goals. You may not be naturally optimistic, but it is something you can practice. Right now, I am being optimistic about writing, one small step at a time.

Kindness is something that should be automatic. There should not be a thought process required, yet there is. It is a choice every one should make every day. What a better world it would be. I know many people do choose kindness effortlessly, probably more than we will ever know. Unfortunately, we hear more about the negative events in the news and our social media feeds. Talk and write about positive events in your life as often as possible. We can make a difference for ourselves and others by doing that.

I think Kindness and Giving are two sides of the same coin. When we are kind, we are giving something of ourselves to someone else. A smile, a touch of our hand, a kind gesture like buying someone a cup of coffee, or just having a conversation with a stranger. So simple.

Happiness. Are you happy right now? What about the rest of your day? How are you going to spend your day, and will it make you happy? It is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There are days, or whole slices of our life, that are miserable and sad. Life can be shit sometimes. The unexpected event that knocks you down can bring you to your knees. It will not be easy to visualize being happy, but it is there, hidden. You will get past the bad times, and happiness will come. It will come from the kindness of a friend or a stranger, a shared smile, a small gesture made. When that happens, smile. The times when all is right with the world, we still have a choice every day to be happy. Smile, be happy, and spread it around. Please.

There are other choices that we can make. We have to recognize that we need to change continually. We have to be open to change, accept it, and use it to improve ourselves continuously. Not accepting change is like a self-imposed curse. Being stagnant should not be an option, but it is a choice, a decision, we all can make. No matter how young, or how old you are, you need to welcome change into your life. That is why I am writing. I made a choice to do something different and energize myself, and it is working.

The people we spend time with or listen to will strongly influence our choices. There always seems to be someone you know who is that Negative Nancy, and who finds something each day to complain about, or make fun of someone. Their viewpoint does not match yours and causes you stress. They are difficult to ignore, and sometimes you find yourself influenced by a statement they made. It can be so frustrating, and in some cases, depressing. You do not want to hurt them, but by continuing to be around them, you are hurting yourself—decision time. You need to distance yourself from them or end the relationship. You want to spend your time with people who will support your beliefs, make you stronger, better.

Know yourself, have confidence, and listen to your inner voice. I have written about this before and believe in this innate ability we have within us. Call it intuition. It is like a hunch we feel inwardly that warns us about something we are contemplating doing. It is a little niggling sensation that tells you not to do something, or it may be telling you to go ahead; it’s okay.

When you are making a decision, and you have an uncomfortable feeling, stop, there is a reason you have that feeling. Give yourself some time to contemplate why before you say yes or no. Recently I thought I should not do something but did it anyway; not once, but twice. It was a mistake both times.

Life is about choices. Some we regret, some we’re proud of. Some will haunt us forever. The message: we are what we chose to be.”

—Graham Brown

Life is all about the choices we make. Our choices form us. They make us happy or sad, successful, or not. We will not always make the right choices, but if we choose to learn from them, we will continue to grow as a person. We will become better. No one said it would be easy, but this is the only life we have. Make it a good one.

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Choose to be happy; smile!

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Quote Of The Day

The most important thing is to enjoy your life — to be happy. It’s all that matters.

Audrey Hepburn
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What Shoes Are You Wearing Today? One Step, Two Steps, Change – Finding Balance and Shifting Gears


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“Getting in balance is not so much about adopting new strategies to change your behaviors, as it is about realigning yourself in all of your thoughts so as to create a balance between what you desire and how you conduct your life on a daily basis.” 

Wayne Dyer

Life is a continual balancing act. Each day there are choices to make. Which shoes are you going to wear today? The right question should be, how many shoes can I wear today.

You know I thought life would slow down as I have aged. In some ways it has. I am certainly not responsible for as much as before, but there are decisions I must make each day. There are other people I must include in those decisions, and I have to decide which is most important.

Looking back I know I had so many responsibilities, raising two children as a single parent, working full time, going to college part time and all the other life experiences that were so important and necessary. Now I wonder how I did all of it.

I look at my children and wonder how they are doing it today. Life is even more complicated now than it was then. Everything moves faster, and there are more pressures and stress. Maybe that is why I feel like my life has not slowed down as I anticipated it would.

Finding balance is an ongoing process, and it is also always in flux. Each day of your life will be different. There will be various activities with different people involved. There will be highs and lows and the decision of what is the most important thing to do each day

Next week, it will likely be different. Sure, there will be some activities that will be pretty constant, but they may not be precisely the same. Next month, the same thing will happen.

So, to find and maintain balance in your life, you must be able to be flexible and switch gears, quickly, and continually…day in, day out, and onward.

But what is balance? What do you consider to be a balanced life, day, or week? Do you know? It will be different for each of us, which makes total sense. If you were to ask twelve people what a balanced life is, you would receive twelve different answers.

Thinking about balance is essential. How would you decide? I think a good exercise would be to break down the different parts of your life; write them down. What would they be?

I am sure you would include Work, Family, Health, Money, Your Home, Down Time. Each one of those areas can be analyzed as well. Family would be one. You can break that down into your significant other, your children and your parents and siblings, etc. Don’t forget your self in that equation either. There are other considerations as well, such as Personal and Professional Growth or Religion.

How much of your time can you allocate to each one of those areas? How many hours do you work each week? What responsibilities do you have at home? Do you have more than one job? Do you have help from someone who shares some of these responsibilities?

When you break down all the areas of your life and the time you have each day, each week and each month, do you think your life is in balance? If you can answer yes, congratulations, you are doing the right things.

Most of us would probably answer, no. It can be a harsh reality when you slow down enough to look at how you are living your life. It may be on point, or it may be totally out of whack, or it is somewhere in between. Most of us are probably in the in-between area.

The first thing most people will tell you is that you have to set some goals. There always has to be goals, and that is a good thing. Our goals bring some needed structure, something on which we can focus. Without them, we make our life more prone to being out of balance.

What are the right goals? The problematic part of goal setting is making our goals realistic. I would say to focus on the most critical aspects of your life first, such as work because that provides you financially and your family because they provide for you emotionally and are your support. Once you set your goals, focus on them, and make it your priority to get them done.

You should have short and long term goals. Your short term goals will help support the ability to obtain your long term goals.

Your goals should be very specific, not vague. You should be able to break your goals down into easy to do mini-goals. They should be realistic and achievable.

When you are planning a schedule for each day, the same thing applies. Your schedule has to be realistic and attainable. If you are always stressed out because you cannot keep up, it is time to make some changes.

If you are in a relationship and have children, it is necessary to have the support of your spouse/partner. They are an integral part of the whole equation. Each has to support the other and have the ability to interact with each other. The most important part of this relationship is the ebb and flow of your interaction. Do you support one another at any given time. Remember that is the most crucial part of finding balance. Your life is always in flux, and it will change each day, sometimes moment to moment. You have to have the adaptability to change as well to maintain your balance.

Simplify. When you are looking at your life’s plan and trying to establish short and long term goals to bring everything into balance, look for ways to simplify. What is 100% necessary and what isn’t? If something is not required, and it does not add much value, eliminate it. Is there a better way of doing something? Is there someone else who can do it for you? Can you afford to pay to have something done, so you do not have to do it?

You will always have many shoes to wear in life. Sometimes, they will be work shoes, and sometimes they will be the shoes you wear for fun. Sometimes, no shoes at all.

Life is a moving event. It is always in flux. Something or someone will change. You will lose something, and something else will take its place. Hold on and enjoy the ride.

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.

Thomas Merton

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Be happy today.