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How To Methodically Develop An Outstanding Positive Attitude

Throw out the words, “if I can, I hope, and maybe.” Replace them with, “I can, I will, I must.”


“I think I want to try this,” I spoke those words several years ago to the owner of an Antique Mall. He had just taken me on a tour of the oversized building, showing me several individual floor spaces and showcases where over 1,000 dealers displayed all their wares.

When I said those words, “I think I want to try this,” he laughed and shook his head. “No, no, no, that is the wrong attitude!” He was adamant. There is no, “If I Can, I Hope, Maybe, or I want to Try.” That is the wrong attitude; you will not be successful if that is the way you think.

He stood there and watched me as I took a moment to process what he said. I was also a little perturbed because he was slightly abrasive. I looked at him and said, “I can do this,” and asked to be added to the waiting list for new dealers.

Little did he know how determined I was. It was not necessary to explain to me how important a positive attitude is. I knew all too well after my years of working and pushing myself to succeed.

Attitude is everything.

What comprises a positive attitude? It is a mental attitude, or mindset, that envisions and expects the best results. It is a willingness, an eagerness to try new things. It is optimism. It helps you look for and recognize opportunities. Someone with a positive attitude believes in their capabilities and focuses on possibilities; they turn away from negativity.

That owner had been correct. The words I spoke had not been positive and did not show confidence, When we use words like “try” we do not sound confident, and somewhere in the back of our minds, we doubt ourselves.

  • Throw out the doubt and replace it with positive thoughts, words, and actions.

“You are the conductor of your own attitude! Nobody else can compose your thoughts for you.”

– Lee J. Colan

Remember that you are in control of your attitude. Each day will be full of events, conversations with other people, and ordinary everyday happenings like waiting in line. It is up to us to decide what we think and how we respond. It is easy to react with little thought or effort, but it is a better practice to take a moment and think first. Are you positive or negative? Always choose a positive reaction.

  • Develop the habit of looking for positive thoughts. I do it every day by searching on the internet for quotes. They always make me feel better. I also share some of them on this blog and Twitter and Facebook.

Focus on the things that make you feel good. Listen to music, go on walks, spend time with family and friends, exercise, take a nap.

Keep a small journal that you can carry with you and reference every time you start to feel tired, overworked or face an adverse reaction. Open the journal and read some positive thoughts or affirmations that are special to you.

  • Ignore the negativity we face every day on the internet. Let’s face it; there is an overload of negative thoughts and actions found on social media. It is easy to get drawn into the swamp. Avoid it.

Do something positive instead, learn something new. Watch a webinar or Utube to learn a new skill. Take a class, develop a new hobby. Make a list of all your interests and look for ways to accomplish them.

  • Develop your speaking skills. Most of us do not realize the message we may be giving. Our language, including our body language, tells a story about us. Start paying attention to your words, your interpersonal skills, and monitor people’s reactions.

An example would be my conversation mentioned above. I was giving the wrong message and had been unaware of the impact. I did get my space at the Antique Mall, but he doubted me at first.

Learn to use positive words and to present a positive demeanor. Smile, shake hands, pat someone’s shoulder. Look people in the eye and lean toward them, indicating your interest in what they are saying.

The language you consistency use, the positive thoughts that you have, and the positive actions you take will influence the person you become.

  • Ignore and distance yourself from the people that look at life through a negative lens. Many people enjoy talking about the ‘terrible’ things that have happened. They complain and make excuses and seek to draw you into their pity party. Do not accept their invitation.

In every way possible, surround yourself with positive people. You want to spend time with people who make you feel good about life. Are you happy and confident when you spend time with them? Do they offer you support? After you spend time with them, do you feel energized?

“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.”

– Karl Marx

When you learn any skill. you will seek out a mentor or a professional, someone you admire and respect. Being a positive person is a skill and we should continually strive to become more positive. It should be a goal to surround yourself with positive people.

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Quote Of The Day

“You just can’t beat the person who never gives up.”

—Babe Ruth
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Quote Of The Day

“One way to keep momentum going is to have constantly greater goals.”

Michael Korda

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An Intense Effort Is Required To Achieve Outstanding Results

Continuous effort– not strength or intelligence – is the key to unlocking our potential.   

Winston Churchill 

An Olympic Gold Medal. What name comes to mind when you think of Olympic Gold? First, I think of Michael Phelps, the most successful and most decorated Olympian of all time,[7] with a total of 28 medals. Phelps also holds the all-time records for Olympic gold medals (23),[8] Olympic gold medals in individual events (13), and Olympic medals in individual events (16)

Then, there is Simone Biles, who is a five-time World all-around champion (2013–15, 2018–19), five-time World floor exercise champion (2013–15, 2018–19), three-time World balance beam champion (2014–15, 2019), two-time World vault champion (2018–19), a six-time United States national all-around champion (2013–16, 2018–19), and a member of the gold-medal-winning American teams at the 201420152018, and 2019 World Artistic Gymnastics Championships. Additionally, she is a three-time World silver medalist (2013 and 2014 on vault, 2018 on uneven bars) and a three-time World bronze medalist (2015 on vault, 2013 and 2018 on balance beam). Having won a combined total of thirty Olympic and World Championship medals, Biles is the most decorated American gymnast and the third most decorated gymnast of all time

They are just two examples of someone willing to put forth an extreme effort to achieve outstanding results.

Think of the dedication, determination, strength of will that they used to achieve their goals—quite an achievement.

You could also think of someone who is a successful business person, such as Elon Musk, who is the founder of Tesla and SpaceX, among many other endeavors.

Also, Steve Jobs who was an American business magnate, entrepreneur, industrial designer, investor, and media proprietor. He was the chairman, chief executive officer (CEO), and co-founder of Apple Inc., the chairman and majority shareholder of Pixar, a member of The Walt Disney Company‘s board of directors following its acquisition of Pixar, and the founder, chairman, and CEO of NeXT. Jobs is widely recognized as a pioneer of the personal computer revolution of the 1970s and 1980s, along with Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak.

Were they intelligent? Yes, but there is much more to the story of their success. Did they put in an extreme amount of effort? Absolutely! Without the dedication, determination, and strength of their will to succeed, they would not have been successful.

So what about us? Most people will never be able to match themselves to Phelps, Biles, Musk, or Jobs. They are exceptional, and they worked for every bit of their success. Their effort was extraordinary.

We can be more successful. We need to be willing to put in the effort. It is the amount of effort put in that makes the difference.

Seth Godin puts it all into perspective;  “People really want to believe effort is a myth…. I think we’ve been tricked by the veneer of lucky people on the top of the heap. We see the folks who manage to skate by or who get so much more than we think they deserve, and it’s easy to forget that these guys are the exceptions…. For everyone else, effort is directly related to success….and that’s the key to the paradox of effort: While luck may be more appealing than effort, you don’t get to choose luck. Effort, on the other hand, is totally available, all the time.

According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of effort is “the conscious exertion of power: hard work.”

I am not sure people think about the amount of effort required to complete a job or project. We think about, and plan for, the time, any tools required, and will it cost anything, but we do not schedule in the amount of effort.

It is about your mindset. What does it mean to you? What value does it have? What are you going to get out of it? Does it make you feel good?

What we do not usually think about is the importance of each day. What did you do yesterday, or last week, or last month? Can you look back and say, that it was a good day, week, or month?

When you feel good about something, and it makes you feel happy, content, or proud, think about why. How much effort did you put into it?

So many of us look back at our lives, and we are disappointed and wish we had done something better. We wish we had spent more time with someone, been more successful, had more money, a better education, etc.

We may blame other people, unexpected events, blah, blah, blah. It is so easy to blame someone or something else.

What we forget is that the one thing we have control over and is our responsibility is the amount of effort we put into what we do.

When you think of Phelps, Biles, Musk, and Jobs, you know they put in the effort. It is their years of work and an astounding effort that gave them success. It was a massive, sustained effort done day in and day out for years.

“What keeps so many people back is simply unwillingness to pay the price, to make the exertion, the effort to sacrifice their ease and comfort.”

Orison Marden

Is there a way to learn to put an increased amount of effort into what you do?

Good question. I do not have an answer. I believe that putting effort into what you do is an intentional act.

Each of us has to be mindful. Perhaps establishing the habit to start and end each day with quiet time to think about what we want to achieve that day. Then ask ourselves what effort you are willing to expend.

If we become more intentional about our actions, our dreams, and desires for our life, we should become more aware of the value of increased effort in everything we do.

There is a direct relationship between joy and effort. The joy of success is in ratio to the amount of effort expended to achieve it.”

Denis Waitley

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Quote Of The Day

There will be obstacles. There will be doubters. There will be mistakes. But with hard work, there are no limits.”

—Michael Phelps
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Quote Of The Day

What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow. Our life is the creation of our mind.”

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What Does It Mean To Be Authentic? What Choices Should You Make To Show Who You Are?

“Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”

Oscar Wilde

Are you authentic? We all have our moments, maybe more than we like to admit when we present ourselves differently depending on who we are interacting with at the time. We are almost like a shapeshifter.

We adapt to our environment. When we are unsure of ourselves and think we are not good enough, we may assume the persona we believe will be accepted.

An example might be a business meeting or dinner. Another example might be meeting a fiance’s family for the first time. We are going to present what we think they want to see.

It might be acceptable in some circumstances for a brief moment in time, but it is better to show the real you.

It is easy for people to realize that you are faking it, and it can be a turn-off. People like, and appreciate, someone who is authentic.

How can you be authentic and show your true self?

Realize and accept that you are not perfect. It is impossible, so do not try. Embrace who you are, even when it makes you feel unsure of yourself. Everyone is different and has value. You may feel vulnerable, but there is no need to be. When you accept yourself, others will accept you too. Be confident in who you are.

When you are interacting with someone, look for the things you have in common. Ask open-ended questions and then listen to their answers. You will be able to find an understanding of the other person and develop a connection to them. When asked a question, respond openly, and you will show your authentic self.

Observe yourself and recognize how you respond and interact when you are in an uncomfortable setting. You will learn to realize what situations make you uncomfortable and why you feel that way. Once you have that understanding, you can compensate by using some of your authentic skills.

Practice mindfulness. Always stay present in your interactions with others so that you respond appropriately. People recognize when you let your mind wander in a conversation by observing your body language and from your responses. The ability to stay present is the most effective way to be authentic.

Developing authenticity is a journey of self-awareness and growth. To be authentic, you have to understand what your beliefs are. Is there a difference between what you do and say and what you believe in? It is an opportunity to evaluate your self and to improve.

It is also an opportunity to face your fears. We all have them, and by being authentic, we need to look at all the aspects that make us who we are, good and bad. All of our experiences and all our emotions make us who we are.

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let out true selves be seen.”

Brene Brown

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