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Quote Of The Day

“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.”

–Willie Nelson

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Fear – What Are You Afraid Of? Use Fear To Make Yourself Better

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“The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear, and the oldest and strongest kind of fear is fear of the unknown.”

— H. P. Lovecraft

People are capable, but we are afraid. We can deny it, but it is true.

Think about all the things you want to do, either in the past or right now. What excuses do you have for not doing them?

It’s easy to make excuses. We may not realize that we are afraid because we make all sorts of excuses, but at the core of the reasons, you will find fear.

Fear is a basic human emotion. Fear does protect us, but it also limits us. In today’s ever-changing world, there are many reasons to be fearful, but we cannot let that rule our life.

There are three types of fear: Illogical fear, healthy fear, and real fear.

Healthy fear is instinctual. I think of it as caveman fear. We automatically feel it when we are in a dangerous situation. It comes from the physical world and warns us of actual danger.

Real fear is a valid fear because it is associated with real-life events. We are fearful of death, pain, and change. We like to live a stable life, so we are afraid of the events that affect us in those ways.

Illogical fear is something we believe will happen, but there is no basis for it; it is made up in our mind. Most often, we are afraid of failure; we are scared of the unknown, and what someone else may think of you. We restrict ourselves by fearing something which in reality does not exist.

We can overcome our illogical fear by actually doing what makes us afraid. It takes work, but it is possible. There is nothing to be scared of; we are the ones who are allowing this kind of fear to control us.

If you are afraid of public speaking, make an action plan on how you can overcome that fear. You can take a class or practice in front of a mirror. Read your speech over and over until you are comfortable. Then ask a friend to critique you. You will be ready to tackle your first speech and you will have alleviated your fear.

Use irrational fear as an opportunity to grow. We all have our comfort zone, and irrational fear can keep us entrenched there. We need to work our way out of that. When we do, we will realize there was nothing to fear. We will gain the confidence to do other new activities.

Giving in to fear can take away opportunities and leave limitations in its place. Fear places boundaries and is a stepping stone to failure. Fear creates more fear.

No one wants to fail; it stings, but what we do not know, or we forget, is that when we fail, we have the opportunity to learn. You have probably heard many times that a failure is a tool we can use to become better. You pull back from the failure, dissect it, and use what you learned to move forward and do a better job the next time. Each time you fail, you can become better, stronger.

Fear is a powerful emotion and can keep us from achieving our goals and reaching our potential. When we learn to take a step back and think a moment and ask why we are afraid, hopefully, we will be able to discern the forgery staring back at us. Our fear is a figment of our imagination. Look fear straight in the face and laugh at it. Move forward into a new reality of your real ability.

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

~ Nelson Mandela

As always, thank you for reading my blog. Be fearless today!

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Quote Of The Day

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”

–Helen Keller

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Quote Of The Day

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”

–Wayne Dyer
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Quote Of The Day

“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”

–Brené Brown

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Perfection – It Does Not Exist – Be Perfectly Imperfect Instead

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Perfection itself is imperfection. 

Vladimir Horowitz

My son and I were just talking about perfection yesterday afternoon. He was starting to restore the finish on a vintage Volkswagen Beetle, and was working hard to get the finish as perfect as possible. He understood that it was not going to be a perfect result. There were too many existing flaws that could not be worked away so it would be perfectly imperfect.

Our conversation lead me to this article. We want to be perfect but there really is no such thing.

“One of the basic rules of the universe is that nothing is perfect. Perfection simply doesn’t exist…..Without imperfection, neither you nor I would exist”

― Stephen Hawking

Throughout school and work you may have been required to take a personality assessment. I was always labeled a perfectionist. Did I agree with the results? Heck No! But there you have it; that was my label.

The point being that society has taught us to strive for the impossible; perfection. Working hard to do the best possible job is not a bad thing. I think that should be everyone’s goal.

The problem is no one can attain perfection and we should not be 100% judged by that standard. We are told by our parents, our teachers and our bosses that our work has to be perfect. If you play sports of any kind, the goal is perfection.

As a result individually we push ourselves to do just that; be perfect. We are our own best and worse judge. We work hard to achieve the perfect test score, present the best project presentation, and win every game.

When we fall a little short, we are our worse critic. We continually evaluate ourselves, and we wonder how we are being judged by others. It is a constant fear that we are not measuring up. When you set a goal and you do not quite get there you feel as if you are a failure.

Instead of understanding that you cannot be perfect you continue to push yourself and start to feel that you are incapable, that you are not smart enough. You feel incompetent. You are frustrated with everything and you are stressed. You spend a lot of time thinking about how you could have been better or done something differently.

You fail to recognize that you are doing a great job and are successful. When someone tells you that you have done a great job you do not acknowledge, or accept, the fact that they are right; you did do a great job. In your mind you are not good enough; you are not perfect.

Not only does perfectionism not exist, being locked in the round-robin of constantly pursuing it, it is detrimental to our health and well being. Studies have found that perfectionists have higher levels of stress, burnout, anxiety, and depression. One such study published in Medical News Today in 2018 explains in more depth how perfectionism can seriously harm your mental health and overall well being. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323323.php

No one is perfect. We all have flaws and imperfections; we make mistakes. That is normal and should be expected. If you are a perfectionist, or lean n that direction like I do, you need to accept who you are. Realize that life would be boring if everyone was perfect. It is our quirky little imperfections that make us interesting and give us character.

When you make mistakes it is important to accept them and to use them to learn. Look at what happened, why it did not work, and then look for ways that you can improve. It is a growth opportunity. Use that information in the future.

When you receive compliments be receptive and don’t discount your abilities. Pay attention to what they are saying and you will realize that others do respect and appreciate your abilities.

All of us are imperfect. You can still strive to be the best in what you do. There is nothing wrong with that and I think it is a positive way to live life. We are individuals who bring something different to whatever we do. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Each of us make an impression because of our imperfections. Strive to be Perfectly Imperfect.

Stop trying to ‘fix’ yourself; you’re NOT broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure.”

~ Steve Maraboli

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Quote Of The Day

“I was looking for someone to inspire me, motivate me, support me, keep me focused… Someone who would love me, cherish me, make me happy, and I realized all along that I was looking for myself.”

~ Unknown

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