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Why We Should Plan For Our Death, It’s Been On My Mind And It’s Okay, It Makes Me Feel Better

Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.

James Dean

I have been thinking about death lately. It’s okay, I do not want to die, at least, not today. I am not eager to die, but I know it is inevitable and can happen at any time.

This winter has been bearing down on me. Not the winter itself, but happenings. I recently witnessed a life being taken and it has weighed me down. You can read about it here:

I have not been able to escape the sadness of that experience.

What is worse though is watching my husband being ever so slowly taken down by COPD. He has been sick this week afflicted with pain, not able to eat, and less able to function. It has been excruciating for him, and for me as I stand by not knowing how to help or how to cope for us both.

So, yes, death is on my mind.

When I think of death, I also think of life. That is why thinking about death is okay.

There are benefits to thinking about death.

Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.

~ Pope Paul VI

We are limited in our time. We come with an expiration date, we just do not know what it is. That is why we should be mindful of how we spend our time, each and every moment of it. Our time is precious.

When we are young it feels like we have years spreading out before us to do everything that we want, or feel we need, to do. Sure, that may be true for many of us, but not guaranteed.

For me, since I am older, I do not foresee as many years. My life span is shortening so I do not have as many expectations. BUT that fact motivates me to do more now before the door slams shut.

So thinking about death is a motivator. It is not gruesome to be aware that we have a limited time. We should be aware and we should push ourselves a bit harder to do those things we care about.

The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.

Eleanor Roosevelt

We all have the tendency not to talk about death. It makes us uncomfortable. Maybe it would be better if we did talk about it.

We leave a lot of unspoken thoughts and feelings behind us. If we talked about death, and how it makes us feel, would it be easier for those we leave behind? I think it would be better for everyone.

You would know you shared your important moments, thoughts and beliefs. They would have the comfort of knowing those truths, knowing your thoughts, and not be left questioning the unknown.

How many times have you started to ask a parent or a good friend something you really want to know but did not because you thought that you did not have enough time, and decided you would ask the next time.

Take the time because you may never have another opportunity to ask. You will always wish you knew the answer.

If we knew we were dying tomorrow would we spend time worrying about the the little things that bother us. You know, all the small stuff.

We all have small stuff, the things that irritate us, like my old age wrinkles or the way my husbands hearing makes it seem like he is not paying attention. In the scheme of things it doesn’t matter. We are both still here wrinkles and all.

“Every day, it’s important to ask and answer these questions: “What’s good in my life?” and What needs to be done?”

~ Nathaniel Branden

Each morning I wake up and tell myself it is going to be a good day. I appreciate the fact that I am here and I have the opportunity to enjoy the day.

Growing older has allowed me to slow down and appreciate life more. I know I do not have as much time. My days here are more limited and I appreciate the message old age sends me each day.

My approach to each day is somewhat different than when I was younger, but everyone’s approach should be more mindful. Would your approach to the days events change if you knew you had a limited amount of time left to live? That is how we should approach each day.

Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can.”

Danny Kaye

So contemplate death, your own and the ones in your life you love and cherish. No need to be morbid, just be mindful. Appreciate each moment you have. Slow down, think, feel and cherish.

What color paint are you going to throw on your canvas today?

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“We can only say that we are alive in those moments when our hearts are aware of our treasures.”

Thornton Wilder

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There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate.”   

Linda Grayson
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I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.”  

Helen Keller
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Each Day We Wake Up As A Different Person Full Of Opportunity

A new day beckons…full of opportunity. Each day we awaken as a new person changed in some way by the experiences of yesterday. The brief encounter, a comment heard or shared. a book we read, the evening news, a touch, a special word or a word spoken in anger; all of these things change us.

We may not realize, or acknowledge the change, but it does happen everyday. Humans are not static, and even if we spend a day with not contact from another person, there are many stimuli that will affect us.

A walk outside, a flower, an unexpected noise, the laughter of a child, or a voice heard on the breeze, can all impact us. I took a walk outside recently which changed me forever. You can read about it here:

Not all events will have that impact, thank goodness. There will be many insignificant moments that we may not pay attention to, but our brain will react. Our heart, and sometimes our soul, will notice and we will be changed in some small way.

We are a accumulation of all our experiences.

Some of our experiences will be gut-wrenching, most will be mundane. Others will be mildly surprising. Some will fill our heart and others will empty it.

The most important aspect of our lives is our reaction. How do we react? Our reactions define us and determine what kind of a person we are.

The best part of each day, and each experience, is deciding how we react. We get to choose. No one else; the choice is ours and ours alone. We are in charge.

So how do you decide? What is important to you? What do you want to be remembered for?

I believe that each of us is a chameleon of sorts. We can easily change ourselves to fit in, please someone, or to succeed in a profession. I know I have changed in each personal relationship I have had to fit the need, and personality, of the other person involved.

We each grow with the influence of our parents and our basic personality is shaped as a child. I do believe we are born with a specific disposition and then we grow from there. We add layers to who we are each and every day. Some of the layers stick and some dry up and fall away.

We are never the same. We are always in flux.

So what happened in your life today and how did you react? What choices did you make? What effect do you think your choices will have on you? How will they affect your relationships?

Choose wisely because each and every choice will shape who you are when you wake up tomorrow as a new person shaped by the choices you made today.

Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.

John C. Maxwell

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“One of the best places to start to turn your life around is by doing whatever appears on your mental ‘I should’ list.”

Jim Rohn
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“No one can ever take your memories from you – each day is a new beginning, make good memories every day.”

– Catherine Pulsifer, Author
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