“Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color your world. Constantly color your picture gray, and your picture will always be bleak. Try adding some bright colors to the picture by including humor, and your picture begins to lighten up.”
As always, thanks for stopping by. Color your world today!
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”
We all have dreams. Inside we have little sparks, desires, to be a better version of ourselves.
Life is full of possibility, but it is up to each of us to step outside our comfort zone and take a risk.
We will never know what could happen if we do not try. There is so much potential, all we have to do is make the decision to take that first step, and then another.
The only person who can is us. No one else can, or will do it for us, nor should we want them to.
What dream do you have? How can you be sure you are always working toward making yourself the best version of you?
Ask yourself what is really important and then have the wisdom and courage to build your life around your answer.”
Making a change is a little bit like Yoga; there is a lot of stretching involved. You have to stretch yourself mentally and emotionally to make changes in your life. You are creating a different mindset.
Start by taking one small step, followed by another, then another. You do not have to start with a major change, start small, and as you build confidence, move forward from there.
Realize there are no set rules to follow. Everyone is different, and what might work for one will not for someone else. If someone tells you not to do it a certain way, ask why not. Create you own rules for how to improve yourself. You are doing this for you, not them. You have to be comfortable with your decisions.
Remember that you are important and have value. You are the only you. No one else looks like you, thinks like you, has the same thoughts or emotions. Every one has something special about them. Be comfortable with who you are, and do not try to be a carbon copy of someone else. Let your light shine. Believe in yourself.
I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.”
Do not be afraid. There are many things in life that we decide are too difficult, and that we are not good enough, talented enough, smart enough to do. Take a risk and go for it. It may require hard work, long hours, mental strain, sore muscles. Focus on the benefits, and if you power through to the end, the feeling of accomplishment you will feel at the end will be worth it.
Slow down and remember to enjoy the small things. Take a walk, go out to dinner with friends and family, read a book, spend time in the garden. Remember to be thankful for the good things you already have in your life. smile, laugh and tell someone you appreciate them.
I believe that everyone is a work in progress. We should always want to be better in some way, and we can always learn something new. Life is an adventure, and we should savor every little bit of it. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not here yet. We have today, this moment in time, and we are promised no more. Every moment is a gift. Make the most of the moments you have by fanning those little sparks you have within you.
“It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.”
As always, thanks for reading my blog. Have a terrific day!
Are you authentic? We all have our moments, maybe more than we like to admit when we present ourselves differently depending on who we are interacting with at the time. We are almost like a shapeshifter.
We adapt to our environment. When we are unsure of ourselves and think we are not good enough, we may assume the persona we believe will be accepted.
An example might be a business meeting or dinner. Another example might be meeting a fiance’s family for the first time. We are going to present what we think they want to see.
It might be acceptable in some circumstances for a brief moment in time, but it is better to show the real you.
It is easy for people to realize that you are faking it, and it can be a turn-off. People like, and appreciate, someone who is authentic.
How can you be authentic and show your true self?
Realize and accept that you are not perfect. It is impossible, so do not try. Embrace who you are, even when it makes you feel unsure of yourself. Everyone is different and has value. You may feel vulnerable, but there is no need to be. When you accept yourself, others will accept you too. Be confident in who you are.
When you are interacting with someone, look for the things you have in common. Ask open-ended questions and then listen to their answers. You will be able to find an understanding of the other person and develop a connection to them. When asked a question, respond openly, and you will show your authentic self.
Observe yourself and recognize how you respond and interact when you are in an uncomfortable setting. You will learn to realize what situations make you uncomfortable and why you feel that way. Once you have that understanding, you can compensate by using some of your authentic skills.
Practice mindfulness. Always stay present in your interactions with others so that you respond appropriately. People recognize when you let your mind wander in a conversation by observing your body language and from your responses. The ability to stay present is the most effective way to be authentic.
Developing authenticity is a journey of self-awareness and growth. To be authentic, you have to understand what your beliefs are. Is there a difference between what you do and say and what you believe in? It is an opportunity to evaluate your self and to improve.
It is also an opportunity to face your fears. We all have them, and by being authentic, we need to look at all the aspects that make us who we are, good and bad. All of our experiences and all our emotions make us who we are.
“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let out true selves be seen.”
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a great day.
“There are two kinds of people. One kind, you can just tell by looking at them at what point they congealed into their final selves. It might be a very nice self, but you know you can expect no more surprises from it. Whereas, the other kind keep moving, changing… They are fluid. They keep moving forward and making new trysts with life, and the motion of it keeps them young. In my opinion, they are the only people who are still alive. You must be constantly on your guard against congealing.”
― Gail Godwin
That quote paints this vivid image in my mind of a congealed mass, something like gravy left in a pan on the stove, or the food I feed my cat sitting in its bowl. Yuck!
I wonder, is that what our brain looks like as we age and we give up on life? When we decide our life is enough, we are content, and no longer interested in new ideas, or embracing change, does our brain congeal?
Let’s face it; there is a multitude of people that do choose to stop, and they are not all old. You see them everywhere you go, and you can tell by watching them, viewing their interactions, and listening to them talk.
Zombies come to mind. What the heck! I wonder about so many things, in particular, the way people think and act. I have always been an observer, so this is nothing new. I do it with everyone; I watch people, and I wonder what their life is like. What do they think about? What experiences have they lived through? Are they happy or sad?
Isn’t it strange how you can meet someone once or twice and make a judgment about them? Sometimes, we are spot on, and sometimes we are way off base. When I am observing other people, I wonder what judgment they are making about me.
I am an introvert, so I am happy and content to sit back and be the observer. My husband is much more outgoing then I am. He interacts easily and loves to talk to other people. I assume that outside observers, casual acquaintances, would easily make very different judgments about each of us.
As I am wondering about how we interact with one another, I am also curious about how we play the game and the effect our mindset has on our life and interactions.
When I started this blog, it was all about my mindset. I was fearful of growing old. I did not want to become a congealing blob of inactivity, and I did not want to settle for the here and now. I was afraid I would accept the status quo and stop attempting to learn and grow.
I made the right decision. Each day I stretch my brain in some way. I do a lot of reading and research, and I am learning. By doing so, I find my curiosity expanding. I do get frustrated sometimes because I want to do more. I am not settling for less.
So where are you? What is your mindset, and what are you doing to stay active, mentally, and physically?
It does not matter what age you are, where you live, or if you are working or retired. There is never a time when you should stop learning and improving.
Wake up each day and smile. Have a plan for what you want to do, and always believe it is going to be a good day. When you start each day with a positive mindset, the chances are increased that you will indeed have a good day. Need some help being positive? Read positive quotes; they do help.
Focus on the good things in your life. There will always be irritants, but there will always be good things too.
There is no such thing as pure perfection. We are told all the time to strive for perfection, and, yes, it is a good practice to do your best work. We can always improve and should have a personal goal of growth, but not perfection.
Live in the present. What happened in the past is over, and there is nothing you can do to change it. Learn from the experience, but do not dwell there. Tomorrow is just that. You have goals, and you have a plan, but focus on what you are doing today. Be present in every moment, enjoy it and make the most out of everything you do.
Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.”
As always, thank you for reading my blog today. Enjoy today.