“Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.”
Alain De Botton
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It can be challenging to keep ourselves motivated and to remain focused. I struggle with that all the time.
I always have good intentions, but it is easy for me to wander away from following through. I am retired, so I do not answer to any one else. If the sun is shining, like it has been the last two days, I would much rather be outside. These were probably the last two days of spectactular fall weather this year so, yes, I did spend my time outside.
Consequently, I did not write anything. What to do? Get down to it and get it done. There is no opportunity left from the last two days, so I have to create the time and work fast.
So how can you create opportunities?
I already did the first one…I made the decision to go ahead and write the blog now, even though I am very limited on time. Sometimes when we are busy, like I was today, we pass over an opportunity. In my case today, I could have changed my morning schedule around and put off something else until later. If I had done that, I would not be worrying about it now.
Imagine opportunities everywhere you look. As you go about your normal activities always be looking for ideas. Watch other people, listen to conversations, and maybe you will find an idea. In my case, it would be something to write about. Someone else may find an idea on how to improve on an existing product or service.
Don’t sell yourself short. You have more potential, and therefore, more opportunities than you may think. Most of us discount our talents; it’s human nature I guess. Whenever we interact with someone there may be an opportunity we are unaware of. When you are at work, or out in public, your interactions may impress someone. How you speak, your smile, your compassion may be an opportunity for a promotion at work or a job offer from an unexpected source.
Think of your work as important. Most of us do not respect ourselves. We are important, what we do is important. When you make a decision to place more value on yourself, you will automatically have a better attitude and be more confident. Others will notice the value you place on your work which may lead to more opportunities in the future.
There is a lesson learned from what I did today. I took advantage of time outside and getting lots of major work done. I needed to do that. The downside is I did not prioritize my inside work.
It is so important to have a plan and a schedule we follow. It is even more important to be flexible and have the ability to make adjustments in our day so we can get everything done. I was stressing from not writing this blog so it was ready first thing this morning. If I had made the needed adjustments first thing in the morning and did some prioritizing, there would be no stress.
Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.”
As always, thanks for reading my blog. Have a great day.
“The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear, and the oldest and strongest kind of fear is fear of the unknown.”
— H. P. Lovecraft
People are capable, but we are afraid. We can deny it, but it is true.
Think about all the things you want to do, either in the past or right now. What excuses do you have for not doing them?
It’s easy to make excuses. We may not realize that we are afraid because we make all sorts of excuses, but at the core of the reasons, you will find fear.
Fear is a basic human emotion. Fear does protect us, but it also limits us. In today’s ever-changing world, there are many reasons to be fearful, but we cannot let that rule our life.
There are three types of fear: Illogical fear, healthy fear, and real fear.
Healthy fear is instinctual. I think of it as caveman fear. We automatically feel it when we are in a dangerous situation. It comes from the physical world and warns us of actual danger.
Real fear is a valid fear because it is associated with real-life events. We are fearful of death, pain, and change. We like to live a stable life, so we are afraid of the events that affect us in those ways.
Illogical fear is something we believe will happen, but there is no basis for it; it is made up in our mind. Most often, we are afraid of failure; we are scared of the unknown, and what someone else may think of you. We restrict ourselves by fearing something which in reality does not exist.
We can overcome our illogical fear by actually doing what makes us afraid. It takes work, but it is possible. There is nothing to be scared of; we are the ones who are allowing this kind of fear to control us.
If you are afraid of public speaking, make an action plan on how you can overcome that fear. You can take a class or practice in front of a mirror. Read your speech over and over until you are comfortable. Then ask a friend to critique you. You will be ready to tackle your first speech and you will have alleviated your fear.
Use irrational fear as an opportunity to grow. We all have our comfort zone, and irrational fear can keep us entrenched there. We need to work our way out of that. When we do, we will realize there was nothing to fear. We will gain the confidence to do other new activities.
Giving in to fear can take away opportunities and leave limitations in its place. Fear places boundaries and is a stepping stone to failure. Fear creates more fear.
No one wants to fail; it stings, but what we do not know, or we forget, is that when we fail, we have the opportunity to learn. You have probably heard many times that a failure is a tool we can use to become better. You pull back from the failure, dissect it, and use what you learned to move forward and do a better job the next time. Each time you fail, you can become better, stronger.
Fear is a powerful emotion and can keep us from achieving our goals and reaching our potential. When we learn to take a step back and think a moment and ask why we are afraid, hopefully, we will be able to discern the forgery staring back at us. Our fear is a figment of our imagination. Look fear straight in the face and laugh at it. Move forward into a new reality of your real ability.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
~ Nelson Mandela
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Be fearless today!