“Stop trying to live up to assumptions and perceived expectations that may or may not be rooted in reality and just start doing things out of a whole and honest place. Be that. Do that. Share that.”MissMustardSeed
It is normal to want to do the very best we can and to do as much as we can.
As a result, we set high goals, and with that, we also have high expectations. We get wound up in the excitement of it all; and all the possibilities.
We want to be perfect, and that is a good thing. We should always strive to do the best possible job. The keyword is possible. It is not realistic to believe we can be perfect. It is possible to do our best.
It is easy to lose track. Sure, we pay attention, but we are so focused on our goals that we may not give ourselves time to take a step back and look at the whole picture.
Are you doing too much? Have you taken on more than you can do? You are doing a great job, you have built a client base, and you have other requests for doing another project. Yes, you say, I can do that.
You push yourself to take on one more project, then another and another. Then you begin to realize you are overtired, you are stressed, and you are no longer happy. What you are doing is no longer inspiring. It is work, overwhelmingly hard work.
It is time to stop. Step back and take a break. You need to sit down and analyze where you are.
What do you want to do? Do you need to hire help? Do you want to grow larger, or do you want to dial it back a notch or two? What will make you happy?
Sometimes we become so busy we do lose track of what we started to do in the first place. It is also possible that something has changed and you need, or want, to do something different.
You started with a certain expectation, but you became sidetracked either by yourself as outlined above or by someone else and their influence.
You will be influenced by other people’s opinions when you first start your business.
It can be a family member, a close friend, a mentor, or perhaps your banker. Everyone will have opinions, and some will want to live their dream through you.
Some of the information they share will be beneficial, and some will have no value and could be detrimental. Either way, it is easy to say yes to their suggestions. Some you may feel obligated to do or at least try.
It is easy to lose control or lose sight of what your objective is. At some point, you will come to realize that you cannot be effective, and you cannot fulfill their expectations or your own.
You have to speak up. That is so hard to do, but it is necessary. From an early age, I always tried to meet the expectations of my parents, my teachers, my friends. The truth is, you can’t do that and be happy or be productive.
Make a plan and talk to anyone who is expecting a particular outcome, or a specific way of you doing something. Explain that you have realized that to be successful, this is what you will be doing moving forward.
Thank them for the ideas or suggestions they have made and that you appreciate their help. You may experience some push back but hold your ground. If you do not impose limits, they will continue to try to influence you to do it their way.
No one knows you like you do, and no one is responsible for your success or happiness. You are. Understand what you want to achieve and set limits for yourself and for those that want to influence you.
Honouring your own boundaries is the clearest message to others to honor them, too.― Gina Greenlee
Now it is time to do a re-set. Eliminate the expectations and move forward. Make the needed adjustments to your plan and do what you love. Be happy and be inspired. Never lose the essence of you and what you want to accomplish.
Always be excited! Go get ’em!
As always, thank you for reading my blog.