“Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Do not bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.”― William Faulkner
I want to better. I have always felt that way and now at 73 the feeling is even stronger. I want to be smarter than I am now. I want to be more compassionate. I want to be healthier and more physically fit.
The thing is…we should all want to be better at any age and we should always keep looking for ways to improve.
So how do we become better at any age?
Be Open To Change
How many times have you made excuses for not doing something new? It is so easy to say no. We are hesitant about the unknown; even scared.
Sometimes we let someone close to us influence our decisions. They may be scared we will get hurt, either physically or mentally.
I say why not try it. It will build your confidence and increase your knowledge and overall well being.
Learn Something New
We should strive to learn something every day. Read, watch videos and webinars. Learn how to do something you have always been interested in, but always put it off.
Do you like music? Learn to play the piano, the violin or cello. Join a choral group and sing you heart out. Learn a new language; how about sign language?
Join a sports league like volleyball. Go to REI and take a class or how about Home Depot and learn how to use tools to do home improvement.
Now, more than ever, there are people in need. Just think how much better you will feel about yourself if you volunteer to help others.
Join an organization like Habitat for Humanity or a local soup kitchen. Volunteer to drive patients to the hospital for treatments. Deliver for Meals on Wheels. Read to children at the library or to those in the hospital. Visit Nursing Homes and interact with the residents there.
This is something so easy to do and we can easily ignore. I always hold the door for people and I always smile and say Hi. It is funny though because sometimes when you do that people do not acknowledge it. Do not get angry at the them, which can be an automatic reaction.
Sit in a parking lot sometime and watch people; especially at a grocery store. I see so many people struggle with packages and car doors. Get out of the car, and ask if you can help them. I have done it before. Sometimes they say no, but sometimes they are relieved and very appreciative.
This is something we all need to be better at. Speaking from experience, it can be very frustrating and demoralizing to be talking and have someone talk over me, or ignore me.
We are all in a hurry and we want our voices heard. Remember to take a moment and listen. Show respect to everyone by letting them have a voice. That includes children, the elderly, the clerk at the store, your co-workers and your spouse.
How do you feel when you are quite sure someone is lying to you, or not telling the whole story, slanting it in their favor?
It is beneficial to you, and everyone you interact with, to be honest. Sometimes it is not easy to explain your feelings and ideas so take your time, think first, and be as open and honest as possible. I always find it easier when I put myself in their shoes; how would you want to be treated?
Let Go Of Resentment
This is a tough one. When you have encountered a negative person, or experience, in the past, you will understand how it feels. It is difficult to let it go. It can affect you for a long time, if you let it.
Letting your resentment fester you are hurting yourself. It is allowing the negative experience hurt you twice. Find a way to let it go and move past it.
Acknowledge what happened, accept it, and move on. Think it through, poke at it a bit, and talk to someone you trust about your feelings. If necessary, talk to a professional to help you move past it.
“Make the most of yourself….for that is all there is of you.”–Ralph Waldo
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have a wonderful day.