If you don’t have a smile. I’ll give you one of mine.”–unknown author
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If you don’t have a smile. I’ll give you one of mine.”–unknown author
As always, thanks for stopping by. I’ll trade you a smile for one of mine!
“Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”— Albert Einstein
Recently I have been spending time contemplating where I am, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
Am I happy and content? What do I need to do, and how can I do it better. How can I be more effective?
This is not about doing my best for a job or for someone else. This is about doing my best for me, and in turn for those I care about.
What is most important? How about you? How often do you spend time, quality time, committed to understanding what is important?
How many of us slow down to the extent that we understand ourselves?
We are continually exposed to so much and it all affects us. It changes us, particularly when we are not paying attention. Have you done a check-up recently and asked yourself what is important in your life?
Do you ask yourself the important questions? How are you? Are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you like yourself, your thoughts, your actions? What do you care about? Are you happy? Are you growing, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually?
There are a few recent, or upcoming events, that have probably inspired me to do some soul searching.
The big holidays of the year, Thanksgiving and Christmas, and then the New Year is right around the corner. Most everyone looks for ways to change, or improve, at the end of the year. So much to think about.
I have been spending time thinking about family. The birth of a beautiful granddaughter, new life. The health of my husband which is deteriorating. My toddler grandson, who is so smart and energetic, brimming with excitement. My teenage granddaughter, beautiful and becoming her own person. My two sons who are such compassionate, intelligent people who I am so proud of. All the stages of life spreading out before me. I watch with love and joy.
My writing this blog; where do I want to go with it? Do I want to make changes? How can I make it better? How can I bring more value to myself and my followers?
Writing articles for Medium. https://medium.com/@lindalatt. This experience has been so enlightening and so challenging. It is an opportunity to write about anything I want, any subject, any experience, any emotion. I am in awe of the others who share their stories. Most of the time I feel I am unworthy of sharing the same place with them.
Writing is something I will definitely focus on in the coming year. It encourages me to learn the craft of writing and to increase my knowledge on many levels. It is stretching my mind and refreshing my brain cells; who doesn’t need that!
What it comes down to is being better. As I have said before, I want to be a better version of myself. I just wrote an opinion piece on Medium, https://medium.com/@lindalatt/does-donald-trump-have-a-moral-compass-that-would-be-a-big-fat-no-does-it-matter-to-you-a1b7c2d62169
Writing it has been a result of many moments of frustration, anger, disbelief and sadness. It is a result of disillusionment of the narrative that exists and the actions taken. It frightens me. I cannot accept that.
So, as a result, I have looked deeper into my own beliefs and feelings. I do not want to be influenced by the negativity that exists in this country at this moment in time.
This next year will be about adding value to my life.
Each morning I will ask myself this question, “What good shall I do this day?”
Will you join me?
The compass of compassion asks not what is good for me, but what is good? Not what is best for me, but what is best? Not what is right for me, but what is right? Not how much can we take, but how much ought we leave, and how much might we give? Not what is easy, but what is worthy. Not what is practical, but what is moral.Carl Safina
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“The world is full of people looking for spectacular happiness while they snub contentment.”– Doug Larson
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“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.”– Denis Waitley
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Don’t let your plans or goals become more important than yourself, or the ones you care about!José N. Harris
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“Life is about time. Spend more time than you do money on others. Give time more than any other gift. Also, take time when you need to. Take time for you when you need it. Sometimes time is all we have with the people we love the most. I ask you to slow down in life. To take your time, but don’t waste it.”― Emma Heatherington,
Every day when we wake up, we should say thank you and smile with happiness that we are alive. We have more time.
The most important thing we need to realize is life does not guaranteed from one breathe we take to the next, that there will be a next breathe.
Do you think about time? I would guess it is human nature to assume there will be more.
Time is the most precious thing we have. It is the most valuable, yet we waste it every day. We take it for granted.
Maybe we should ask ourselves at the end of each day how we spent our time. Did we do what we wanted to? Did we enjoy our time? Did we help someone, smile at someone, and make them feel special?
Do you have a plan? What do you want your life to mean? Is there something that you want to achieve? What is the most important?
If you did not have one more day to spend, what would you want to do today?
Spend your precious time on what is most important.
Make a plan. Every day have a detailed plan for how you will spend your time. What are your most important priorities for each day? Do those first and then fill in your time with the less essential tasks you need to complete.
When someone asks you to do something, before you commit your time, ask yourself if it will add value to your day. If the answer is no, politely decline.
Always make family time and self-care a priority in your day. Include time for exercise, reading, smiles, and hugs, and those activities that make you happy. Do not forget self-reflection at the end of each day.
When you have any free time, use it to do what is going to create a better you, a better life.
It is easy to be sucked into activities that do not benefit us. Learn to say no. It may not be easy to do, especially at first, but it is important.
Let co-workers, friends, and family know you have a specific time limit on phone calls, emails, text messages, etc. Tell them you may not be able to give them an immediate response and to expect an answer within a specific time frame.
Social media can be an easy sinkhole to get mired in. It is a time-waster. Do not get sucked into that pit. Use it only as needed and get out. Ask yourself if this is a valuable use of your time. Set a time limit and adhere to it; use a timer if necessary.
Do not waste time worrying about past events or what other people are doing or what they think. Focus on what is beneficial to you, your goals, and what is important to you.
Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it, you can never get it back.”Harvey Mackay
Time is priceless. We cannot buy more. Once we use it, it is gone forever. Make a plan; how are you going to spend your time? Use it wisely.
I have included a letter here written by someone who came face to face with the value of time and hoped she could help others realize the value of the gift we receive each day.
On the 4th of January, Holly Butcher, at the age of 27, lost her battle with Ewing’s sarcoma, a rare form of cancer that affects mostly young people.
Before she died, the Grafton woman penned a letter which she asked her family to post on her Facebook account once she was gone.
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“I can imagine nothing more terrifying than an Eternity filled with men who were all the same. The only thing which has made life bearable…has been the diversity of creatures on the surface of the globe.”― T.H. White, The Book of Merlyn
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Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.Harold Coffin
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Nothing is as far away as one minute ago.”James Alonzo “Jim” Bishop
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“You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.”~ Dr. Robert Anthony
Self Esteem is how we feel about ourselves. It is essential to have a positive perception of ourselves and our abilities.
Some of us appear to have a naturally positive attitude and always feel good about themselves. Other people may not, and It affects their day to day activities. I believe it is normal to have an ebb and flow based on what experiences we have and how we respond to them.
Let’s face it; we all have our good and bad days. We can be affected by our family, our friends, our co-workers, and strangers that we interact with by chance. We are affected by the nightly news and the negativity we find there.
Sometimes we are our harshest critic. When we do something wrong, we might berate ourselves with snide, nasty little comments. Been there, done that. How many times have I said to myself, ” That was dumb, why did you do that; it was stupid.” We also might think, “OMG. I hope no one saw or heard me; that was so embarrassing!”
On the other side of that is the possibility of praising ourselves. Do we? No, usually we do not recognize our worth, and we do nothing to acknowledge we were successful. We should; it is good for our self-esteem. Why do we tend to knock ourselves down, but we do nothing to build ourselves up?
We all have strengths and weaknesses. We need to focus on our strengths and work to keep improving them. We should not focus on our shortcomings or allow them to influence our decisions. I do think we need to be aware of what weaknesses we may have. We can look for ways to improve and turn the weaknesses into growth opportunities.
My attitude is that if you push me towards something that you think is a weakness, then I will turn that perceived weakness into a strength.”~ Michael Jordan
Our self-esteem, or how we view ourselves, will influence the decisions we make. If we have high self-esteem and feel great about ourselves, it motivates us to have a productive day, get up, and do something meaningful. We want to be successful, and we want to improve. We have a positive attitude and will make the most of every situation.
If you have low self-esteem, you are less likely to be motivated. You believe that you cannot succeed, or that it will be too hard. Maybe you can do this portion of a job, but you think you are not smart enough to complete it. Because you doubt your capabilities, you are less likely to push yourself to do more, and you allow yourself to be stagnant. You think there is no sense putting in the time because you know it will be a disaster.
How can we improve, feel better about ourselves, and improve our self-esteem?
Recognize your strengths. Everyone has something they are good at, and they also have things they are not as good at doing. Examples might be someone who is outstanding in their math abilities, but has difficulty describing concepts. Maybe someone is creative and an excellent artist, but they have terrible communication skills. Do not doubt yourself because you have trouble explaining something, or do not like interacting with someone. Focus on what you are confident about and good at doing.
Practice mindfulness. Be aware of your thoughts and do not engage in any negative self-talk. When you find yourself being self-critical, be mindful of your thoughts, and remind yourself that they are only thoughts. Thoughts are not facts; they are annoying little bits of negativity, but they are not valid. Shift your way of thinking and focus on your abilities and positive attributes.
Use affirmations. The use of affirmations can be empowering. We all have these ingrained beliefs about ourselves that are not true, but they have a hold on us. Get rid of the negative nuggets you carry with you by replacing them with an affirmative statement. Make a list of affirmations. Write down the little negative nuggets and develop an affirmation about them. Choose an affirmation that is the opposite of the negative belief. Examples might be:
“I have the knowledge and experience to be promoted this year.”
“My boss values my opinion.” “I am creative.”
“I am going to work hard until I am successful.” “I have a positive attitude.”
Make a list of positive affirmations and read them every day. Keep the list where you can look at it multiple times a day or when you start having negative thoughts.
Accept Compliments. How many times have you shrugged off a compliment you have received. Instead of denying a compliment and having negative thoughts such as, “Oh, they really do not mean that. ‘ or “They are just saying that because they think they have to.” Take a few moments to respond and to contemplate the compliment. Respond with a “Thank you” or “What a nice thing to say”. When you accept compliments, they will have a positive influence and raise your self-esteem.
Practice Self Compassion. When something negative happens, such as not getting a promotion that you wanted, instead of beating yourself up and dwelling in negativity, try some self-compassion. We are compassionate toward our friends and important people in our life, so we should do the same for ourselves. Think about the conversations you had with a friend when they were working through a problem. What did you say to them to make them feel better? Do the same for yourself. Help build your self-esteem instead of knocking it down. As we often tell others, “You’ve got this.”
Building our self-esteem does take some effort, particularly if we have just had a setback or disappointment. You may enjoy helping others improve, and you should feel the same about yourself. It requires strengthening your talents, developing new ones, and creating habits like those listed above. You’ve got this; you can do it!
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A re-post of a October 16, 2019 post.