“How many people are completely successful in every department of life? Not one. The most successful people are the ones who learn from their mistakes and turn their failures into opportunities.”~ Zig Ziglar
Life is full of ups and downs. Each of us will have success, and each of us will experience failure. It is what we do with each of those experiences that shape us. The decisions we make will make us who we are in the future.
We will not always get it right, and we will look back and wish we had done some things differently. We can. We may not be able to go back to that exact moment in time, but we can make some corrections that may soften the impact. We can become better.
Setbacks come in all different sizes. Small setbacks will be easier to correct and will have a minimal negative affect. Make a few changes and move on.
There may come a day when you have a setback that makes you feel like the ground opened up and swallowed you. It hurts, and you feel overwhelmed. You feel like there is little help to fix it, save your job, or your relationship, whatever the situation may be.
Whatever the situation you find yourself in, you can work through it. When you look back, you will realize you are stronger because of the setback. You will feel better. You will feel stronger and more confident.
If there has been a significant setback at work, the first day you walk into the building, or into a meeting, might make you want to crumble. You will get over it. Hold your head high, nod at co-workers, smile, say hi. Get on with it.
It may not be easy, but it is necessary to acknowledge what happened. You may not want to at first; you may feel like hiding, denying, and pretending it didn’t happen. You can’t do that.
Take some time to assimilate what happened. Do not jump to conclusions or make hasty decisions. Do not place blame on yourself, or others, too quickly. That can be an automatic response, and it may be incorrect. Now is not the time to burn bridges with an inappropriate response. Do not turn in your resignation.
Once you have your balance back, and you have accepted that it happened, it is time to develop a plan for moving forward. What do you want to do, what will make you comfortable, and how do you want to move forward. You want to do damage control and minimize the impact on your career or your relationship.
Do you know and trust someone who may have gone through a setback themselves? Do you respect how they handled it and moved forward? Make contact with them and ask for advice. Check out articles on the internet for suggestions. If you are having a difficult time coping, you may want to seek the help of a professional counselor.
By this time, you may have done some soul searching. If not, I encourage you to do so. You must do an in depth analysis of what happened. What was your part in it? Trust me; you also have a role in it. Figure out what it is and how you can fix it. Also, analyze your workplace, the culture of the organization, your bosses, and coworkers. Are they a good fit? Is this where you want to be for the long term?
You have to understand your role, how you came to that point, and why you made specific decisions. To move forward, you need to know yourself and what will benefit you in the future. Make a plan and a strategy for implementing it.
Once you have a strategy, put it into action. Move ahead one step at a time. Make sure you are comfortable and do a reassessment. When everything feels right, then push forward. Be sure to measure your progress as you go. Once you have gotten to this point, you will start to feel better about yourself and regain confidence.
When you have weathered the storm and come out on the other side, you will recognize a new you. You will know yourself better, have a new outlook, and understand what is important to you. Setbacks suck, yes they do, but how you handle them will make you grow as a person. You will be stronger and more confident. You will have respect for the process and yourself.
“As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.”~ Steve Maraboli
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