Perfection itself is imperfection.Vladimir Horowitz
My son and I were just talking about perfection yesterday afternoon. He was starting to restore the finish on a vintage Volkswagen Beetle, and was working hard to get the finish as perfect as possible. He understood that it was not going to be a perfect result. There were too many existing flaws that could not be worked away so it would be perfectly imperfect.
Our conversation lead me to this article. We want to be perfect but there really is no such thing.
“One of the basic rules of the universe is that nothing is perfect. Perfection simply doesn’t exist…..Without imperfection, neither you nor I would exist”― Stephen Hawking
Throughout school and work you may have been required to take a personality assessment. I was always labeled a perfectionist. Did I agree with the results? Heck No! But there you have it; that was my label.
The point being that society has taught us to strive for the impossible; perfection. Working hard to do the best possible job is not a bad thing. I think that should be everyone’s goal.
The problem is no one can attain perfection and we should not be 100% judged by that standard. We are told by our parents, our teachers and our bosses that our work has to be perfect. If you play sports of any kind, the goal is perfection.
As a result individually we push ourselves to do just that; be perfect. We are our own best and worse judge. We work hard to achieve the perfect test score, present the best project presentation, and win every game.
When we fall a little short, we are our worse critic. We continually evaluate ourselves, and we wonder how we are being judged by others. It is a constant fear that we are not measuring up. When you set a goal and you do not quite get there you feel as if you are a failure.
Instead of understanding that you cannot be perfect you continue to push yourself and start to feel that you are incapable, that you are not smart enough. You feel incompetent. You are frustrated with everything and you are stressed. You spend a lot of time thinking about how you could have been better or done something differently.
You fail to recognize that you are doing a great job and are successful. When someone tells you that you have done a great job you do not acknowledge, or accept, the fact that they are right; you did do a great job. In your mind you are not good enough; you are not perfect.
Not only does perfectionism not exist, being locked in the round-robin of constantly pursuing it, it is detrimental to our health and well being. Studies have found that perfectionists have higher levels of stress, burnout, anxiety, and depression. One such study published in Medical News Today in 2018 explains in more depth how perfectionism can seriously harm your mental health and overall well being. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323323.php
No one is perfect. We all have flaws and imperfections; we make mistakes. That is normal and should be expected. If you are a perfectionist, or lean n that direction like I do, you need to accept who you are. Realize that life would be boring if everyone was perfect. It is our quirky little imperfections that make us interesting and give us character.
When you make mistakes it is important to accept them and to use them to learn. Look at what happened, why it did not work, and then look for ways that you can improve. It is a growth opportunity. Use that information in the future.
When you receive compliments be receptive and don’t discount your abilities. Pay attention to what they are saying and you will realize that others do respect and appreciate your abilities.
All of us are imperfect. You can still strive to be the best in what you do. There is nothing wrong with that and I think it is a positive way to live life. We are individuals who bring something different to whatever we do. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Each of us make an impression because of our imperfections. Strive to be Perfectly Imperfect.
Stop trying to ‘fix’ yourself; you’re NOT broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure.”~ Steve Maraboli
As always, thanks for reading my blog. Have a Perfectly Imperfect day.