“Water does not resist. Water flows. When you plunge your hand into it, all you feel is a caress. Water is not a solid wall, it will not stop you. But water always goes where it wants to go, and nothing in the end can stand against it. Water is patient. Dripping water wears away a stone. Remember that, my child. Remember you are half water. If you can’t go through an obstacle, go around it. Water does.”― Margaret Atwood, The Penelopiad
Patience: quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence: to work with patience or the ability to keep calm in the face of disappointment, distress or suffering,
A excellent ability, patience. Do you spend time with someone who has forgotten the concept? Doesn’t it irritate you when they are always displaying their quick flair of anger at the tiniest thing? The computer file does not load fast enough, traffic is slow, they have to wait in line, or when someone places them on hold while on the telephone.
I wonder if they realize the effect they may have on someone who is a witness to their behavior. When I see someone’s lack of patience, I find it irritating and sometimes depressing.
I would prefer to spend time with that patient beagle in the picture above then a person who continually displays a lack of patience.
There was an article I read recently that referenced a woman who was always cheerful and polite at her customer service position. She received an offer for a job at a firm that was her dream position because of her positive attitude, which included a large dose of patience. Do you think she would have been offered that same position if she displayed impatience with her customers every day?
Most of us occasionally have a bad day when we lose our patience, but then we bounce right back. It is concerns me that I see more people displaying impatience and poor behavior like it is reasonable and acceptable.
We can learn to control impatience by determining what triggers that response. Is it standing in line? Is it a traffic detour or construction zone with a flagman that infuriates you?
When that happens, start by taking a deep breath and thinking about what is making you impatient. It may be inconvenient, or you visualize it that way, but is it really? Is it a five-minute delay? In the context of your day is that a big deal? No, it is not.
My husband and I go almost everywhere together. I am his driver because his health requires it. I take him somewhere like the post office, or a book sale, he goes inside, and I wait. God bless him, he is a talker, and what should be a short stop may often turn into a longer time. I understand his need to have personal contact, and it is beneficial for him, but when I sit and think about what I want to do for the day I could be irritated, but I have chosen not to be. I always have a notebook with me, and I use that time to make a grocery list or reorganize my appointment list, jot down ideas for writing, etc. I will listen to music, or I will take a book to read.
It should be easy to find a simple solution to what may be a problem for many. There is always a way to fill the few minutes you have to wait. Listen to music, think about what movie you want to watch, or what you are going to do on the weekend. Easy Peasy.
Another enlightening practice might be to view the situation and take a step back; have you done the same thing yourself? The answer may be yes. In this busy world we live in, it appears that we all want to be first at some point or another. Use that reflection to learn and grow. Hopefully, it will help you stop the next time, and react more positively.
Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is the ability to stay in the moment, the here and now, without any judgment. When we make mindfulness a daily habit, the tendency we have to put ourselves first, and to become impatient when we have to wait, should become a non-event. We have better awareness and control of our emotions, and we respond better to adverse events, such as having to wait in a long line, etc.
“Mindfulness means being awake. It means knowing what you are doing.”— Jon Kabat-Zinn
Modify your time schedules. I know someone who is always late; you can bet money on it. If you have that tendency, and you are easily irritated when something happens to hold you up, you need to make some changes. Why add stress to your life by trying to do too much, or not being realistic about the time required.
Make a schedule for each day and be realistic about your goals for the day. Rearrange your schedule, delete what is not necessary, or move something to another day. No one knows you like you do. No one can make you move faster, plan better, or be more realistic. All those things only you can control.
As we look at the world today, it is apparent that we all need to practice patience. We need to slow down, take a deep breath, smile, relax, and wait. Live in the moment always.
Patience is not the ability to wait. Patience is to be calm no matter what happens, constantly take action to turn it to positive growth opportunities, and have faith to believe that it will all work out in the end while you are waiting.”― Roy T. Bennett,
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Practice Patience today.