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Quote Of The Day

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There is no chance, no destiny, no fate, that can hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul.

Aaron Spelling

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Writing Has Changed Me And I Like It

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It has been intimidating, challenging, and growth-inducing.

ust a few short months ago, I decided to change things up. I needed to do something different. I was afraid of becoming stagnant and wanted to re-energize myself.

Sure, there are lots of other things I need to do, but most of them would do nothing to motivate me or enrich my life. There would be the satisfaction of cleaning and reorganizing. I am transiting from operating a small antique business and need to let go of leftovers, such as small uncompleted projects, and decide what to keep and what to eliminate. Nothing is stimulating there. Projects like that will not enhance my life.

What would I do? I decided, like so many others, to start a blog. It has been stimulating to be sure. I have gone from someone who was not on social media in any form to someone who is now on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, WordPress, and now Medium. I still do not own a cellphone. Yes, I was a relic of the past, and I was happy there. If I had decided not to blog, I would still not be on any of those platforms.

There are so many reasons why I like writing. The number one reason would be that it is not stagnant, and now neither am I. It stimulates my mind every day. I love to read, and now I read several articles and stories each day. It is so enjoyable to read other writers and view their opinions, their emotions, and experiences.

Each day I learn something new from doing research. I learn about other cultures, different ways to do something, and how something works. Every day when absorbing this new knowledge, I am also revisiting my own past experiences and contemplating new possibilities. I am learning about myself, and I am becoming a better person. I think more openly about past experiences, and I am hopefully cleaning out some of the baggage I carry within me.

I believe I am becoming a better person, a more interesting person, and I hope in some small way, I am setting an example. First for my sons, showing them you are never too old to make changes, and do something new and different. Hopefully for others as well; the slightly older portion of the population who may stumble upon my writing and my blog. Also, younger people as well, who read my WordPress blog where I have shared my work experience and offer tips for self-improvement.

Writing has been so exciting and so humbling all at the same time. There is a definite learning curve involved, and I learn something new all the time. When I read other Medium writers, I am humbled; there are so many who are so very good at their craft. I get lost sometimes in their stories and feel their emotions and sometimes their humor. So inspiring!

I know I have so much to learn. I want to be a good writer, someone who can inspire and make you feel my emotions, and maybe even laugh as well. Writing is an adventure and one I will eagerly continue.

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Posted in Friendship, Inspiration, Joy, Life, Positive Thinking, Relationships

Quote Of The Day

“The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.”

Kp Lyrikz

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Posted in Coping, Excitement, Inspiration, Learning, Personal Development, Positive Thinking

Quote Of The Day

Challenges, struggles, failures, can all make you into a better, stronger person if you let them.”

~ Unknown author #Challenge, #Stronger, #Quote ~
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Quote Of The Day

Anything is possible when you have the right people there to support you.

~Misty Copeland #Life, # Support, #Love
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Posted in Communication, Personal Development, Potential, Self Improvement, Success

The Psychological Effect Of Appearance And Communication Skills On Each Of Us

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Are you aware of the effect you have when you walk into a room full of people?

“The time men spend in trying to impress others they could spend in doing the things by which others would be impressed.”

~ Frank Romer

When someone walks into a room, all eyes will turn, and within seconds a judgment will be made.

Sometimes it is “Wowser, look at him!” Other times you look away; not impressed.

What sparks the “Wow” response? Why does your gaze linger? Is it the clothes, or is it something else? What do you see and what do you feel?

Sometimes there is an essence, a magnetism; maybe a sexual response.

Certainly, the clothes matter and in business, you will hear the statement, “dress for success” often. There is a psychological reason for it. Your clothing affects how you act and feel. When you dress well, and you know you look good, your confidence level is higher, and you perform better. Your appearance will also have a psychological effect on others; the people you work with, your customers, and virtually anyone in the room.

The English idiom “don’t judge a book by its cover” is a metaphorical phrase that means one shouldn’t prejudge the worth or value of something by its outward appearance alone.

What we wear paints a picture, but the image we present is so much more than the clothes we wear.

When you walk into a room, you do so with intent. What is lurking inside that veneered cover? What else is important?

What happens when you have a conversation and have to answer a question? Your response and your ability to articulate can make or break you. If your appearance is a facade, you are in trouble; that essence you gave off just evaporated into thin air.

A voice can also be magnetic and can draw someone in, relax, or excite them. The words you choose are essential and can show your knowledge and intelligence, but the tone of your voice is equally important. A clear, confident voice spoken in a well-modulated tone will have a positive impact on the listener.

As soon as you are in a conversation with someone, the ability to be a good listener is imperative. No discussion is one-sided. If you want to impress someone, stop talking, ask them a question, and let them talk. Watch the body language of the other person and ask them clarifying questions. Make eye contact and perhaps lean in toward the other person indicating your interest in them and their opinion.

The way you walk into the room and the way you speak is affected by your attitude. You have probably heard the term, “fake it till you make it.” I would not recommend attempting to fake your attitude. Your attitude shines through virtually everything you do. It shows in your facial expression, your eyes, your smile, body position, and movements, to name just a few. Your attitude is transparent. You cannot fake being positive or energetic. You can try, but I would not advise it. Organizations look for people who have a passion for life and show their enthusiasm through their actions and words. You cannot fake that!

We should all be excellent at communication, but we are not. Communication is a learned skill and no one is perfect. There are many simple techniques which you can practice each day to become better.

Some of the most common mistakes and the most irritating in my opinion are people who do not look at me when I am speaking. You can see that they are not listening and are already thinking about what they are going to say. Worse yet is being interrupted, or having someone walk away, while I am still talking. Yes, people do that!

Don’t do that. Instead, look for ways to improve.

Here a few tips:

  • Spend more time listening, not talking.
  • Focus on the other person, make eye contact, move toward them, not away.
  • Ask plenty of questions and then clarify their intent.
  • Never interrupt.
  • Avoid finishing someone’s sentence.
  • When you are unsure of what the other person is saying, pause when they are done speaking. Let them know you want to clarify and then ask them a question.
  • Do not think about what you are going to reply until the other person has stopped talking.

How you dress, your non-verbal cues, and how you speak are all integral parts of how you communicate. Do them each with great care. We take our suits to the dry cleaners and we press our shirts. We should do the same with our verbal and non-verbal communication skills.

“One man is more concerned with the impression he makes on the rest of mankind, another with the impression the rest of mankind makes on him.”

~ Arthur Schopenhauer

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Quote Of The Day

People who don’t like cats were probably mice in an earlier life.”

Unknown author
For all the cat lovers #Cats, #Love, # Life
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