So something negative happened and you feel like you are a failure. It happens to everyone at some time in our life. It’s our reaction that counts!
No one is perfect. It is rare that someone tries something they have never done before with no preparation and gets it right the first time. Just does not happen.
We learn by trying something and failing.
No one wants to fail, but it is a fact of life. When we fail we open ourselves up to the opportunity of learning.
We can read about how to do something and have all the knowledge available to us, but until we attempt it ourselves we truly do not understand. Even when we feel totally prepared we may not be successful. We might fail.
Failure sucks! When we fail we are usually devastated. We want to tuck into a fetal position, cover up with a blanket and sulk. That doesn’t help but it is part of the process.
We may deny it. We may blame it on something else. Placing the blame somewhere else is counter productive. There is no benefit in doing so. We learn nothing.
Once we move past the devastation and denial we can start looking at what happened. It is necessary to poke around a bit and keep poking until you gain some understanding and acceptance.
Failure is telling you that you did something wrong. You need to analyze what you did. Break it down step by step and come to an understanding of why you failed.
Try again and keep trying. Next time you may fail again. If you give up then you are accepting failure. You really don’t want to do that.
How do we benefit from failure?
- Growth Opportunity. Use failure to be better at your craft. I failed recently and it was mind numbing. I was angry and depressed. After I went through the initial trauma I understood that I just have to keep trying. It is a challenge and I know I will learn a great deal because of it.
- Strength. We learn how strong we are. How we react to failure defines us. Do we give up? No, we fight through to success one step at a time.
- Determination. Determination is what keeps pushing you forward towards your goals. We learn something about ourselves. We become better and stronger.
- Resilience. We learn to adapt and accept change We look for other ways to make it work. You learn to understand that failure is a part of life and that we are capable of overcoming it.
- Confidence. When we fail and get up and try again we are winners, not failures. We come to realize that we can succeed with the right amount of work and effort. We become more confident in our abilities.
- Mindset. Our mindset changes. When we overcome failure it changes our perspective about everything in our life. Our mental strength will become stronger and we will believe that we can learn and grow and overcome obstacles.
- Passion. We learn what is truly important to us, what we are passionate about. Passionate enough to keep trying. Having enthusiasm for what you do changes everything.
“No human ever became interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and improve, the better you are as a person. Ever meet someone who’s always had everything work out for them with zero struggle? They usually have the depth of a puddle. Or they don’t exist.”Chris Hardwick
Failure is a part of life. It will happen over and over again but it doesn’t mean we should give up. Failure is not a life or death situation.
I actually think experiencing failure makes us stronger, better people. Like Chris Hardwick, I believe it certainly makes us more interesting human beings.
Embrace failure. Use failure for your personal growth. Tell some interesting stories and make someone laugh. Laugh at yourself. You survived.
As always, thank you for reading my blog. Have some fun today!