…We are designed to be explorers, and when we explore, our brains light up with pleasure. It is the novelty, not the outcome, that most delights our brain and activates our neuroplasticity. Our brains are never “happier” than when we are learning new things, stretching just beyond our current capacities. This is where we build new circuitry and develop mastery.
Life gives us so many opportunities, sometimes we recognize them and sometimes we just do not see them as opportunities. We may feel for some reason the opportunity is not for us. We make excuses, I’m too old, I don’t have enough knowledge, I can’t take the time, I’m not good enough. We feel we can’t take the necessary steps required to complete, or use, the opportunity
Somewhere in each of us there is passion. We may not even realize it, but it is there. Something that motivates us, something that makes us happy. As Jennifer Lopez often says, It gives me the “goosies”. Those goose bump moments when you see some one do something that wows you, or even better, when it is for something that you have done.
Think back in your life to something you have accomplished that gave you that wonderful “goosie” feeling. Number one for me was the birth of my two sons. The best feeling in the world; big goosies. On a more normal, day to day, occurrence if I think about it it still relates to my children and their accomplishments. I am proud of them and that gives me such a warm fuzzy feeling.
But what about me and what I have done. Going to college and completing my degree as a working adult while raising my sons certainly qualifies. Working hard and being promoted and recognized for my hard work. Being named the employee of the year and being a speaker, twice, at the annual meeting of the organization I worked for. Definitely “goosie” worthy.
Reconnecting with my high school sweetheart after a span of 38 years and getting married definitely qualifies. Major “goosies”.
So now here I am, retired, a “little” older. I have done a few things I really enjoyed like reviving my interest in antiques. Buying them, refurbishing them and selling them. Joining an Antique Mall and selling there. I loved it ! Loved the hunt for treasures and learning. Doing research and gaining knowledge. What era, what kind of wood, how to do minor repairs and how to refinish wood when necessary. The different kinds of products, and the best techniques. So that was a passion.
A Fitness Center opened in town and I joined right away. Zumba was the rage and it was so much fun. I developed a love of Yoga. Yes, that was a passion and I went almost everyday; quite often multiples times. Then they closed. Then I stopped. There were no other options close by and I found that part of the appeal was exercising with a group of like minded people.
Then I found myself in a slump of sorts. I had settled into a routine with my husband where each day was the same. We both sell on EBay, he more than myself, so each weekday we drove into town to the Post Office. We had a schedule for shopping. My live was pretty monotonous.
There were things I thought about doing, things I want to do, but there were always reasons or excuses not to do them. I would visualize how I might do them, when that might happen, but I was holding back.
So I needed a “Spark”. I knew it and I was just sort of fantasizing about it and then doing nothing. So what happened ? This blog.
My sons inspired me. I knew little about Social Media in any form and really had not been very interested in learning. Then I saw both of them interacting and doing different things that were so interesting, so inspiring. It intrigued me more and more. Could I do something too ?. There was my spark.
I did a great deal of thinking about just what exactly I would do. Could I take some of my hobbies like gardening or quilting, refinishing antiques and do You Tube videos ? That was interesting but required a different set of skills which I did not have, some expense, and it did not have the same appeal.
So I turned to writing. I had some experience although somewhat limited. I had taken a writing course in college and really enjoyed it and done well and also written my speeches and presentations for work. So here I am. I found a new spark to carry me forward in my life. A way to express myself, to push me forward and accomplish more and more. To give me a sense of not letting life pass me by.
So how do you find your spark ?
What are you dreaming about ? I think everyone dreams about wanting to do something. Do not let those dreams fade; I think we need to dream. Think about what you would do if you could do anything you wanted to do and then visualize how you can do just that. Take baby steps and then bigger steps. As my granddaughter told me once when she was little and I said I did not think I could do something. She looked at me with her big brown eyes and said “You Can Do It Grandma, You Can Do It”.
It does not matter what your age is, young or old, do not give up. Do not settle for less than you deserve. I think we sell ourselves short. We limit ourselves. Everyone needs to stop doing that. We all deserve to move forward in our lives. We should not let someone else limit us and we certainly should not limit ourselves.
Is it risky? Maybe, I suppose you could look at it that way. But why ? If it is just your time then what would you be giving up. What are you doing now and is it something you could spend less time doing ?. Do you really want or need to keep doing those things.
Your life will change sure, but is that a bad thing ? Will it make you happy, will you life be fuller and richer emotionally. Will you feel better about your self , will your confidence increase ? If you can say yes to any of those then I think it is a risk worth taking.
You Can Do It ! Take The Risk !
As always, Thank You for reading my blog. Have a Wonderful Day !