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Kintsugi – The Beauty of Flaws

In Japan, Broken Objects are Often Repaired With Gold. The Flaw is Seen As A Unique Piece of the Object’s History, which Adds To its Beauty.  This is called Kintsugi, or golden joinery, also known as Kintsukuroi, or golden repair. It is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum, a method similar to the maki-e technique.  As a philosophy, it treats breakage and repair as part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise.

Consider this when you feel Broken.  Sometimes we may feel broken; especially in spirit and it will affect everything we do.  Everyone is flawed in some way; no one is perfect. So like the Japanese and the art of Kintsugi see your flaws as a unique piece of your personal history and something that adds to your beauty.

How do we accomplish that ? It will be different for each of us and it may not be easy or quick. It will certainly depend on the flaw; is it big or little ?  For most people, I think it will be a slow process and probably it is better that way.  Live in your blemish, or flaw, and feel it, feel how it affects you. Understand it as much as you can and accept it and then let it go. Be done with it and move on.  Patch, or fix, yourself and add to your beauty.  Use it, be stronger and feel confident in you abilities.  Dust yourself with the glitter of gold; shimmer.

Visualize how you feel and accept that something bad has happened in your life.  It could be something that happened a long time ago and was very negative or it could be something smaller that happens on a continual basis, maybe every day.  Big or small, if we choose to let it affect us it will not go away by itself.  It will stay and fester.  It may be better at times based on what else we may be doing that makes us feel better, but it is still there affecting us. 

Write it down.  Get out paper and write about it. Start slow and let it flow. Put it down and walk away and then come back the next day. Feel it and let it ooze.  You may be surprised what comes out. 

When you have a better understanding of what is truly affecting you then think about what you can do to change.  Accept that it happened and then kick it out.  Be positive and accept that it happened and also accept that you learned from it and you are a better person for it; a stronger person.

Forgive yourself and also forgive anyone who was a part of the flaw.  Everyone is human and therefore not perfect.  Have an open discussion with those who are affecting you in a negative way. They may not be aware of how you feel and it may have been a negative experience for them too. They may surprise you and will be very willing, and thankful, to make changes in their life; that’s a win-win for you both. If they are not willing to change and are a continual negative in your life, kick them out too.

Decide to be positive and look for positive things to do.  Read a book, do meditation, take a walk.  Relax. Take a class and learn about something that has always interested you.  Move. Get a new job or work toward a promotion or a transfer to a different area of your company that has always interested you.  Smile.  Say Hi. Volunteer. Be Positive and Do Positive Things.

Move Forward. You are flawed, your are repaired and you are beautiful.  Just like a beautiful repaired piece of Japanese porcelain.